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Featured Is this patronizing, or am I overthinking things?

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by KagamineLen, Nov 16, 2020.

  1. Au Naturel

    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    I don't see how this either demonstrates "relativism" or "agree to disagree." The lady is flat out stating that he's wrong and she has no respect for him. You don't say something like that to anybody if you think they might be right or if you think they are wrong but still hold them in high regard.

    Genuine respect is a rare thing in this world.
     
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  2. Meistersinger

    Meistersinger Well-Known Member

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    It could be worse. 9 times out of 10, I get the rejoinder “Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one, and they all stink!” (Which is why I seldom express my opinion, since most people consider me to be an ass. They’re ALWAYS RIGHT, AND I’M ALWAYS WRONG, EVEN IF I CAN PROVE 50 WAYS TO SUNDAY THAT I WAS RIGHT!)
     
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  3. Kit

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    "That's your opinion" is another way of saying "you're wrong." It would annoy me too. It's very dismissive IMO.
     
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    Raggamuffin Well-Known Member

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    They're probably agreeing to disagree, whilst coming off a little passive aggressive in the process.

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  5. Rat

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    Wow that sounds genuinely annoying. I have a feeling she is doing this in order to not be confrontational or something and just uses it as a cop out.
     
  6. _eri_bellehumeur

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    I'm maybe misinterpreting this. Is she saying this about actual opinions that could in some vein be considered controversial, or things like "I think ramen is delicious"? lol.

    Regardless, that sounds very irritating. Perhaps it's just her version of one of those phrases people say to ensure others that they're listening, like "cool" or "interesting", and she doesn't understand that it can be taken to insinuate passive-aggressive questioning of others?
     
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  7. Ylva

    Ylva Well-Known Member V.I.P Member It's My Birthday!

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    Does she mean that it's your opinion that you like the thing you said you liked? Because that is actually a fact. "This thing is likeable" would be an opinion.
     
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