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Past determining my future

Even though I mostly work with women, they tend to be in long term dating relationships or are married. I can’t even hang out with them platonically because their partners would get upset, according to them. This has really diminished social opportunities for me.
 
That sounds like there might be some kind of
communication failure going on. Maybe they
are misinterpreting your efforts to socialize
as other than what you intend.

Maybe if you suggested that you'd like to hang
out with both of them it would go over better.
Not give them the impression you're hitting on
them.

Have you tried suggesting that?
 
tree said:
That sounds like there might be some kind of
communication failure going on. Maybe they
are misinterpreting your efforts to socialize
as other than what you intend.

Maybe if you suggested that you'd like to hang
out with both of them it would go over better.
Not give them the impression you're hitting on
them.

Have you tried suggesting that?
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I haven’t thought of that. It just never crosses my mind.

The few times I’ve been invited to interact with couples, platonic as well as romantic, have only been if they are trying to include me somehow and it’s only happened after they got to know me.

Examples of the above scenarios: An older cousin and their dating partner or spouse. The daughter or son of a stepparent and their dating partner or spouse. A couple I’ve had friendly interactions with at a social place, event, or convention.
 
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It does take time to get to know a person.

So many times I have seen you remark about
*a new friend* when you've recently met someone.

Meeting a person and being friends aren't the
same thing.
 
One of my ex-friends I would sometimes go along when she had a friend or dating partner with her. The other ex-friend was with one of her former boyfriends when I got acquainted with her.
 
I apparently need to figure out how to be ok with being 37 and socially isolated somehow. This is still a challenge for me.
 
Tired said:
Why are they ex friends now?
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One moved away and then decided to call me one evening to tell me she wasn’t my friend anymore. The other person grew to dislike me and sent me a final message telling me both that she wasn’t my friend anymore as well as to “get your (mine) head out of your (mine again) ass.”
 
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