TheNomadicAspie
Active Member
I see so many people here speaking negatively about themselves. Being depressed and acting as though Asperger's is a curse. Yet the main reason I see for people feeling this way isn't because they are in physical pain, or because something horrible has happened in their life, but because they are unable to fit in.
I look at being neurotypical or neurodiverse the same way as I look at being a man or woman, American or Australian, black or white. There's nothing wrong with being different, and just as a French person can never be Japanese, a neurodiverse person can never be neurotypical.
That's ok. There is a huge pressure within society to "fit in" with other people. You likely were conditioned throughout life to make it a goal to be like other people, but there's no reason to feel that way. Being different is ok. I know that it's stressful for someone who is anti-social to attract attention by standing out, but the only obstacle in the way of happiness is changing that attitude and caring less about what people think.
It's easier said than done, but as a neurodiverse person you have the logical mindset needed to do just that. Stop trying to be someone else and embrace who you are. It's ok to be stressed, and it's ok to be sad sometimes. That said, if you stop comparing yourself to others and focus on finding what would make you happy, life will get so much better.
If you don't know what would make you happy, that's ok too. Some people discover their passions at a young age, but those priorities tend to change for everyone. The longer it takes you to realize what your priorities are, the more confident you can be that you're on the right path.
Enjoy life for what it is. I've met plenty of people, and they're not any better than you. Once you change your mindset, good things will happen. Not because of any pseudo-scientific "The Secret" nonsense but because when you focus on improving your life instead of feeling bad about what makes you different, you'll figure out for yourself what you really need.
I look at being neurotypical or neurodiverse the same way as I look at being a man or woman, American or Australian, black or white. There's nothing wrong with being different, and just as a French person can never be Japanese, a neurodiverse person can never be neurotypical.
That's ok. There is a huge pressure within society to "fit in" with other people. You likely were conditioned throughout life to make it a goal to be like other people, but there's no reason to feel that way. Being different is ok. I know that it's stressful for someone who is anti-social to attract attention by standing out, but the only obstacle in the way of happiness is changing that attitude and caring less about what people think.
It's easier said than done, but as a neurodiverse person you have the logical mindset needed to do just that. Stop trying to be someone else and embrace who you are. It's ok to be stressed, and it's ok to be sad sometimes. That said, if you stop comparing yourself to others and focus on finding what would make you happy, life will get so much better.
If you don't know what would make you happy, that's ok too. Some people discover their passions at a young age, but those priorities tend to change for everyone. The longer it takes you to realize what your priorities are, the more confident you can be that you're on the right path.
Enjoy life for what it is. I've met plenty of people, and they're not any better than you. Once you change your mindset, good things will happen. Not because of any pseudo-scientific "The Secret" nonsense but because when you focus on improving your life instead of feeling bad about what makes you different, you'll figure out for yourself what you really need.