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Meetup.com needs to be banned.

Tony Ramirez said:
I, am just about to delete my damn account. I went to another board game meetup at Bryant Park and yes I went up to them they still iced me out.

Got an security guard who tried to make amends to the supervisor but after they still ignored me all one big click of nerd's. Even the nerds ostracize me.
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That may well say much more about them than about yourself.

Reminds me of wasting a few years with a plastic model club. Lots of little cliques that left me on the outside, despite my talent as a modeller which was at least acknowledged by them. Yet they never intended to let me in either.

But then I'm just going out of my way with too many words which really needs only one- "cliques". :(

And still wondering whether or not highly specialized interests actually encourage the existence of toxic cliques that most of us should probably avoid like the plague.
 
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My life's mission is to get this app shutdown. Because of it, I purposely had near misses with cars about 30 times this year because after going to a meetup I don't care if I die.
 
Masked Man said:
I would be very interested to learn more about this part.

Why would amends need to be made to anyone. What happened?
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That nice guard is not there no more, like that nice young new age woman. Now they have mean Spanish and black male guards and rude teenage staff members who are racist against autistic people and kicked me out twice, once for passing out because I was ignored a meetup event at that park and today again another board game where I was ignored.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
My life's mission is to get this app shutdown. Because of it, I purposely had near misses with cars about 30 times this year because after going to a meetup I don't care if I die.
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Yeah, that'll really fix'em Tony.
They can't screw you around.
They'll have to suffer for it by being responsible for your death.

Do you recognize the above as an example meant to elicit a reaction?
An attempt to shock you into more rational thought?
Because that's what is it.

Please tell me how you figure putting yourself in front of traffic
endangering your life is the best way for your social
experiences to improve.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
My life's mission is to get this app shutdown. Because of it, I purposely had near misses with cars about 30 times this year because after going to a meetup I don't care if I die.
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Many other people enjoy meetups. Just because YOU don't know how to act around people at meetups doesn't mean you should be able to stop THEM from having a good time. Jealousy is an ugly look on everyone, including you.

Talk to your therapist, Tony. You're sliding back into another irrational angry phase. You're regressing.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I regressed since college. College ruined my life forever that only death can cure.
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Any number of persons attend college initially only to find that it wasn't the right thing for them. Not to mention that it's a place to go for a very formal education- not a social experience. It's not a crime to discover that pursuing such a thing may not be right for you.

With college, you and so many others simply "bit off more than you could chew".

It doesn't reflect failure, but serves as a means for you to set about in another direction. Perhaps attend a vocational program that is considerably shorter and more focused than four years of college with so many courses that hold no interest or understanding for you.

I went to vocational school in my forties. It's never too late to try something else.
 
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I love computers, but I suck at math. What the hell can I do school wise? I can never get good at math, I have and will always have a 2nd grade math education.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I love computers, but I suck at math.
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So do I.

Yet I spent years in insurance doing math every day. But percentages, interpolation and rate tables...not rocket science. Later to become a website designer and manager. In a vocational program that had no math.

You may have no aptitude for actual programming, but then neither did I. It didn't stop me.

The main things you do need at all times are to be more confident yet patient in your abilities, and to persevere. To be prepared never to give up and follow through in whatever must be done.
 
No I'm really bad at math I can barely count change. I am the only dumb person who can't understand it.

Every time I try to learn it I get physically violent.
 
Look, today has you really down. I have things l can't do, but l have others things that l do, that really shock people. You need to find out what you are good at by trying different things. That is kinda
of the definition of life, trying to . find out where you fit in, and what you are good at. Some of us get a break, and figure it out fast. Others spend their lifetime trying to find what they excel at.
 
I enjoy gardening too. I have a patch of oregano that has been coming back every year(not much does where I live) and I let it flower up this year. I plan to let it go to seed and see how much seed I can collect and grow seedlings over the winter to give to friends in the spring
 
Tony Ramirez said:
I regressed since college. College ruined my life forever that only death can cure.
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I noticed the only person you never blame for your problems is yourself. It's always someone or something else - college, women, the universe, etc. In reality, college did not ruin your life. You ruined your life by thinking negatively, blaming others for your problems, and making bad choices. You are the only one who can improve your situation. Until you quit blaming others for your problems, accept responsibility for your situation, and make the changes your therapist and others have recommended, your life is not going to get better.
 
Okay the ones who are always putting me down you know who they hell you are all are. I am avoiding the places that trigger me. Now I actually walk around Bryant Park to get to the 40th Street Church, which is great after how ableist that park is towards autistic people. I also stopped going to all meetups mainly because they made me worse but better because now they conflict with my garden volunteer and 40th Street Church plans.

I now volunteer in two community gardens. I find I like gardening work has been good for me as it doesn't require book smart unlike computers which they won't even let me touch one, even though I know more than they do on how to use one because I don't have a bachelor's degree in mopping floors.
 
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