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Anyway, maybe it is the low self esteem that I feel like everyone is better, but do you guys see others as so much better? I have a hard time seeing fault in others and I don't apply as many rules to them as I do myself and much easier on everyone else than I am myself.
give verbal answers and participate in discussions
jumped at every opportunity to perform a task
raise my hand or call out that I wanted to volunteer
You seem to be comparing yourself to neurotypical, and even extroverted, standards for how people should demonstrate how much they know or how good they are at being students. Why should they get to determine how we measure excellence?Other students met in groups to study together and quiz each other
Then you were actually the one doing it correctly, not them. Patients don't want to listen to nurses babbling technical terms that they can't understand, they want to understand what's wrong with them and what you're going to do about it.I would hear them using all the technical terms when talking to patients and family members and I didn't
And there's the answer to your question. Most people at church try to look like they're always good Christians. Most nurses try to look like they're always good nurses. Many people go through their lives wearing a mask of perfection because they're afraid that if they show their flaws, everyone will judge them horribly for it. Sometimes they're right about that, so it's an effective way to protect themselves. Sometimes they're wrong about it, and they miss out on getting help or making a good friend who would understand them. Some of them even hide their flaws from themselves, so they think they really are perfect. Those are the people who are really in trouble because they don't know they have problems until the problems grow out of control. If you know you have problems, you're already doing much better than those people. You've even found a community (this one) where people openly share their problems to get advice and form connections, which is more than a lot of people do. I think being on the autism spectrum makes us look more closely at ourselves than NTs usually do because we can't just assume that doing things the same way as everyone else will get us the same results. NTs can seem to be better than us because they are living in a world that was made for them and that measures success based on the things they are good at. We have to learn to set our own standards. Maybe in doing so we will even be able to teach the rest of the world something new.you only see what they want you to see
that other people write better posts, are more articulate, intelligent, give better advice and are more helpful, understand better what the person means.
Wait. Maybe it's that I feel like everyone is just better at being a person than I am and I've just been a misfit who doesn't know how to live in this world like everyone else. I keep trying, but everyone else seems so much better at it in every aspect.
There is nothing wrong with being an accomplished amateur [< "practiced out of love"]. I still enjoy drawing, while acknowledging my limitations.A few years later when internet came along, I learned that what I did was barely a drop in the bucket compared to the assembly programming that others out there had done with the device. Thanks to the internet, it doesn't matter what I do, there's always someone who has done it previously, and done it better.