mama_lotus
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My oldest son is going into kindergarten next year and a local mom thought it would be fun to get all of the families of kids in the class together for a party today.
Siblings were there of course, and my son and some other boys were outside playing on a hammock. I suspect my son is an Aspie but we have not had him evaluated yet as we are unsure about labels. Anyway, he came screaming inside that someone had sprayed bug spray on his tongue. He told me it was a 9 year old boy. I went outside and asked the kids to confess, of course none did. I also said 'you know, this is poison, that's a bad idea, don't do that," and suddenly they all went running inside to clean off their tongues. I think perhaps the boy sprayed it on my son's tongue to "be cool" but my son hated it, for a zillion different reasons, all very valid.
After that, the older boy had it in for him the rest of the party. At one point I heard him saying "What are you, stupid?" to my son because my son was having trouble getting his foot disentangled from the hammock. My son retorted "we don't say stupid!" and then the boy said "okay, then you're just weird. I knew it; you're weird." My heart just sank.
My son has always been popular with his preschool friends and this transition has me very worried.
I was severely bullied as a child and I am petrified that the same will be his fate. It eats at me.
I feel like it's my fault.
My son didn't seem too overly upset by the whole thing. He said he liked the kindergarten kids.
There will be other kindergarten play dates this summer, but I imagine siblings will be invited.
What would you do? I am afraid that if I don't bring him, he will start kindy at a disadvantage because all the kids already have established friendships. I'm afraid if I do bring him, that older boy will continue to bully him and it will put a target on my son's back before his elementary school career has even begun.
Siblings were there of course, and my son and some other boys were outside playing on a hammock. I suspect my son is an Aspie but we have not had him evaluated yet as we are unsure about labels. Anyway, he came screaming inside that someone had sprayed bug spray on his tongue. He told me it was a 9 year old boy. I went outside and asked the kids to confess, of course none did. I also said 'you know, this is poison, that's a bad idea, don't do that," and suddenly they all went running inside to clean off their tongues. I think perhaps the boy sprayed it on my son's tongue to "be cool" but my son hated it, for a zillion different reasons, all very valid.
After that, the older boy had it in for him the rest of the party. At one point I heard him saying "What are you, stupid?" to my son because my son was having trouble getting his foot disentangled from the hammock. My son retorted "we don't say stupid!" and then the boy said "okay, then you're just weird. I knew it; you're weird." My heart just sank.
My son has always been popular with his preschool friends and this transition has me very worried.
I was severely bullied as a child and I am petrified that the same will be his fate. It eats at me.
I feel like it's my fault.
My son didn't seem too overly upset by the whole thing. He said he liked the kindergarten kids.
There will be other kindergarten play dates this summer, but I imagine siblings will be invited.
What would you do? I am afraid that if I don't bring him, he will start kindy at a disadvantage because all the kids already have established friendships. I'm afraid if I do bring him, that older boy will continue to bully him and it will put a target on my son's back before his elementary school career has even begun.