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In Praise of Our Moderators!!!

Discussion in 'Site Questions, Suggestions & Feedback' started by Sportster, Apr 3, 2016.

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  1. Sportster

    Sportster Aged to Perfection V.I.P Member

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    I just want to praise and thank our moderators for keeping a watchful eye over our little community and keeping it a safe place for everyone. The recent unpleasantness addressed by King shows they care and are able to exercise wisdom and discretion without being heavy-handed in their efforts.

    So, hats off to our moderators!!!

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  2. qwerty

    qwerty Sight seeing on the planet of the apes

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    please tell me [​IMG]@King_Oni, what direction this thread took that got it finally removed?
    the individual who has been banned had been up until now freely able to post inflammatory
    and offensive material of which you personally were fully aware of and even stated that you
    were "fine" with the content of his posts and allowed him to continue posting, even stating
    just how clearly you see these posts,,,,,,,,but are somehow still cool with the content!

    and a wee smiley face.
    in your post on free speech:

    "Bringing up a seemingly taboo topic such as child pornography and brushing it off as anything but a terrible thing doesn't sit well with many members. It's disruptive in the most extreme way."

    when you had not only been aware of this individuals postings on child pornography, but condoned it by stating you did not object to the content.


    you go on to say in your free speech letter
    "There are a few other topics that might not appeal to everyone because of how they were raised or where they currently reside. Gay rights don't sit well with everyone, some people might be a bit more conservative, and that's fine."


    the only topic mentioned by name is gay rights.
    are you seriously stating that the fundamental rights of gay people should be considered
    as taboo as child pornography?

    i believe it was irresponsible of King_Oni to allow and condone such content to be continually posted.
     
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  3. King_Oni

    King_Oni Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    You are reading way more into it than you should... There's a reason the thread with said statement has been locked, as I don't think it should be up for debate. This is how we (forum staff) dealt with it.

    Questioning every single sentence and putting it on a scale is unneccesary IMO. Also, be glad we, as staff, took care of it. Or would you prefer we leave people like the individual who got banned going around on the forum?

    I'm not going to discuss said statement I posted.

    Also, by the amount exclamation marks in your post, I think your response is way too emotionally biased and unless you're able to form a rational response that's not colored by a lot of scalding and screaming, I'm not going to deal with this. Get rid of that emotional bias and I might be able to have a calm and rational conversation here...

    Here's a thought thought; instead of complaining how I haven't stepped in earlier on the topic. Has it occured to you that I might not have been overly active in the last few days (for whatever reason) and busy not to read a full thread. However, when I got word of the thread, I took time to read it and didn't hesitate to take it down. Let's put it differently; I'm the bad guy? There's a full team of staffers here, but because I care shed some light on the issue, suddenly I'm the bad guy.

    Really, get of your crate and consider a few other things without you screaming here...

    If this is the kind of behaviour a bit of transparency evokes when it comes to troublesome threads of which I, or any other staffers choose to speak out, consider this to be the last time we offer any kind of transperancy, since clearly it's not welcome by some people. We apparently will be policed on how we word something, and people will take everything literal while totally missing the clue, we're trying to make.

    The community thanks you for closing this door... (oh, and here's a wee little smiley face for you :) )

    PS; feel free to contact the other admin or staffers... I'm done for now and not open for any further replies about this.
     
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  4. Sportster

    Sportster Aged to Perfection V.I.P Member

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    I'm sorry this thread has seemed to elicit such emotion, as its original intended purpose was to express MY thanks and praise to all the moderators and not single out just one. I mentioned King because of his action to quell a situation that was escalating; the OP's other posts were evidence of that. Such action, not taken lightly, is what keeps Aspies Central and safe and enjoyable place for everyone.

    Rather than have this thread turn into something ugly, I've asked that it be locked.
     
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    Cosmophylla (coz-MOFF-illa) V.I.P Member

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    I apologise, Sportster. I was out of line posting in your thread.
     
