broadstreetbum
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Sorry for the long post. Just looking for advice.
The other night me and my girlfriend were having a small argument over me always coming home and putting my headphones in all night. I understood that it was irritating but I explained it was something I wish I could do 24/7 because it's more comfortable for me to be engaged in podcasts about sports, the stock market, or space than interact with people. My girlfriend went to school to teach kids with disabilities and told me that it was a tell tale sign of aspergers. I kind of thought autism and aspergers were the same thing and knew I didnt act "autistic" so I brushed it off. A few days later I became interested and started looking up information and was amazed by two symptoms in particular.
1. Inflexible Scedule. I absolutely hate change! Not too long ago my bank was bought out by another bank and I almost had a meltdown. A few weeks ago my girlfriend asked me to go to her parents for dinner on a day I go to the gym and I explained that I "just couldnt go" because if I skipped that day the whole foundation of my workout routine would fall apart and i'd stop going all together eventually.
2. Lack of empathy. This one is a biggie and has caused my last two girlfriends to tell me I have issues. I remember once taking to a family member and they told me a family friend had passed and I told them "well she was old. Thats kind of whats supposed to happen if you think about it." The way I think is purely logic based so sometimes I feel like people don't see the big picture when i'm explaining how they should deal with things. This is my biggest pet peeve with people. If you say something like "I'm fat, I need to lose weight." And then I begin explaining being in a caloric surplus and figuring out your maintenance calories don't look at me like i'm an idiot. I also am brutally honest so that gets me in trouble at times.
The question I wanted to ask is should I get diagnosed to be certain? Is there a benefit in knowing for sure and having it on record or will it haunt me later in life? Thanks to anyone who reads this whole thing. I'm just trying to understand myself better.
The other night me and my girlfriend were having a small argument over me always coming home and putting my headphones in all night. I understood that it was irritating but I explained it was something I wish I could do 24/7 because it's more comfortable for me to be engaged in podcasts about sports, the stock market, or space than interact with people. My girlfriend went to school to teach kids with disabilities and told me that it was a tell tale sign of aspergers. I kind of thought autism and aspergers were the same thing and knew I didnt act "autistic" so I brushed it off. A few days later I became interested and started looking up information and was amazed by two symptoms in particular.
1. Inflexible Scedule. I absolutely hate change! Not too long ago my bank was bought out by another bank and I almost had a meltdown. A few weeks ago my girlfriend asked me to go to her parents for dinner on a day I go to the gym and I explained that I "just couldnt go" because if I skipped that day the whole foundation of my workout routine would fall apart and i'd stop going all together eventually.
2. Lack of empathy. This one is a biggie and has caused my last two girlfriends to tell me I have issues. I remember once taking to a family member and they told me a family friend had passed and I told them "well she was old. Thats kind of whats supposed to happen if you think about it." The way I think is purely logic based so sometimes I feel like people don't see the big picture when i'm explaining how they should deal with things. This is my biggest pet peeve with people. If you say something like "I'm fat, I need to lose weight." And then I begin explaining being in a caloric surplus and figuring out your maintenance calories don't look at me like i'm an idiot. I also am brutally honest so that gets me in trouble at times.
The question I wanted to ask is should I get diagnosed to be certain? Is there a benefit in knowing for sure and having it on record or will it haunt me later in life? Thanks to anyone who reads this whole thing. I'm just trying to understand myself better.
