freewaydog
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NT's definitely have LESS emotions, I feel,....
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1. That god awful, sh** eating smile they NEVER TAKE OFF
2. Nothing. Not even an upraised eye brow.
I've always loved this video. The amount of times I get asked "what's wrong?" or get told that I should cheer up is ridiculous. IT'S JUST MY FACE.
I'm a pharmacist.... I have learned to recognize that fake smile from drug seekers. They pretend to be your best friend. Eesh, they're creepy.One rule that I've always followed that applies to what you are saying is "never trust someone who is always smiling." No one can be happy all of the time. Those people always have a god awful strained grin that looks more like cringing than smiling. My dad calls the expression "The Joker Smile".
I think it's that they learn from early on that showing emotion makes you vulnerable.It bothers me when NTs say we do not show emotion. I have been watching NT faces a lot lately since I have been rendered deaf by having to use such massive hearing protection and music on top of it to survive the gym.
I notice THEY are the ones who use about two expressions.
1. That god awful, sh** eating smile they NEVER TAKE OFF
2. Nothing. Not even an upraised eye brow.
How can they say we have no emotion??? The auties and Aspies I know at a group I go to have MANY emotions, very slight indeed, but there. A tiny smile may show or a twinkle of the eye or a movement of the lips.
None of this is on NT faces.
I am thinking what they say about us is WRONG. It is not us who cannot read emotions. They think we have none because THEY are the ones who cannot read these slight and subtle and beautiful emotions we emit.
I see it all the time. NTs are flat, boring and do NOT show anymore than two or three emotions. Over and over I see this. Of course they think we show none because they are blind to us in every way.
You see if I am right. Go to where there are auties and Aspies and watch how tiny little movements show you clues. Now go to NTs if you can stand it and see......nothing. Dead.
No wonder why want to kill us. We are alive, beautiful, breathing mystery every minute and they are already half dead, predictable, and putting their narrow existence on US.
I don't have the negative experiences some of you seem to have with neurotypical people. I find it impossible to make generalizations about them because they're the majority of mankind and vastly differ interpersonally. There's so many different personalities out there, whether NT or ASD.
I know stony-faced people, I know people who wear their heart on their sleeves and/or faces. Both on and off the spectrum. Absolutely scumbags and wonderful people, on and off the spectrum as well. I know more terrible NT people, for sure, but that's simply because there's more of them.
I'm one of those people with a semi-permanent smile. It's because I have a cheerful disposition, but also because I tend to see the humour in many situations and because humour is my #1 defense mechanism. Even when I'm crying I'll find some way to joke about it.
And I smile because I'm friendly and I've learned that people are more likely to have a friendly disposition towards me if I smile.
I think that is their social mask.
It's called the Duchenne Smile. A smile that reaches the eyes which truly reflects an inner experience of joy, mirth, enjoyment. There exist a many psychological studies describing this smile versus the fake 'only mouth' version described above.I guess I should not be trusted them. Actually what you have to look out for is if the smile reaches the eyes or not. A false smile never reaches the eyes, but a real smile does and causes the eyes to sparkle.
That's for sure, it's like if I don't feel emotions and empathy(so strongly I can't process it well) then why have I always been told " your just being over sensative"" my whole life.Not all autistics suffer from alexithymia.
People with Autism Can Read Emotions, Feel Empathy
Users here should read this article, as we all suffer from this unfair stereotype.
I have often been accused of "thinking too much" by NT friends and even family members. Funerals are one event that truly differentiates me from NTs. In order to get through a funeral, especially of a relative or close friend, I have to put on my "seriously sad" mask and utter statements that are meaningless to me. Yet, even while I am spouting them, my conscious mind is busy reconciling how I really felt about the deceased. I cannot miss something that was only an illusion on my part. But I will hold close forever every kind word and pleasant experience I've had with the deceased. So I cannot say that I will "miss them" because their spirit has not left me.When no one has been challenged, then they do not have to think about it, but we aspies are always challenged and thus, we have to think about it.