LostInSilentHill
Terrible Gaurdian Angel
This is kinda hard to explain but hear me out.
So, I consider myself as someone who can see the grey area's in life, but during the last few arguments with my friend, she said that I'm either one way or the other. Um, let me try to explain.
So we fight sometimes and it's usually because I get confused. I follow the rules in the house, but I have a hard time when those rules are flexible. I can't seem to think of an example, though it happens a lot. So I tell her that I just won't do that thing again, but she gets angry. She says I'm either at one extreme or the other, but how am I supposed to know that? How do I change that when the rules change or there are unspecified conditions? How can you properly judge a situation like that? I guess it is an NT thing, to be able to know everything.
It seems like it would be better if I just never did that thing again since I seem to get it wrong a lot. She said that wasn't the answer, but I have no idea how to fix this issue. I really wish I could think of a single example, but my mind is a complete blank.
How does other ASD get past this black and white thinking?
Also, I get quite confused when she keeps repeating what I did wrong, even though I acknowledged the problem and said I would try not to do it again. When she repeats herself I don't know if it means I'm wrong about the issue, but I don't seem to be. Why does she do that? Is that an NT thing?
So, I consider myself as someone who can see the grey area's in life, but during the last few arguments with my friend, she said that I'm either one way or the other. Um, let me try to explain.
So we fight sometimes and it's usually because I get confused. I follow the rules in the house, but I have a hard time when those rules are flexible. I can't seem to think of an example, though it happens a lot. So I tell her that I just won't do that thing again, but she gets angry. She says I'm either at one extreme or the other, but how am I supposed to know that? How do I change that when the rules change or there are unspecified conditions? How can you properly judge a situation like that? I guess it is an NT thing, to be able to know everything.
It seems like it would be better if I just never did that thing again since I seem to get it wrong a lot. She said that wasn't the answer, but I have no idea how to fix this issue. I really wish I could think of a single example, but my mind is a complete blank.
How does other ASD get past this black and white thinking?
Also, I get quite confused when she keeps repeating what I did wrong, even though I acknowledged the problem and said I would try not to do it again. When she repeats herself I don't know if it means I'm wrong about the issue, but I don't seem to be. Why does she do that? Is that an NT thing?