What would cause you to instantly "like" a person?

[TBRS1]

Sometimes a person will do or say something that produces an instant "like".

For me, this will do it:

My living room has wall to wall, floor to ceiling bookshelves filled with actual books.

Most folk who enter the room never look at what books are there, treating it all as if it were wallpaper.

Very rarely a person who has not been in my home before will start perusing the titles or subjects of all those books.

When this happens, I instantly like that person.

Is there something that works like that for you?

 

[Aspychata]

This one guy l use to know has a very sexy voice. He can say the simplest things, and l am seriously listening. Same with another past relationship also.

 

[Raggamuffin]

My gut.

It'll create an instant liking or dislike for a person.

Ed

 

[Judge]

For that to happen *instantly* ? That's easy. I can't explain it at all.

That in very rare instances, it just happens. Osmosis ? Beats me.

 

[AprilR]

I don't know, maybe someone who is also interested in fictional worlds and not the real one.

There was such a person in my Japanese class, sadly she quit the classes..

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Interest in reading certainly indicates the possibility of a “click.”

My Swiss canoeing partner I liked almost instantly because we laughed at the same things, and my sense of humor is really weird.

 

[AprilR]

^Similar sense of humor is always a plus too! I like people with a goofy sense of humor

 

[Outdated]

For me to like someone it's always an instant attraction, the same with sexual attraction. All decisions are made within about the first 30 seconds. It's the same with people I dislike, I've usually made that decision within the first few seconds of them speaking.

There's lots of people I don't make a decision about one way or another and although I'm happy to socialise with them they never become a part of my life. There's been a few people that I was wrong about over the years but nothing ever overcomes that initial first impression. I like you or I don't, that's all there is to it.

 

[Shevek]

I let my bicycle get rusty to discourage thieves, but if people ask, I reply that it is to make it lighter. One guy countered with "Iron oxide is lighter than iron?"
Liking him now, I replied "I've been telling that joke for ten years, and you are the first one to get it."

 

[Atrapa Almas]

My liking and disliking have become more flexible over years. I would say that I like good people. Those who get out of their track to help a stranger expecting not even a thank you.

My first impressions tend to fail, so I let time do its work .

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Personally, it's a RARE combination of (1) high intelligence combined with humility, (2) someone who is truth seeking and can accept that they might me wrong, without strong cognitive biases, who understands nuance and balanced analysis, (3) someone who has a calm, but assertive demeanor, an air of self-confidence without coming off as arrogant, (4) someone who can express emotions, but does not allow emotions to overcome their logic and reasoning, and (5) someone who has a sense of what is socially acceptable, but not one to seek out validation.

Given all of that, it may take me a while to assess all of that before deciding if I "like" someone. I have a very methodical, analytical mind. Most people I interact with I am not quick to make judgements of. My autistic "mind blindness" needs time to assess. This is a double-edged sword. There are situations in life when a rapid assessment is needed, and I am not good at that, which could potentially delay a response that might prevent me from harm. On the other hand, with most people, I will give people the time to show their true colors.

 

[Masked Man]

For me, it's usually something about that person that I "click" with, and I find it's their sense of humor or, for lack of a better word, a "vibe." I have a pretty dark sense of humor and can come across as dry at times. Most people I meet don't get that, but when I meet that person who does, I immediately feel a kinship with them. It's pretty rare.

 

[Jonn]

Personally, it's a RARE combination of (1) high intelligence

Tick.

combined with humility,

I will have to look up that word.

(2) someone who is truth seeking and can accept that they might me wrong, without strong cognitive biases, who understands nuance and balanced analysis,

Tick.

(3) someone who has a calm, but assertive demeanor, an air of self-confidence without coming off as arrogant,

So close, but no cigar, <sigh>

(4) someone who can express emotions, but does not allow emotions to overcome their logic and reasoning,

Tick.

and (5) someone who has a sense of what is socially acceptable, but not one to seek out validation.

Damn!

Given all of that, it may take me a while to assess all of that before deciding if I "like" someone. I have a very methodical, analytical mind. Most people I interact with I am not quick to make judgements of. My autistic "mind blindness" needs time to assess.

I have noticed I am quicker when it comes to identifying trolls.

This is a double-edged sword. There are situations in life when a rapid assessment is needed, and I am not good at that, which could potentially delay a response that might prevent me from harm. On the other hand, with most people, I will give people the time to show their true colors.

In RL, I am pretty good at assessing what's what in many situations.
But that isn't always the case when I have to interact with ppl.

What instantly attracts my attention in a good way with ppl?:

Spoiler

Humour.
That should not be surprising to ppl who know me.

Spoiler: fun fact

I haven't had any caffeine today.
Who would have thunk it?

 

[Jonn]

For me, it's usually something about that person that I "click" with, and I find it's their sense of humor or, for lack of a better word, a "vibe." I have a pretty dark sense of humor and can come across as dry at times. Most people I meet don't get that, but when I meet that person who does, I immediately feel a kinship with them. It's pretty rare.

Bro!!! <man hug>

 

[AuAL]

I let my bicycle get rusty to discourage thieves, but if people ask, I reply that it is to make it lighter. One guy countered with "Iron oxide is lighter than iron?"
Liking him now, I replied "I've been telling that joke for ten years, and you are the first one to get it."

@Shevek, wouldn’t your bicycle be heavier? Yes, iron oxide is less dense than iron but, the iron having bound with the oxygen, there is more mass. Of course, if the bicycle was shedding flakes of paint, and flakes of rust, it might lose some mass but the balance would be difficult to calculate, and it’s a form of weight shedding with a limited horizon given considerations of structural integrity. Riding it a lot would make it lighter. I’ll leave the reason for that as an exercise for the reader. (Sorry, it is often the case my mind goes down rabbit holes. If my eyes glaze over when you’re talking to me, it’s not because you said something boring, but perhaps because you said something really interesting…)

 

[Jonn]

@Shevek, wouldn’t your bicycle be heavier? Yes, iron oxide is less dense than iron but, the iron having bound with the oxygen, there is more mass. Of course, if the bicycle was shedding flakes of paint, and flakes of rust, it might lose some mass but the balance would be difficult to calculate, and it’s a form of weight shedding with a limited horizon given considerations of structural integrity. Riding it a lot would make it lighter. I’ll leave the reason for that as an exercise for the reader. (Sorry, it is often the case my mind goes down rabbit holes. If my eyes glaze over when you’re talking to me, it’s not because you said something boring, but perhaps because you said something really interesting…)

Said by a true, bona fide aspie.

 

[Jumpinbare]

A shared strong interest. My interests tend to not be very mainstream.

 

[Rodafina]

I seem to have a regular pattern and I instantly like most people. Curiosity causes that. Disillusionment usually follows and as I get to know them, I like them less.

If I learn that they are ultimately authentic and kind, I tend to like them again. There's a lot of folks out there that I don't like, but still find them interesting.

 

[Masked Man]

There's another thing that will instantly bond me to another person and that is love/admiration for cats. I've always had at least one cat and feel like I understand them a lot better than I do human beings. Especially when I find out that the other person has the same quirky cat habits, like filling in a voice for them or something that most other people would find odd. It's fun when two strangers find out they do the exact same weird thing and you can share a laugh about it.