Tiger
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So I'm in a possition where I have little to no network after an abuse. All the people I got to know as friends 3 years ago is friends with the abuser, and the man is a very charismatic, samaritan in the community around here and knows many people. We had been friends for about a year when he suddenly did a move that I still try to recover from in therapy.
So I have support for the abuse to some extent, but I have not found anyone who works with autism as well which was a challange for me with friends before. So even if I heal the trauma there is an autsitic part underneath, and since these "friends" was my first friendgroup and got ripped away now when I got away from this man I can't help but wonder if it was really real friends or just... I don't know.
So with trauma of betrayal in the backpack and the usual social struggles of who, when, where and how.... how can one get friends? I wish I had people around me to lean on and have good days with while getting through this. Currently I have not really met anyone (outside of very surface level ADHD meetups 1/ month ) in a long time and it is starting to feel quite bad tbh. Sort of feeling like Will from Stranger things right now.
I also feel a little bit like a fraud when I try to show my happy self with new people becauce I am still working through things.
My wish would be to meet people I can watch movies with, puzzle, cuddle, just excist with and be my colourful self with. But I end up just talking and listening to people tops, and it sort of just makes me feel more alone since I don't know why it is not leading anywhere. I have a hard time to know how to find people that would like to do the same things.
Other peoples experiences are appreciated. I need some cheering up and hope becauce I have so much I want to give and share.
Sincerely Tiger
So I have support for the abuse to some extent, but I have not found anyone who works with autism as well which was a challange for me with friends before. So even if I heal the trauma there is an autsitic part underneath, and since these "friends" was my first friendgroup and got ripped away now when I got away from this man I can't help but wonder if it was really real friends or just... I don't know.
So with trauma of betrayal in the backpack and the usual social struggles of who, when, where and how.... how can one get friends? I wish I had people around me to lean on and have good days with while getting through this. Currently I have not really met anyone (outside of very surface level ADHD meetups 1/ month ) in a long time and it is starting to feel quite bad tbh. Sort of feeling like Will from Stranger things right now.
I also feel a little bit like a fraud when I try to show my happy self with new people becauce I am still working through things.
My wish would be to meet people I can watch movies with, puzzle, cuddle, just excist with and be my colourful self with. But I end up just talking and listening to people tops, and it sort of just makes me feel more alone since I don't know why it is not leading anywhere. I have a hard time to know how to find people that would like to do the same things.
Other peoples experiences are appreciated. I need some cheering up and hope becauce I have so much I want to give and share.
Sincerely Tiger
