Every now and then depression hits me. And by visiting a few therapists in the past, I think it?s fair to assume that I can attribute this to a mild form of bi-polar.
With that, I sometimes end up on the almight interwebs? or googles and end up searching for ?tips to overcome depression? and if I could get something from there.
The problem actually with all this information is perspective. The perspective that all information is written by (and presumably for) people that have a ?normal? life and just have a slight case of perpetual ?Mondays?.
If I look at all these tips, I can scratch away most ideas since they don?t work for me (I either tried, or there?s a serious lack of resources for whatever reason) and that leaves me with an empty list. And I?m back to square one. Just add in that you?re already depressed and it adds a dash of hopelessness and you?ve got a recipe for disaster.
Over time, as someone on the spectrum, I?ve learned that none of us are the same. I don?t want to discredit any neurotypical people, but the amount of diversity combined with coping tactics and personal issues makes each and every one on the spectrum unique enough to not warrant a standard method.
Along tips to get over depression a thing I read a lot was
- ?Get out. Do stuff with your friends. Go places!?. I think it?s safe to say that a few people on this forum (and on the spectrum in general) see a big problem here. ?what friends?? and ?where do I go??, especially since for some there?s some social anxiety along the way. And for some weird reason we don?t have a lot of real life friends. For me personally; if I don?t feel like being around people, it?s better for their safety to stay clear. Yes, this might require therapy to be less ?antisocial? not to say be less on edge and maybe violent, but I can control it perfectly by not mixing in with everyone. Besides, and this is the big problem I?ve talked about with therapists; most therapies work for neurotypical people pretty effective. Therapy with someone who has a totally different neurological wiring and therefore a different understanding of the world is a totally different game.
- Another thing a therapist once told me ?go cycling?, to where I told him? I think I?m better off staying depressed and trying really hard to steer away from doing really stupid things than I am dying in a traffic accident. The good sir didn?t really take in consideration sensory issues and some generic dyspraxia to be part of traffic.
- I?ve heard therapists tell me ?having a job would be good for you?? of course it would. I?m fine with the concept of labor and earning cash. It?s the entire social part for one that?s a problem. I?m quite sure the tasks required for the job are the least of my worries on a job. It?s maintaining structure in my personal life and dealing with ?office politics? that are bigger issues. Besides; I don?t want to be my co-worker when I?m having an overly down mood, since people could get hurt. In my life with the odd jobs here and there I?ve encountered many co-worker that was outright rude and deserved a smack in the face with a sledgehammer. And probably a clobbering with said item afterwards. Simply put; having a job as an aspie would work for me if everything was according to rules and a certain blueprint. The moment there?s leeway for behavior, office politics and the entire stretch it confuses the F out of me. It?s a job, not a social gathering.
- There?s also ?talking? in terms of trying to overcome it. It?s all about getting some understanding from some people within your social group (family, significant other) or in a last resort even a therapist. Up until now I don?t feel talking helped a lot. I prefer to think in solutions anyway. But besides that; I don?t know if talking helps me a lot. I always feel I have to choose my words really careful not to come across as a raving madman towards family and I don?t want to give a therapist something that could possibly make him report me to the authorities. But perhaps that?s the problem though. Maybe I?m partially depressed because I can?t speak my mind freely. If so, that?s a problem? and a big one to boot.
- The big one I read a lot is ?do things you like?. Yes of course! I would like to do things I like? if they weren?t cost prohibitive, get me stressed out over my finances and back into depression. Also; I know I can get OCD-like with my interests. I?ll lock myself up and go at it for a few days without seeing the light of day. That?s when I feel best? period. In general, society isn?t too happy if you lock yourself up like that. There?s obligations, there?s jobs, education and you might need groceries during set times. So ?do things you like? my ass. I can?t enjoy things for 10 minutes, it involves zoning out for hours upon hours, trial and error and last but not least the random stroke of genius after being sleep deprived.
There?s a lot more things I read online, but none of them cover for instance autism and depression. Most are totally against the grain of autism (or any other disorder) and deal with ?just? depression.
Luckily there is a place like this forum where people on the spectrum can share ideas and ways to overcome it all. Those might help most of us a lot more than any of those articles google points me to.
Note; I?ve touched on violence a bit in this blog. I?m not an overly violent person that wants to beat up everyone. I prefer not to. I haven?t gotten into a lot of fights in the past few years. But I will fight if I?m provoked. Yet, my understanding of provocation might differ. I?m patient for a whole lot.
