Noelle
Well-Known Member
Hello again.
First, I'm wondering if anyone on this forum feels like you can recognise high-functioning AS and ASD in other adults, even if the person is a total stranger? If so, what markers does someone display that make you think they are also on the spectrum? How do you feel when you see them "acting out" or doing something that you just know will be frowned upon by the neurotypicals around them? Do you feel empathy? Frustration? Embarrassment? Anything?
Second, has anyone ever reached out to a person in the middle of a meltdown? I had this experience this week. A young woman was going through a pretty public meltdown, confounding the people who witnessed it and practically bringing me to tears. After sitting there for a few minutes trying to figure out whether or not I should attempt to get involved, I finally decided to try to speak to her.
I still don't know if this was the right thing to do. I just told her that I've been where she is and experience the same anxiety and frustration with communication and emotions, and that nobody else gets it. While my intentions were good, I worry that I might have made the situation worse in that moment. If it had been my meltdown, I might have been inclined to say: "piss off-- this is none of your business." Thankfully she didn't do this, but I still feel anxious over getting involved.
I'm not a counselor or psychologist. I'm new to the world of neurodiversity even though I've been on the spectrum my entire life. I have no idea how to behave in situations like this, but walking away and minding my own business during that incident felt very wrong to me. Thoughts? There probably is no exact answer to this...
First, I'm wondering if anyone on this forum feels like you can recognise high-functioning AS and ASD in other adults, even if the person is a total stranger? If so, what markers does someone display that make you think they are also on the spectrum? How do you feel when you see them "acting out" or doing something that you just know will be frowned upon by the neurotypicals around them? Do you feel empathy? Frustration? Embarrassment? Anything?
Second, has anyone ever reached out to a person in the middle of a meltdown? I had this experience this week. A young woman was going through a pretty public meltdown, confounding the people who witnessed it and practically bringing me to tears. After sitting there for a few minutes trying to figure out whether or not I should attempt to get involved, I finally decided to try to speak to her.
I still don't know if this was the right thing to do. I just told her that I've been where she is and experience the same anxiety and frustration with communication and emotions, and that nobody else gets it. While my intentions were good, I worry that I might have made the situation worse in that moment. If it had been my meltdown, I might have been inclined to say: "piss off-- this is none of your business." Thankfully she didn't do this, but I still feel anxious over getting involved.
I'm not a counselor or psychologist. I'm new to the world of neurodiversity even though I've been on the spectrum my entire life. I have no idea how to behave in situations like this, but walking away and minding my own business during that incident felt very wrong to me. Thoughts? There probably is no exact answer to this...