Aeolienne
Well-Known Member
When I was at university in the pre-social media age, there were a number of occasions when I was told the news that X and Y had got engaged and my reaction was "What? I didn't know they were going out together". Did anyone else have this experience? I wonder whether it was because the kind of people who got engaged at such a young age were abiding by traditional Christian edicts against sex before marriage and therefore were less physically demonstrative in public. Or should the reverse apply?
There was even a guy in my class I fancied, to the extent that I asked him out only for him to tell me that he had a girlfriend - and that was the first time I found out. Ouch. You may well ask why I didn't attempt to find out this information before making a pass, but there wasn't anyone I felt I could ask "Is he going out with anyone?" without risking them teasing me. Besides I thought I had seen him around often enough without an obvious significant other. How oblivious could I be...
I thought this kind of misunderstanding was all behind me now, but last weekend I was reminded of it again when someone told me "You know me and Z aren't together any more?" and all I could say was "I didn't know you were a couple!" I mentioned I was autistic by way of explanation (if indeed it is) and the guy said "So am I". Curiouser and curiouser...
There was even a guy in my class I fancied, to the extent that I asked him out only for him to tell me that he had a girlfriend - and that was the first time I found out. Ouch. You may well ask why I didn't attempt to find out this information before making a pass, but there wasn't anyone I felt I could ask "Is he going out with anyone?" without risking them teasing me. Besides I thought I had seen him around often enough without an obvious significant other. How oblivious could I be...
I thought this kind of misunderstanding was all behind me now, but last weekend I was reminded of it again when someone told me "You know me and Z aren't together any more?" and all I could say was "I didn't know you were a couple!" I mentioned I was autistic by way of explanation (if indeed it is) and the guy said "So am I". Curiouser and curiouser...
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