Self Identify...

[Full Steam]

I like it A LOT! even though it doesn't fit my real situation

Mine would need to say "shutdown coming" and people would just laugh... : )

Yeah, well me too really.

Maybe there's a way to direct whether shutdown or meltdown happens.

It seems to me that maybe if I force shutdown into the background and keep it there a meltdown may occur.

Not sure about that but meltdown only happens after I've endured a lot, and have not been able to self shutdown.

 

[Rasendra]

Yeah, well me too really.

Maybe there's a way to direct whether shutdown or meltdown happens.

It seems to me that maybe if I force shutdown into the background and keep it there a meltdown may occur.

Not sure about that but meltdown only happens after I've endured a lot, and have not been able to self shutdown.

I never used to have meltdowns really at all, just shut down a lot growing up. Once my husband came, then my boyfriend, he didn't understand the shut downs or know how to respond and wanted me to stop and just talk to him. We didn't realize I was Aspie at that time either. So when I didn't shut down it ended up turning into meltdowns. Now I have both so that's fun lol...

 

[Chance]

I never used to have meltdowns really at all, just shut down a lot growing up. Once my husband came, then my boyfriend, he didn't understand the shut downs or know how to respond and wanted me to stop and just talk to him. We didn't realize I was Aspie at that time either. So when I didn't shut down it ended up turning into meltdowns. Now I have both so that's fun lol...

I would be afraid to have a meltdown... It might look like a nuclear explosion went off. I just cant go there, nor do I want too, plus I don't want to deal with the fallout and possible jail time it might cause...

I feel so thankful that in a very short time I can block out stuff to the point that people say do you remember when so-in-so said/did, blah blah blah... and I say nope, and don't want to...
That in itself is a freedom that many don't reach for. : )

Admittedly some stuff just haunts us. The stuff that had no closure, or a logical reason cant be attached to it. Thats what I deal with the worst.

 

[Lady Penelope]

I never used to have meltdowns really at all, just shut down a lot growing up. Once my husband came, then my boyfriend, he didn't understand the shut downs or know how to respond and wanted me to stop and just talk to him. We didn't realize I was Aspie at that time either. So when I didn't shut down it ended up turning into meltdowns. Now I have both so that's fun lol...

This is also me. But less meltdowns now i know what's happening and i try to address the shutdowns before they trigger a meltdown. Almost feel bad for the ex as we had no idea i was aspie and he just thought i was over reacting to something i didn't want to do. Caused a lot of issues...

 

[Rasendra]

This is also me. But less meltdowns now i know what's happening and i try to address the shutdowns before they trigger a meltdown. Almost feel bad for the ex as we had no idea i was aspie and he just thought i was over reacting to something i didn't want to do. Caused a lot of issues...

Yes. I've found that I can often feel the meltdown coming and use stims, particularly music, before it comes. But yes, it definitely would have been helpful to know I was an Aspie at the beginning of the relationship.

 

[AdultAspie69]

I never used to have meltdowns really at all, just shut down a lot growing up. Once my husband came, then my boyfriend, he didn't understand the shut downs or know how to respond and wanted me to stop and just talk to him. We didn't realize I was Aspie at that time either. So when I didn't shut down it ended up turning into meltdowns. Now I have both so that's fun lol...

I mostly have shutdowns, but will have a meltdown if people keep trying to get me to respond after I shut down.

 

[Lady Penelope]

I mostly have shutdowns, but will have a meltdown if people keep trying to get me to respond after I shut down.

Yeah .. i think that's the same with me. If i can't shutdown in peace I'll flick a switch and meltdown. Only remember having meltdowns with ex who wouldn't stop friggin pushing ...

 

[Voltaic]

In Wales there's a scheme that's been launched in the hopes of educating people (businesses and the wider public) about ASD. They provide people with wristbands and cards (the cards have info on) that are pretty non invasive.

This is the pattern on the band:
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That is to perfect.

 

[pjcnet]

It would be great system for helping autistic people to meet others and also for some NTs to recognise and understand them in certain situations (E.g. during meltdowns). The only downside is it will also identify autistic people to bullies and/or other antisocial / immature people who will use it against them, perhaps in many situations just to make fun of them or worse to identify them as easy vulnerable targets, these undesirable people are thankfully in the minority however and I think the benefits of this system would still greatly outweigh the potential disadvantages.

That is to perfect.

I agree, it's a shame it's only in Wales at the moment though, I hope the rest of the UK follow suit since I live in England where there's a much greater population overall (I'm selfish lol) and then hopefully the rest of the world start their own schemes after seeing the benefits too.

 

[Voltaic]

It might be readable without context. An A, repeated in an easy to identify pattern. If you where to give enough thought to it, you might know what it means.

 

[xudo]

I agree, it's a shame it's only in Wales at the moment though, I hope the rest of the UK follow suit since I live in England where there's a much greater population overall (I'm selfish lol) and then hopefully the rest of the world start their own schemes after seeing the benefits too.

Maybe contact ASC Cymru and let them know there may be a call for it outside of Wales?

 

[Suzanne]

I do not need an self identify something or other, because most people ignore me anyway. Now, is that being negative or realistic lol How about, a negative comment, being realistic?!!

There are some nts who actually think I am normal, but they are not normal nts and that is probably why.

I met a male aspie a couple of year's ago, but I was not as positive as I am about my aspieness and felt very uncomfortable, as though I was trying to get him to see that I am one, which I hate doing ie making conversation fit traits. Didn't matter anyway, since he was glued to his VERY nt wife and barely uttered two words.

I was itching to get him on his own for a good conversation, because the few things he did say, were definitely on my wave length, but he was so shy that it was impossible and being that I have chronic social anxiety, I did not have the courage to pursue a conversation.

I do have a friend and am convinced she is an aspie, simply because she was the only one who got what I was trying to say and nts did not get it and yet, for the life of me, I could not see what was so difficult to understand?!