kyliewyote
Well-Known Member
Hi all --
I am an NT in a slowly progressing long distance relation with an Aspie, and things are comfortable for us, but he has preferred to not yet have any one know, which I respect.
In a recent trip, a neighbor that is nothing but ill will talked to me, and in a pretty crude way, asked if I was just there to get laid. I tried to brush it off, but he went on with "hey, take your clothes off, and put it out there". I didn't know what to say, and he said "ahhh, I guess you already have".
The next day, a co-worker of my Aspie said the neighbor blabbed that I had gone over, undressed in front of my Aspie, and then was whining "why won't he do me?". This neighbor is nothing but caustic, and my Aspie hates him.
Do I talk about it, or do I leave it? I don't want to light more of a fire and stir up more trouble than already exists, nor talk about it if it isn't something that my Aspie would ever hear (the neighbor and he do not talk). But it worries me that if he hears it, he may have some belief that I did talk to the neighbor.
From what I've read and experienced, some thought processes are very linear, and I'm afraid that if he hears it from the neighbor, he may believe it and not listen to me for what was really said.
And again, I don't want to stir trouble on the flip side if it's something that would never come up.
Blech....
I am an NT in a slowly progressing long distance relation with an Aspie, and things are comfortable for us, but he has preferred to not yet have any one know, which I respect.
In a recent trip, a neighbor that is nothing but ill will talked to me, and in a pretty crude way, asked if I was just there to get laid. I tried to brush it off, but he went on with "hey, take your clothes off, and put it out there". I didn't know what to say, and he said "ahhh, I guess you already have".
The next day, a co-worker of my Aspie said the neighbor blabbed that I had gone over, undressed in front of my Aspie, and then was whining "why won't he do me?". This neighbor is nothing but caustic, and my Aspie hates him.
Do I talk about it, or do I leave it? I don't want to light more of a fire and stir up more trouble than already exists, nor talk about it if it isn't something that my Aspie would ever hear (the neighbor and he do not talk). But it worries me that if he hears it, he may have some belief that I did talk to the neighbor.
From what I've read and experienced, some thought processes are very linear, and I'm afraid that if he hears it from the neighbor, he may believe it and not listen to me for what was really said.
And again, I don't want to stir trouble on the flip side if it's something that would never come up.
Blech....