Kayla Joanne
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hi, i know i dont post a lot on here, but my fiancee has aspergers and we fight a LOT, mainly because i'm not being too blunt, but i dont know how i can be more straightforwward with him.... ? our last argument was tonight because i went to a party and he felt uncomfortable with me going, and i understand that completely. but i very simply stated that nothing would have happened to me, that everyone i was with would have made sure i was okay (i was the younges there, i'm only 18 and it was in a part of my town that has a reputation for some troublemakers). i told him exactly what happened, because one guy decided to say he was going to take advantage of me and the other girls that were there (nobody touched me or anyone else, so it's okay there)(by the way, the guy got his a** handed to him and is now on the run). but i assured him multiple times that the people i was with i felt safe around and if i didnt feel safe i would not have gone or stayed the night, it was around three am before i realized how late it was, so we just crashed there. i very plainly told him that i felt he did not trust me or the people that i was with (and he knows them very well, its my brother and his fiancee, whom i like a lot) and that was the reason i was getting so angry. i can understand that he doesnt pick up on some things, but how could i put that more clearly or in a different way so he'll understand? i hate fighting with him but i always feel like i could be doing something different.... if there's any other suggestions on how to handle him when he's stubborn and wont listen or hear me out, i'd like to hear them. any help is appreciated, thanks.