My Biggest Fear

[DudBomb]

Is not knowing what will happen to me after my parents are gone. Although we don't get along most of the time, they are all I have. Currently I am a caregiver for my dad, for which i get $100 a month. I spend it on toiletries and hobbies. I haven't had a real job that lasted over a month in over eight years. They usually end in an anxiety fueled depression. I am afraid that a drastic change might push me over the edge. That I'll be just another statistic that has fallen under the radar. At the moment my official diagnosis is, major depression moderate, borderline personality disorder, social anxiety/phobia, and self diagnosed ASD.

 

[xudo]

Is not knowing what will happen to me after my parents are gone. Although we don't get along most of the time, they are all I have. Currently I am a caregiver for my dad, for which i get $100 a month. I spend it on toiletries and hobbies. I haven't had a real job that lasted over a month in over eight years. They usually end in an anxiety fueled depression. I am afraid that a drastic change might push me over the edge. That I'll be just another statistic that has fallen under the radar. At the moment my official diagnosis is, major depression moderate, borderline personality disorder, social anxiety/phobia, and self diagnosed ASD.

I can understand this fear. Are there any services where you live for adults with mental health issues?

There maybe services out there too for adults on the spectrum, however mostly the help is geared towards children. I would imagine some places won't offer any help unless you have an official diagnosis, but even getting this as an adult can be difficult and expensive if you live in a country without free healthcare.

 

[Suzanne]

Oh my, how I get you!

I used to have a very similar fear but mine was due to living in a different country and relying very heavily on my husband. He is the worker and thus, the earner and he is the one who drives.

I guess due to being a realistic person, I could not help face the facts that if something happened to him, I would be in dire straights! I tried to share this with him, but he is an idealist and so, just shrugged it off and said: we will be ok!

It only changed when, first, he revealed that if he does die before me, that I have a decent sum of money coming to me and then, I discovered I can drive ( automatic only) and so, combined, I know longer fear the future.

 

[OkRad]

Is not knowing what will happen to me after my parents are gone. Although we don't get along most of the time, they are all I have. Currently I am a caregiver for my dad, for which i get $100 a month. I spend it on toiletries and hobbies. I haven't had a real job that lasted over a month in over eight years. They usually end in an anxiety fueled depression. I am afraid that a drastic change might push me over the edge. That I'll be just another statistic that has fallen under the radar. At the moment my official diagnosis is, major depression moderate, borderline personality disorder, social anxiety/phobia, and self diagnosed ASD.

DudBomb------I live in this fear, too. It is more of a terror and it's so bad I considered suicide to avoid it. I am like 12 and have no idea how I will cope.

I am very fortunate to have family that cares for me. Do you? I have a variety of family members who will not let me be homeless and yet I fear it ebcause of mysnesory issues and also NOT WANTING TO BE A BURDEN!!

I do not htink I would end my life because they love me. But when my parents die, the emotional shock will be horrific and my cause me to go psychotic. We did not always get a long and that will be very very hard to cope wtih.

I just want to let you know you are not alone.

I live in a place where there are no services. I am in the US now and it's really bad. Being homeless is a punishment and you deserve it because you are a bad person. (Not what I think!!!!)

THey did studies on how much less it costs just to F-ING HOUSE PEOPLE ALREADY and STILL, the people were like "HELL NO I am not giving anyone somehting for nothong). WHy USA can't get universal health care. they don't realize it is CHEAPER AND MORE EFFECTIVE!

At any rate, no help there.,.............

Maybe people should start their own group homes.

 

[Warmheart]

A suggestion to help:

Find a good counselor-- in advance. He/she can help you through processing feelings, help you feel understood, guide you in developing a great tool kit of coping skills, and challenge any negative/distorted thinking. A good counselor helps you develop and become aware of your strengths.

It may take a few tries to find the ideal match, or you may encounter the right counselor right off. Best success!