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Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Jibbers, Oct 22, 2019.

  1. Jibbers

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    Hello,

    I am Jibbers, I have a bachelors degree and have worked as a dietitian for the past 2 years. I like to lead-climb in the climbinggym and outside as well. I like running and fitness too. I live by myself and I own a cat, her name is Luna (I added a picture).
    Sinds February 2019 I learned that I have ASD, aspergers. I have had my suspicions several times trough my live but never got it confirmed till this year. It has been an pressing eye opener for me and I am still in the process of learning and acknowledging the perks and the stigma that is surrounded by this diagnosis. Life has been hard for me but I have always been able to look for the positive and I hope to keep doing so. Though it is really challenging at times.

    I recently got fired in a real awful way. There was no room for my autistic traits at work and they looked for reasons to fire me and found one. So now I feel rather lost, scared and angry. I feel like I am in this endless battle of trying to 'fit in' and getting rejected. So now I try to use this unwanted opportunity of losing my job to change things for the better, to find a pace that keeps me healthier and happier. Even if that might mean giving up on one of the things I like to do: work as a dietitian.
    Even though I try to stay positive, I feel struck down and it feels like a never ending terror. I really hope things will finally work out a bit better for me soon.

    Working is hard for me. I easily feel overstimulated, things are too much too fast. I can't manage a social life and work and stay chill. Even just being at home and doing household stuff combined with a social life is a big challenge for me. I use exercise, mindfulness, a healthy diet and a lot of sleep to keep myself happy and healthy but is a lot of work and it can feel rather pressing sometimes. But I have learned that I function a lot less when I quit taking care of myself, therefore I maintain it pretty well. I am rather proud of it, I have to admit.

    I joined this forum to look for like minded people to talk with, read stories from, offer advice and get advice from. =)
     

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    Hi Jibbers, can relate to a lot of that, it's exhausting the full time work and the housework and social life too, mostly I lived alone so I could de-stress from the working day.

    The great thing about working is there's less mess to clean and someone else pays the light and heating/cooling costs.

    Hope you find something new for you, would the field of eating disorders be more accommodating to someone with a disability? I mean you get them in autism and some of the personality disorders and it's a pretty big thing these days, I think. Maybe I'm wrong, but anyways, welcome to the site.
     
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    Ah i see your owner is a black and white cat ,my owners are black and white as well .
     
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    Welcome! Hope you find this place as friendly and supportive as I have :)
     
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    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    Isadoorian Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Welcome to the Forums! I hope you make new friends and enjoy your stay in the process! :)
     
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  8. Nitro

    Nitro Admin/Immoral Turpitude Staff Member Admin V.I.P Member

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    Hi Jibbers

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    I like the cat bed!

    You know a job like that is better off leaving, so it is maybe for the best it happened. But the experience can help you figure out a better fit of positions next time. One location may not be a good enough sample to make a judgement on all dietitian positions. Places can vary widely just depending on the people working there or type of clients you work with.

    Anyway, as long as pizza and donuts are on the list of approved foods you can't go to far wrong. ;)
     
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    Hello, welcome!
     
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    Hey Jibbers, and welcome!

    I can understand how you feel on a lot of that stuff as I too am very recently diagnosed, and I too am recently out of work due to my condition and am looking for a way to find a job I can handle.

    Are you currently seeing a therapist? Have you spoken to a doctor about possibly getting any government aid for losing your job due to your condition? Even though you were fired you might be able to make a case that it was your differences that got you fired and might be able to get some money from the government to help you through until you find something else.

    Also, the reason I ask if you're seeing a therapist is that they can really help you to understand the things that make life difficult for you and go through step by step processes to learn ways to deal with the things that cause difficulty. I'm going through this process right now and am finding that my outlook on life has done a complete 180 since I started ASD therapy (though I had much, much, much unsuccessful therapy before when I had been incorrectly diagnosed with BPD)

    btw Luna is adorable!
     
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    Welcome Jibbers!

    I can relate to the working difficulties. I lost one job over my anxiety issues. Literally couldn't sit in an open office, the anxiety was ridiculous. Asked them if I could work from home part of the time, but why should a company allow a software dev. to do such a silly thing, right? So I packed up and left that craphole without looking back. Been working from home for many years now.

    Lovely cat. We lost ours recently, still miss her as well as our old dog who is not with us since early this year.

    Do you play that guitar?
     
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    Welcome to the forum Jibbers, I like your cat, he looks like my Charlie a black and white tuxedo cat.
     
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    Thanks for sharing!
    I have thought about that as well. I am rather familiar with eating disorders and have considered specialising in eating disorders in the past. Thanks for reminding me! I will think about it some more and maybe act on it. Another thing that I would like to do is help people with autism, who want to, get healthier by teaching them how. That is another thing I want to consider. However starting my own company is a big step, but maby it's the one to go for. I am luckily not in a hurry to make a decision =)
     
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    I bet Charlie is great too! ❤️
     
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    I hope so too! It's off to a good start!
     
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    Thanks for the perspective!
    I love pizza and donuts
     
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    Hey, thanks for sharing.
    Thus far every job has brought big challenges for me. I strongly believe we all will find our way and place within this society. But for some it takes way longer to get there, which is not easy.

    Yes I play the guitar and I like to sing almost daily to relax. My main instrument is actually the violin, however I practice rarely at the moment. It comes and goes =)
     
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    Hey, thanks for sharing!
    I am pretty much always seeing a therapist.
    I am currently at the right place, a company specialised in autism. They help me with all kinds of stuff and help me in understanding myself. I am also participating in a program there with other women who have autism. It's really nice to meet others who face similar problems. At the moment I am also trying to get help from the government. I don't want to keep working the way it has been, so I am looking for a change that will help me and keep me from getting another burn out or mental issue. =)

    I hope you are doing well, Its tough when you work hard and lose anyway. <3
     
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    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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