Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

[Jonn]

I enjoy travel (in fact, I'm toward the end of a long day of travel right now)

I see where travel would be problematic/difficult for some autists though.

Autism is a spectrum.

On the flipside, some autists can easily do certain stuff I have a hard time with.

As my counselor likes to put it "If you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism"

Spoiler: Joke

I like to put doggy doo in the letterboxes of ppl who say that.

One day, I might introduce him to the concept of autistic characteristic bell curves.

 

[Crossbreed]

I believe (from an indirect source) that women can gain information about men's immune systems via their sense of smell, but that men can't do the same thing.

Since getting married, my wife & I have each experienced an overwhelming romantic attraction to complete strangers.

In my case, she was

1. standing next to her husband,
2. not dressed provocatively nor standing so
3. nor coming onto me (as far as I could tell).

For my wife, she could not even clearly see what he looked like because of her eyesight...!

Neither of us were seeking out an illicit affair, and the feeling went away once we removed ourselves from their presence. We both concluded that it was pheromones. (It is quite heady when everybody involved is eligible, but quite awkward otherwise). My wife & I do not fault each other for feeling that way. We just excuse ourselves before any trouble develops.

Some say that men do not experience this, but my autistic hyper/hypo-sensitivity has given me hyperosmia that is comparable to a pregnant woman!

 

[Jonn]

Ladies, gentlemen, and the gender diverse,

Regarding the above post.
We have now officially entered the Twilight Zone.

 

[Jonn]

Since getting married, my wife & I have each experienced an overwhelming romantic attraction to complete strangers.

I have experienced something like that, but nothing to the extent of the guy who was closer and behind the women.
Yes, she was stunning, but my focus was on the man behind her who was totally, entirely, absolutely mesmerised by her.

No, it wasn't her partner.
He was walking alongside her.
It was a sight to see.

I have another explanation, but I hesitate to share it based on the reactions from people in the past.

 

[Crossbreed]

I think that plenty of women are hot,* but most do not induce that "heady" effect.
And just on looks alone, I would have rated the previous woman about a 7 or 8 out of 10, so her visual appeal was not overwhelming (to me).

*My wife & I grant each other the right to acknowledge others' appeal, short of actually pursuing them. We will even debate said appeal.

 

[Jonn]

I think that plenty of women are hot,* but most do not induce that "heady" effect.

Agreed.

And just on looks alone, I would have rated the previous woman about a 7 or 8 out of 10, so her visual appeal was not overwhelming (to me).

*My wife & I grant each other the right to acknowledge others' appeal, short of pursuing them. We will even debate said appeal.

I like your wife.
Does she have a sister I could meet?

 

[Crossbreed]

Does she have a sister I could meet?

Nope, she's married...

 

[Tired]

My wife & I grant each other the right to acknowledge others' appeal, short of actually pursuing them. We will even debate said appeal.

I mean that would be strange if you weren't allowed to acknowledge that, relationship isn't a prison where we must stare at just our SO

 

[Crossbreed]

I mean that would be strange if you weren't allowed to acknowledge that, relationship isn't a prison where we must stare at just our SO

Some women are insecure about that and interpret it to mean that their husbands are unfaithful. When I was first courting her, my now-wife was jealous when I noticed one of her neighbor girls. I guess she just learned to trust me in that arena. I even recognize many of my relatives as being pretty, but I have no inappropriate intentions toward them.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Ladies, gentlemen, and the gender diverse,

Regarding the above post.
We have now officially entered the Twilight Zone.

Since getting married, my wife & I have each experienced an overwhelming romantic attraction to complete strangers.

In my case, she was

1. standing next to her husband,
2. not dressed provocatively nor standing so
3. nor coming onto me (as far as I could tell).

For my wife, she could not even clearly see what he looked like because of her eyesight...!

Neither of us were seeking out an illicit affair, and the feeling went away once we removed ourselves from their presence. We both concluded that it was pheromones. (It is quite heady when everybody involved is eligible, but quite awkward otherwise). My wife & I do not fault each other for feeling that way. We just excuse ourselves before any trouble develops.

