Past determining my future

[Mary Terry]

But isn’t that what people do when they want to see if they can meet someone who could be a potential partner?

I go partly because I am often accused of just sitting at home. If I did just indeed sit at home, nothing would change.

I’ve addressed potentially having body odors and bad breath by washing under my arms and brushing my teeth/sucking on tic-tacs before I socialize. But if those things aren’t the problem, what could be? My anxiety? My face? My voice? My fat?

I've seen your picture and you look good to me. I think you just haven't met the right person. You're a "good catch", Mark, so please keep on going out and meeting people. Don't let your brother continue to haunt you from the past. You are you and he is he. Yall are two entirely different people. You are smart, kind and thoughtful and many women would love to connect with someone like you.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Also you are not alone others on here have same or vert similar issues. Bigger then being autistic, I for some reason never had issues attracting the other sex. Wish I knew the trick, could be self confidence.

 

[Azeth]

But isn’t that what people do when they want to see if they can meet someone who could be a potential partner?

Yes. That is the main goal. But there are other objectives you can include in it. Like Tree mentioned. You can seek things you personally enjoy while looking around and talking with others in hopes of making a connection that could lead to a relationship. If you are having fun, you'll be more comfortable to be open with others about yourself. Having tunnel vision with getting a girlfriend doesn't help you and doesn't help others get to know you.

I go partly because I am often accused of just sitting at home. If I did just indeed sit at home, nothing would change.

You are pigeonholing yourself to the idea that others think you are lazy for not going out more. Most people will not put alot of stock into it. Also if anyone is pointing it out. It's namely to get you to think about going out more.

Don't get me wrong. You are definitely right that sitting around will not change much of anything. But don't let other people, or the idea of what people think/say, control whether you do or do not go out to places. It's your decision. There is no pressure to do anything, aside from the pressure you put on yourself.

I’ve addressed potentially having body odors and bad breath by washing under my arms and brushing my teeth/sucking on tic-tacs before I socialize. But if those things aren’t the problem, what could be? My anxiety? My face? My voice? My fat?

Looks are not everything. They play a factor, but how you present yourself in your personality determines alot of it. Generally how you come off and act, basically.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Since joining this site I learned about masking, realized I was a extravert masked as a introvert. A lot of women are introverts by nature even the non ND, You have to get out their and mix. Now more then ever at your age. The ladies your age are realizing they are running out of time when it comes to biological clocks. Yes this is a thing. Nature. does not lie.

 

[tree]

@Markness
I am not suggesting you not go out.

What I was asking was whether you can enjoy
what you're doing when you are out, without
constantly evaluating each outing on the
basis of whether you met a potential mate.

 

[Markness]

‘19 Kids and Counting’ star Joseph Duggar looks disheveled in mugshot after allegedly admitting to molesting 9-year-old girl

So much for “family values”, eh?