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Is that a normal response?

megacomic

megacomic

Just that awkward guy.
My friends grandma passed away and I saw her crying.I dont think she told anyone else about her grandma passing. So I comforted her while she was crying and told her I cared about her and now she is avoiding me. She's been communicating with all of our other friends but ignores me. I don't know what I did wrong. I'm starting to get angry.
 
I would venture to suggest she misunderstood your attempt at sympathy as: I care about you, translates: I have romantic feelings for you.

If she knows you have aspergers, she ought to realise you meant it in the purist sense.
 
Suzanne said:
I would venture to suggest she misunderstood your attempt at sympathy as: I care about you, translates: I have romantic feelings for you.

If she knows you have aspergers, she ought to realise you meant it in the purist sense.
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That was my first thought too. If she's got that impression then it might look to her like you were trying to take advantage of her grief. There could be other explanations though.
 
Back in the 70's they had these Bop bags you could order in the Sears catalog, etc. Maybe they have something similar today.

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Onna said:
The only way to find out what you did wrong is to ask her
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The experience of grieving is a very stressful and disturbing mental state of mind for anyone. One of the affects of deep seated grief is one's own confusion in relation to one's environment. What people say and how others act and react can be very ambiguous. I'm sure your intentions, although most admirable, was misunderstood. Don't let your own response of rejection cloud the main issue. Attempt to evaluate and relate to her perspective, considering the circumstances in which the misunderstanding occurred, then provide a more clear explanation. If she still rejects you, then at least you made an honest effort to remedy and can gain personal closure.
 
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