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I am curious about this aspect of family dynamics, where a person with Asperger's is a brother or sister of an NT. For my part, I have a younger brother who is very successful as a husband, father, career professional and provider. He is very proficient with home improvement, financial management, and social situations, in fact, he and his wife are practically friends with their whole neighborhood. By contrast, my wife and I don't even know the names of our neighbors, have virtually no visitors or friends, not great with money, and I am definitely a lousy homeowner. I work two low end jobs just to survive (wife works too), and rely heavily on my in-laws for child care. Oh, and my sister-in-law gets to be a stay at home mom too.
I have to admit that I fight bloody battles with jealousy! Does anyone else have this problem?
I'm curious. Is it common for female aspies to be creative? To enjoy cooking, sewing, arts & crafts? Decorating? Doing hair and nails? Painting, or anything creative?
I don't seem to have any interest in any of it. I don't have a lot in common with stereotypical females. But I'm not a tomboy either. I don't like camping, bugs, dirt. I am not good with a tool belt. I don't like sports, online computer games. I don't have any typical male interests.
I do identify as a heterosexual female. I don't really have any hobbies. I enjoy reading, movies and LOVE researching stuff.
Am I an odd ball even in the aspie community? Are there any other aspie females who lack interests and hobbies?
READ IT ALL, ITS INTERESTING AND YOU KNOW YOU DO;
Do you feel lonelier or left out because of things you see in the media, fiction or witness in real life?
So for people in the UK it’d perhaps be soap-operas (also known as serial dramas) where you have a group of fictional friends (who are for the time of filming probably kinda friends in real life too) on TV that you feel you almost know and could be part of the group with even though in reality (and your knowledge of aspergers and your own social limitations and other peoples lack of affection etc towards you) you know that they’d be no different to all the other non celebs you’ve wanted to but failed to become friends with.
Or maybe it’s the girls in the group you find ‘hot’, but you know that they’d never turn to you when their fictional partner has cheated on them or they’re in some other spot of bother (much as you fantasize or could perhaps genuinely be of comfort or the new lover that they turn to) not that you could see...
I get told quite often that I come across quite formal in email's, letter's, texts, etc.
I have an idea of what I want to say but as soon as I start to type it tends to end up that way. I'm not sure if it's due to me having an image of it having a start, middle and an end every time.
For example, if someone that I'm working with from a different department emails me a document that I need, I couldn't just email back "Thanks, S", even the word "Thanks" gets to me. I would respond with a full thank you.
I also seem to start every email with "Hi X, Hope you are well." I don't know where it comes from I do it all the time even though I could have spoken to them five seconds before or know that they are dying of man flu. And I also end with "Kind regards...".
Back to the subject at hand, does anyone have any ideas of how I can soften up my emails?
I am happy and grateful to be working but it seems like management treats me like a red-headed step child. I don't necessarily mind it because I know that I am intelligent and capable but I think they see my "autismness" and they don't see me. While part of me would like more respect, the other side of me believes it really doesn't matter. I'm employed to do a job, not make friends.
Everything is spelled out for me a little too clearly, if you catch my drift. I cope with this by not hanging around the office. When I come to work, I get my vehicle and I leave. The less time I have to mull over office politics, the happier that I am.
Underneath all of the facades and masks and performances we do for the sake of getting along in an NT world, what is your true, inner self like? Who are you, really? And are there any situations where you're able to bring that authentic self to the surface for others to see?
Hi, been a while since I posted but I really need an the advice of some non NT's. Ok I have been with my ASD partner for almost two years. It has definitely been a learning curve and there has been hard times but I love him dearly. At the moment it feels like my heart is breaking and I'm not sure I have any tears left to cry! We usually see each other a couple of times a week but I haven't seen him for almost two weeks now. Basically he has had a family crisis, and it is a big one and I know he has a lot on his mind. He has cancelled the last three times we were meant to meet because of this. We still talk daily via text ( he finds talking on the phone difficult) but I'm struggling. My NT brain says if he loved me he would want to see me and I'm frightened he is backing off. I have asked and he says there isn't a problem with us. At times like this I can't think like he does and it's hard. Do you think it's a problem or should I stop worrying and just let him sort his head out?...
Hello, my husband and I have been married for 5 1/2 years and we both have Aspergers. We've had an on going issue from the beginning where I will bring up something that needs to be discussed, and he will become overwhelmed and shut down. Typically, he will go completely mute. If I revisit the subject at a later time, the same thing will happen. If I attempt to talk to him about it in writing, he is still unresponsive. If at any point I am able to succeed in getting him to respond, he will more or less simply repeat whatever I have said and place the terms "I know" or "I'm sorry" in front of my own words. So, for example, if I'm trying to discuss how I want him to be more involved in our finances, and he eventually responds to me, his response will be something along the lines of "I know I should be more involved in the finances" or "I'm sorry that I'm not more involved in the finances". It's like talking to a wall, and then if I'm lucky, it's like talking to a parrot. The issue is...
I got some fantastic news. I finally have a regular schedule at work now. My boss told me that I could have the corporate shuttle that I really like which runs from Monday through Friday. Wahoo! Two drivers quit, I moved up the seniority list and now I have a route of my own. This means I can quit my other job and establish a routine in my life. As I become an older Aspie, I'm finding comfort in routine and I'm not as adaptable to change.
Does anyone else have a high tolerance for physical pain? I dislocated my rib on Tuesday (or almost did, it was sticking out anyway), and while it was uncomfortable and sore, I don't know that I really understood how bad it was. Well, I say bad, it's not an emergency, but my doctor prescribed me some pretty strong painkillers and wants me to get x-rays :/
I seem to underestimate the severity of injuries etc all the time, and I *think* it's because I just don't feel it as intensely.
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