Just thought I?d clear that out before everyone thinks I?m an overly violent maniac.
With that, I sometimes end up on the almight interwebs? or googles and end up searching for ?tips to overcome depression? and if I could get something from there.
The problem actually with all this information is perspective. The perspective that all information is written by (and presumably for) people that have a ?normal? life and just have a slight case of perpetual ?Mondays?.
If I look at all these tips, I can scratch away most ideas since they don?t work for me (I either tried, or there?s a serious lack of resources for whatever reason) and that leaves me with an empty list. And I?m back to square one. Just add in that you?re already depressed and it adds a dash of hopelessness and you?ve got a recipe for disaster.
Over time, as someone on the spectrum, I?ve learned that none of us are the same. I don?t want to discredit any neurotypical people, but the amount of diversity combined with coping tactics and personal issues makes each and every one on the spectrum unique enough to not warrant a standard method.
Along tips to get over depression a thing I read a lot was
- ?Get out. Do stuff with your friends. Go places!?. I think it?s safe to say that a few people on this forum (and on the spectrum in general) see a big problem here. ?what friends?? and ?where do I go??, especially since for some there?s some social anxiety along the way. And for some weird reason we don?t have a lot of real life friends. For me personally; if I don?t feel like being around people, it?s better for their safety to stay clear. Yes, this might require therapy to be less ?antisocial? not to say be less on edge and maybe violent, but I can control it perfectly by not mixing in with everyone. Besides, and this is the big problem I?ve talked about with therapists; most therapies work for neurotypical people pretty effective. Therapy with someone who has a totally different neurological wiring and therefore a different understanding of the world is a totally different game.
- Another thing a therapist once told me ?go cycling?, to where I told him? I think I?m better off staying depressed and trying really hard to steer away from doing really stupid things than I am dying in a traffic accident. The good sir didn?t really take in consideration sensory issues and some generic dyspraxia to be part of traffic.
- I?ve heard therapists tell me ?having a job would be good for you?? of course it would. I?m fine with the concept of labor and earning cash. It?s the entire social part for one that?s a problem. I?m quite sure the tasks required for the job are the least of my worries on a job. It?s maintaining structure in my personal life and dealing with ?office politics? that are bigger issues. Besides; I don?t want to be my co-worker when I?m having an overly down mood, since people could get hurt. In my life with the odd jobs here and there I?ve encountered many co-worker that was outright rude and deserved a smack in the face with a sledgehammer. And probably a clobbering with said item afterwards. Simply put; having a job as an aspie would work for me if everything was according to rules and a certain blueprint. The moment there?s leeway for behavior, office politics and the entire stretch it confuses the F out of me. It?s a job, not a social gathering.
- There?s also ?talking? in terms of trying to overcome it. It?s all about getting some understanding from some people within your social group (family, significant other) or in a last resort even a therapist. Up until now I don?t feel talking helped a lot. I prefer to think in solutions anyway. But besides that; I don?t know if talking helps me a lot. I always feel I have to choose my words really careful not to come across as a raving madman towards family and I don?t want to give a therapist something that could possibly make him report me to the authorities. But perhaps that?s the problem though. Maybe I?m partially depressed because I can?t speak my mind freely. If so, that?s a problem? and a big one to boot.
- The big one I read a lot is ?do things you like?. Yes of course! I would like to do things I like? if they weren?t cost prohibitive, get me stressed out over my finances and back into depression. Also; I know I can get OCD-like with my interests. I?ll lock myself up and go at it for a few days without seeing the light of day. That?s when I feel best? period. In general, society isn?t too happy if you lock yourself up like that. There?s obligations, there?s jobs, education and you might need groceries during set times. So ?do things you like? my ass. I can?t enjoy things for 10 minutes, it involves zoning out for hours upon hours, trial and error and last but not least the random stroke of genius after being sleep deprived.
There?s a lot more things I read online, but none of them cover for instance autism and depression. Most are totally against the grain of autism (or any other disorder) and deal with ?just? depression.
Luckily there is a place like this forum where people on the spectrum can share ideas and ways to overcome it all. Those might help most of us a lot more than any of those articles google points me to.
Note; I?ve touched on violence a bit in this blog. I?m not an overly violent person that wants to beat up everyone. I prefer not to. I haven?t gotten into a lot of fights in the past few years. But I will fight if I?m provoked. Yet, my understanding of provocation might differ. I?m patient for a whole lot.
Just thought I?d clear that out before everyone thinks I?m an overly violent maniac.
