elirawr
Proud mother of an aspie.
Hello there, I am fairly new here to AC but I have been lurking around a little. I will introduce myself a bit and my son.
I am 26 and a single mother. I am currently studying from home to get a diploma in community services work. I also suffer from depression and anxiety.
My son is 7 in March and was recently diagnosed with Asperger's. It all started to come forward when he started kinder last year and things got worse throughout this year with him having even more meltdowns in classes at school. His teacher and I spoke and talked about his anxiety issues also and she suggested that i speak to my GP and see what they thought. After going through with that she hinted as asperger's but knew she couldn't give a diagnosis so she referred me to a psych to get that on the ball. After a few sessions and a video that I recorded from home of one of his meltdowns (because Master S was a well behaved boy during our sessions) we got our diagnosis that he was level 1 Aspergers.
It's been a real eye opener for me after learning so much within these last few months. I always knew that my son was rather advanced with his math skills... but I never realised how far ahead of himself he was. He is doing math work of children many years older than he is and finds it quite easy and he has a love for science already. He is on par with all his other subjects at school, though sports and music he doesn't like as much.
He is very sensitive to loud noises, this was one of our first things that set us off and I even had his ears and such checked by the doctor but he said that there was no damage to the ear drums and everything was fine and he was obviously just a bit sensitive to loud noises. Since then I now know it was a lot more than that.
He is so active all day from the moment he is awake till he finally passes out.. he does not sleep well or as much as he should and god that can be tiring. He sleeps around 10:30 and is awake around 6-7am. I don't sleep well myself so falling asleep around 2-3am and waking at 6-7 am is not doing me well but I cope.
Food is always an issue, always has been. He will refuse to eat anything that looks gross to him or if the texture is weird. If it feels slimey he will not even touch it.
I've had to learn a lot lately to just accept some things he does as they are things he does as stimming.. and some of them drive me crazy like when he is feeling unwell he will cuddle into my side and stroke the skin on my arm... i hate this but he will not relax at all unless he does this. He also chews on things a lot and I have recently ordered a chew necklace to try out to see if that helps.
It has also been about 3 years since I have heard him say "i love you" or been able to give him a kiss on the cheek/head or anything or receive one from him. We give hugs and they are short and tight sweet hugs but that his his affection to me. I can ask him if he loves me now and he will flatly say "yes" but that is as far as we have gotten now.
Keeping him occupied can be stressful for me. Some days he can be occupied with his tv shows and his games and toys and such... others every two seconds he is clinging off me whinging he is bored and there is nothing to do and everything I try to do with him is not good enough and not going to occupy him. I've looked after kids in the past and a box of toys or a ball in the back yard has kept them happy for a long time.
He has real time management issues to. He has to be on time for everything. If I am busy and say "I will be with you in just a minute" he will literally stand there and count to 60 and get upset if it takes longer than that. I've recently gotten him a small digital watch that attaches to a lanyard for him to have with him so he has the time with him so he knows when I say "we are leaving at 8:20 which is in 15 minutes" or something ike that he has the time there and he knows how long he has... otherwise he tends to freak out not knowing how much time is left and is asking me every minute what the time is.
Most of this stuff I am used to now, its just a part of my every day life now but each summer holidays (now for us australians) he spends four weeks with my mother... she is still adjusting to how he is and though she is really helpful it takes a lot out of her with some things.
Though I am not with his father I still have contact with him often and with Master S's recent diagnosis I have spoken to him and noted that the two of the are identical and that maybe his diagnosis as a kid of adhd that he swore was wrong because the medication sent him off the show.. that maybe he has Aspergers also... his own father (master s's pop) shows classic signs of it also and after that talk with him he is now thinking of getting himself checked out by a psych to see if that is the case or not.
wow this got longer than I was expecting. I just wanted to post this up here.. I do have some people in real life to talk to about this but not many that have the experience of being aspic themselves or a parent of someone who is and can help me with suggestions and such.
I am 26 and a single mother. I am currently studying from home to get a diploma in community services work. I also suffer from depression and anxiety.
My son is 7 in March and was recently diagnosed with Asperger's. It all started to come forward when he started kinder last year and things got worse throughout this year with him having even more meltdowns in classes at school. His teacher and I spoke and talked about his anxiety issues also and she suggested that i speak to my GP and see what they thought. After going through with that she hinted as asperger's but knew she couldn't give a diagnosis so she referred me to a psych to get that on the ball. After a few sessions and a video that I recorded from home of one of his meltdowns (because Master S was a well behaved boy during our sessions) we got our diagnosis that he was level 1 Aspergers.
It's been a real eye opener for me after learning so much within these last few months. I always knew that my son was rather advanced with his math skills... but I never realised how far ahead of himself he was. He is doing math work of children many years older than he is and finds it quite easy and he has a love for science already. He is on par with all his other subjects at school, though sports and music he doesn't like as much.
He is very sensitive to loud noises, this was one of our first things that set us off and I even had his ears and such checked by the doctor but he said that there was no damage to the ear drums and everything was fine and he was obviously just a bit sensitive to loud noises. Since then I now know it was a lot more than that.
He is so active all day from the moment he is awake till he finally passes out.. he does not sleep well or as much as he should and god that can be tiring. He sleeps around 10:30 and is awake around 6-7am. I don't sleep well myself so falling asleep around 2-3am and waking at 6-7 am is not doing me well but I cope.
Food is always an issue, always has been. He will refuse to eat anything that looks gross to him or if the texture is weird. If it feels slimey he will not even touch it.
I've had to learn a lot lately to just accept some things he does as they are things he does as stimming.. and some of them drive me crazy like when he is feeling unwell he will cuddle into my side and stroke the skin on my arm... i hate this but he will not relax at all unless he does this. He also chews on things a lot and I have recently ordered a chew necklace to try out to see if that helps.
It has also been about 3 years since I have heard him say "i love you" or been able to give him a kiss on the cheek/head or anything or receive one from him. We give hugs and they are short and tight sweet hugs but that his his affection to me. I can ask him if he loves me now and he will flatly say "yes" but that is as far as we have gotten now.
Keeping him occupied can be stressful for me. Some days he can be occupied with his tv shows and his games and toys and such... others every two seconds he is clinging off me whinging he is bored and there is nothing to do and everything I try to do with him is not good enough and not going to occupy him. I've looked after kids in the past and a box of toys or a ball in the back yard has kept them happy for a long time.
He has real time management issues to. He has to be on time for everything. If I am busy and say "I will be with you in just a minute" he will literally stand there and count to 60 and get upset if it takes longer than that. I've recently gotten him a small digital watch that attaches to a lanyard for him to have with him so he has the time with him so he knows when I say "we are leaving at 8:20 which is in 15 minutes" or something ike that he has the time there and he knows how long he has... otherwise he tends to freak out not knowing how much time is left and is asking me every minute what the time is.
Most of this stuff I am used to now, its just a part of my every day life now but each summer holidays (now for us australians) he spends four weeks with my mother... she is still adjusting to how he is and though she is really helpful it takes a lot out of her with some things.
Though I am not with his father I still have contact with him often and with Master S's recent diagnosis I have spoken to him and noted that the two of the are identical and that maybe his diagnosis as a kid of adhd that he swore was wrong because the medication sent him off the show.. that maybe he has Aspergers also... his own father (master s's pop) shows classic signs of it also and after that talk with him he is now thinking of getting himself checked out by a psych to see if that is the case or not.
wow this got longer than I was expecting. I just wanted to post this up here.. I do have some people in real life to talk to about this but not many that have the experience of being aspic themselves or a parent of someone who is and can help me with suggestions and such.