Some say that men do not experience this, but my autistic hyper/hypo-sensitivity has given me hyperosmia that is comparable to a pregnant woman!

I think you are correct, When in bed I notice my head gives off pheromones, smells like flowers recognize the smell called Esters in chemistry my wife retired 5 years before I did before I went to work I noticed she would sleep with her head on my pillow, I do think your right you could pick up her pheromones as many of us have great sense of smell. I have always my pheromones smell combined with my looks has made me more attractive to some women. It even overpowers me some mornings so pleasant so strong. Like too much perfume.

 

[Crossbreed]

My oldest daughter's scalp smells "flowery."

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Mine smells like someone spilled perfume on my pillow very pleasant, strong how ever, cannot believe it's considered fake hangs around for hours. May be should get my pillow tested through a GLC unit determine which ester my body produces, sell as perfume.

 

[paloftoon]

Maybe some men go gay or bi because of what is said in the video. Or consider benefits only. Because sexual urges in some don't just "go away" lol.

 

[Mary Terry]

Does pornography play a role in men's isolation? I think it does.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

The ladies are isolated too standards to high biological clock as the millennials reach forty See this first hand Older son joined dating site years ago swamped by women, younger son had to use out of the box thinking to land a partner, Now his partner is worried about her bio clock for second child, he not concerned. Watching it play out.

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

the more i hear about dating/relationships, the more it fills me with anger and rage that i was born male, gosh, why did nature make me male?

 

[thejuice]

Since getting married, my wife & I have each experienced an overwhelming romantic attraction to complete strangers.

In my case, she was

1. standing next to her husband,
2. not dressed provocatively nor standing so
3. nor coming onto me (as far as I could tell).

For my wife, she could not even clearly see what he looked like because of her eyesight...!

Neither of us were seeking out an illicit affair, and the feeling went away once we removed ourselves from their presence. We both concluded that it was pheromones. (It is quite heady when everybody involved is eligible, but quite awkward otherwise). My wife & I do not fault each other for feeling that way. We just excuse ourselves before any trouble develops.

Some say that men do not experience this, but my autistic hyper/hypo-sensitivity has given me hyperosmia that is comparable to a pregnant woman!

I have heard of YouTubers being sponsored by 'tactical soap'* which contains pheromones. It's meant to make you smell like an alpha giga chad, that makes women overcome with desire and awe. I don't think there is any evidence it works, otherwise it's creators would be Bezos level wealthy!

* I do enjoy the implication that attracting a woman is a special military operation...

 

[Crossbreed]

I have heard of YouTubers being sponsored by 'tactical soap' which contains pheromones, that's meant to make you smell like an alpha giga chad, that makes women overcome with desire and awe. I don't think there is any evidence it works, otherwise it's creators would be Bezos level wealthy!

Pheromones are highly individualized. Everybody's natural pheromones appeal to a different fan base (and repulse yet another). And if one is otherwise healthy, there are no "bad" pheromones. (I do not know if they are adversely affected by serious health issues, though.)

At best, such a product would function as a mask (of somebody else), if it works at all. That is not sustainable in a long-term relationship.

1. Restated, even if "alpha giga chads" existed, they would not share a common pheromonal makeup.
2. Just because a relationship is pheromonally favorable, it does not mean that relationship is stable on other necessary fronts. It is worse when you have to break up with such. It is very addicting!*

*That addiction is a good thing, if you do not have to break up.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

I can smell my own pheromones pretty strong in morning's some days Is my sense of smell different, who knows. Maybe I'm an anomaly.

 

[Captain Caveman]

Does pornography play a role in men's isolation? I think it does.

It is modern feminism that has caused the issue to be honest though it is a knock on effect.
Pornography is not the element that causes isolation, but rather is the result of the long tern isolation. Pornography is the tool used by men to avoid any genuine interaction with a woman. A man who looks at pornography has already given up hope in ever getting a date. It is why he goes down that route.