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I have only had two short lived jobs, people weren't toxic to me, but no one interacted with me. I am going off of what i read other people with autism very commonly experience, statistics and my experience with group projects in college. These people that i had to work with in college are the same type of people i will also share a workspace with.Obviously, you are very frustrated and angry about your situation. Perhaps elaborate on what the core issues are that seem to be consistent. Obviously, you've experienced this at different work places, so what do you think are the main issues that are creating these behaviors? Are there any "work arounds"? Are there other ways of creating some "cash flow" that might be better suited to your talents or aptitudes? Not all jobs require a lot of "people skills".
You have every right to "vent", but perhaps some better information might allow someone to give you some different and more constructive ideas and perspectives.
I would also be in group 2, but i suppose its safer to have at least a couple friends or people that like you, just to avoid being too easy of a target.I don't think that's an accurate way to think about workplaces. Not all workplaces are toxic. I would assume that most are not toxic.
I have been working for for over 35 years and in that time I've worked at a lot of different jobs. True, some of the workplaces were "toxic" environments but most were not.
In that time after having that much experience in the workplaces I do have an observation that is germane to this topic: Through the years I have noticed that there are loosely, two different kinds of people in the workplace: 1) Those that have a strong need and desire to be accepted by, liked by and even become friends with all of their co-workers. 2) Those that don't care that much if at all about becoming friends with those they work with.
Those in the first group seem to have a very hard time in the workplace if they're not "part of the group".
I've always been in group #2 and maybe to an extreme, but it's helped with my work longevity. I don't exaggerate when I say that I don't give a rip about being friends with co-workers and in fact I'd not because I prefer to keep my work-life separate from my "real" life. If my coworkers were also my best friends I'd feel like I'd never really get a break from my work-life and I'd hate that.
What is the point of even going to uni and getting a degree, when you are just going to get ostracized, scapegoated or abused at almost every workplace anyway. It's not worth the money, I would rather just stay at home and try to get some kind of disability benefits.
Are these the only two options? Uni or disability benefits?What is the point of even going to uni and getting a degree, when you are just going to get ostracized, scapegoated or abused at almost every workplace anyway. It's not worth the money, I would rather just stay at home and try to get some kind of disability benefits.
What is the point of even going to uni and getting a degree, when you are just going to get ostracized, scapegoated or abused at almost every workplace anyway. It's not worth the money, I would rather just stay at home and try to get some kind of disability benefits.
I have only had two short lived jobs, people weren't toxic to me, but no one interacted with me. I am going off of what i read other people with autism very commonly experience, statistics and my experience with group projects in college. These people that i had to work with in college are the same type of people i will also share a workspace with.
I have considered that, but its something that is out of my control for the most part.It's possible that you're being intentionally excluded. It's also possible that maybe you're inadvertently sending signals that are being interpreted as "leave me alone".
My last workplace was one of the more positive experiences I had compared to the last one where it was an extension of the height school Culture. I get the impression that each workplace is different, and depending on how much time and length you want to interact with your colleagues, then I guess there has to be a need for awareness that these people aren’t always friends. I had a similar conversation with my mentor who I met two weeks ago and he was very much inclined to tell me to not bother interacting with people in the workplace like I expect them to be friends. Some are pleasant enough but after being burned and backstabbed and bullied by a former colleague, and not invited to events in the longer job position I was at, then I think I learned the lesson to not expect levels of friendship From work colleagues Because it was not worth the stress. In my job, I have to interact with people, often young people and whilst there are challenges in that, it was never about dealing with them but rather my adult work colleagues.What is the point of even going to uni and getting a degree, when you are just going to get ostracized, scapegoated or abused at almost every workplace anyway. It's not worth the money, I would rather just stay at home and try to get some kind of disability benefits.