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Featured Label Fear?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by ImSensing, May 6, 2019.

  1. Progster

    Progster Gone sideways to the sun V.I.P Member

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    The media's vision and portrayal of ASD is often very much based on outmoded stereotypes, so I wouldn't pay any attention to what the media say. Look around here, you will see a whole bunch of people in all walks of life, with different skills, abilities, life experiences, personalities - yes, we have difficulties and challenges, but our label needn't define or limit us. Personally, I was glad of the diagnosis, it came as a relief to have an explanation for the social, relationship and employment difficulties that dogged me through my life. I'm a different kind of human being, but still a human being. To quote Temple Grandin, different, but not less.
     
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  2. Major Tom

    Major Tom Searching for ground control... V.I.P Member

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    Welcome to the forums. No label will change who you are by the way, you are the same person before and after diagnosis. :)
     
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  3. Xerces Blue

    Xerces Blue Evil Overload

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    I was first introduced to the idea of me having aspergers was when my mom was doing research about my nephew who is also on the spectrum with a much more extreme case than me.
    I knew my experiences, feelings and perception was different from most kids
    When my mom told me she thought I might have aspergers I was hurt and angry.
    But I know my mom is not a stupid woman so I looked into it more and saw how symptoms and my experiences matched up.
    I fell into depression for several years
    What finally brought me out of it was talking to my best friend about it - I didn't want to talk to him about it until then because I was worried about appearing weak, This perception was a huge mistake, If I had done something like this sooner I could have cut out years of pain from my life.
    My friend helped me look at things from another perspective and how we complement each other, This helped me see the value in my life.
    I looked into it more thinking about how the typical applied to me and how it worked for and against me, I no longer looked at it in a negative view, but as just something I needed to account for in my planning. (I am an evil overlord after all ;))
     
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  4. ImSensing

    ImSensing Active Member

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    Thank you, I do feel less lonely with your response. I’m trying to discover the strengths that come from this. I’m glad you had such a great friend that helped you discover something about yourself that ultimately pointed towards clarity and relief. Thanks for your input.
     
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  5. ImSensing

    ImSensing Active Member

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    Thanks Major Tom- maybe that’s what I’m afraid of! .
     
  6. ImSensing

    ImSensing Active Member

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    I can feel you on being upset about the suggestion... when it was mentioned to me about being on the spectrum I felt a sense of doom. Sort of still do to be honest because it is all very recent. But people like you in the forum are positive and encouraging about the ways that a spectrum diagnosis can mean less suffering by giving yourself permission to design new customized life strategies for yourself.