Profmom
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For years, our son has gotten in trouble at school for using foul language when he's being picked on by kids. Three times this year he's gotten in trouble for doing this with teachers too. Every time he swears up and down that he doesn't do this, and he gets really upset that we don't believe him. When everybody else in the room hears the same thing, though, there's no denying it. He's a bad liar and hardly ever lies to start with (we got lucky there), and he seems genuinely surprised and upset when this happens.
He was just diagnosed with Aspergers not even two months ago, so we're still trying to sort out what's typical for a 12-year-old and what might be related to his Aspergers and ADHD. Could he be saying these things but not be aware of it or remember it? He's never remembered what happens during his tantrums (he is embarrassed when he finds out what he said or did). But swearing at other kids and teachers when he's angry? It's not like he's in a big tantrum. He's just mouthing off when he's angry or frustrated.
We just can't figure out how to give any consequences for his behavior, if at all, if we don't know the cause of it.
Does anybody have experience with this?
Thanks!
He was just diagnosed with Aspergers not even two months ago, so we're still trying to sort out what's typical for a 12-year-old and what might be related to his Aspergers and ADHD. Could he be saying these things but not be aware of it or remember it? He's never remembered what happens during his tantrums (he is embarrassed when he finds out what he said or did). But swearing at other kids and teachers when he's angry? It's not like he's in a big tantrum. He's just mouthing off when he's angry or frustrated.
We just can't figure out how to give any consequences for his behavior, if at all, if we don't know the cause of it.
Does anybody have experience with this?
Thanks!