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    Sportster Aged to Perfection V.I.P Member

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    There is no need to apologize, as your post was not the problem.
     
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  7. qwerty

    qwerty Sight seeing on the planet of the apes

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    i am sorry Sportster for making my statement on your thread.
    i think the rest of the moderators here do an excellent job and deserve
    acknowledgement and praise for the time and effort they put into providing
    such a safe, transparent and friendly atmosphere for us.

    However i believe King_Oni dropped the ball big time by condoning the
    offensive content being posted by a member here. King_Oni did not point
    out to this individual that the content of his posts were not appropriate,
    this individual had very poor comprehension and actually asked outright
    "what it was that he was posting could get him in trouble" King_Oni stated
    that the content of his posts were fine which led this individual to continue
    to post similar inflammatory and offensive subjects and his banning from
    the site.

    i believe it is important to acknowledge the good work that our moderators
    put in for this site and agree with Sportster that a thread to offer our thanks
    is a wonderful idea.
    i also believe it is irresponsible to not point out when a moderator has done
    something wrong and in King_Oni case i believe his mishandling of this situation
    deserves to be highlighted. i also believe his post regarding free speech should
    be reworded as in its current wording it is very offensive to the gay community.

    i was angry and emotional when i posted my message here and have edited out
    many of the exclamation points, i still stand by it's content however.

    this community has become something of a family to me and i strongly believe
    to grow stronger members need to not just hoover up the praise but also
    acknowledge their mistakes.
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    A good rule of thumb in maintaining good relations and the lines of communication open is 'Praise in public, Criticize in private'.
     
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    qwerty Sight seeing on the planet of the apes

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    i personally believe that leads to an unhealthy community.
    thank you for your feedback Tom
     
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    Perhaps I am operating from a place of naïveté as usual; I feel our community can have open public discussions even when the going gets a bit rocky & tough.
    ~ k
    <3
     
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    qwerty

    Where is the statement you are referring to
    as the "free speech" letter?
     
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    I VERY strongly agree.
     
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    Please, I started this thread to acknowledge our moderators. Despite some of the disagreements on the way things were handled in other threads, this thread was not started to discuss or debate those issues. Please respect the original premise of this thread and discontinue the discussion about the "free speech letter." That would be better served in a thread of its own.

    Thank you.
     
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    With respect Sportster er: I understand your discomfort here, however, I do not need to be instructed as to how to proceed with my communication. I would very much like to finish the discussion. And, thank you.
     
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    Ste11aeres Moderator Staff Member

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    No...I think the meaning was exactly the opposite. I think he was contrasting them. I think what he meant was that there are some things that can be talked about despite the fact that some people might get offended, some things where people can agree to disagree, and he used gay rights as an example of such things.

    And there are other things that are simply unacceptable. And child pornography is in that category.

    King_Oni, you can tell me if I interpreted that correctly. tree, I'm tagging you since you were curious. tachyon, I'm tagging you since you're part of this conversation too.
     
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    I don't think qwerty was complaining about the thread being locked (nor how tardy that action was taken) - he had an issue with you condoning a statement by the banned member regarding images of children.
    Again - qwerty was not complaining about an individual being banned, but rather the reaction to his (?) comments.
    Very mature :)
    I didn't see qwerty's response as emotional screaming. Please point to the emotive words in his post.
    Again - qwerty was not criticising the tardy removal of the thread (and member) he was criticising your acceptance of that members premise (i.e.: that you had no problem with the content of his post).
    This paragraph seems to be closing the door on genuine transparency.
    Sarcasm? Perhaps not appropriate for such a serious matter.
     
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    I believe the juxtaposition of those two issues is totally inappropriate.
     
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    Brent Administrator Staff Member Admin

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    Please do not use this thread to debate moderator actions.
    Please open a private communication with all staff to discuss this.
     
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