Confusing? Sorry if it is, but just not sure how to open the thread and this is the best way to describe.
So, a few week's ago, I get whispered: we are having a little get together and this time, I thought it would be lovely if everyone brought their own food, but for every one to share; rather than each bringing a picnic for themselves. I groaned in side, but was encouraged that it would be a great evening.
I reasoned that I know everyone so it can't be that bad, but as the date was getting nearer, I could feel myself shrinking back and just wanting to get out of it, but at the same time, a weird excitement.
Ok, so I have a tendency to think of the worst case, so that I can prepare myself mentally.
It was WORSE than I imaged. We were late on arriving and everyone was sitting around the table chatting away and NOT ONE PERSON SAID HELLO. Even the "hostess" the owner of the house did not welcome us and yet, she knows how hard I find this kind of thing! I was at a complete loss, because the table was full of food and so, had to make room for my bits and no where to put dessert.
I wanted to just run fast and never stop running! Ok, I felt humiliated.
I managed to find a seat and thankfully, two lovely ladies started to chat with me. I ate absolutely nothing, because I had to fight the tears back and my anxiety was so high, that I felt sick.
To be honest, it hurt that people know me for not being great in huge gatherings and yet ignored me.
I did get some acknowledgment of: are you ok etc etc, but I felt that they were doing it out of politeness and these are ones who usually I get on really well with. I wonder: do I give off such a horrible aura that it makes me abhorrent to be around? Are people enjoying themselves so much that they can't be bothered with a deeply shy one?
My husband says: be sad but don't pass blame?
I thought that if you are invited somewhere, you are supposed to be made to feel welcome?
I shall never go to such a huge function again!
I can cope with 6 of us but anymore, and I seem to freak out!
So, a few week's ago, I get whispered: we are having a little get together and this time, I thought it would be lovely if everyone brought their own food, but for every one to share; rather than each bringing a picnic for themselves. I groaned in side, but was encouraged that it would be a great evening.
I reasoned that I know everyone so it can't be that bad, but as the date was getting nearer, I could feel myself shrinking back and just wanting to get out of it, but at the same time, a weird excitement.
Ok, so I have a tendency to think of the worst case, so that I can prepare myself mentally.
It was WORSE than I imaged. We were late on arriving and everyone was sitting around the table chatting away and NOT ONE PERSON SAID HELLO. Even the "hostess" the owner of the house did not welcome us and yet, she knows how hard I find this kind of thing! I was at a complete loss, because the table was full of food and so, had to make room for my bits and no where to put dessert.
I wanted to just run fast and never stop running! Ok, I felt humiliated.
I managed to find a seat and thankfully, two lovely ladies started to chat with me. I ate absolutely nothing, because I had to fight the tears back and my anxiety was so high, that I felt sick.
To be honest, it hurt that people know me for not being great in huge gatherings and yet ignored me.
I did get some acknowledgment of: are you ok etc etc, but I felt that they were doing it out of politeness and these are ones who usually I get on really well with. I wonder: do I give off such a horrible aura that it makes me abhorrent to be around? Are people enjoying themselves so much that they can't be bothered with a deeply shy one?
My husband says: be sad but don't pass blame?
I thought that if you are invited somewhere, you are supposed to be made to feel welcome?
I shall never go to such a huge function again!
I can cope with 6 of us but anymore, and I seem to freak out!