I want to make a new friend - ideas?

[MROSS]

Anybody reassess this discussion-thread?

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Most of my friends , I made in school grade 4 after we moved still friends, another in college now know both of us are Aspies, another at work similar educations both of us are technologists he passed away. joined this site to find a few more why I started a few threads, looking for common interests. Not easy as an Aspie as we tend to be too weird.

 

[MROSS]

Quite awhile ago, I had partipated in arts-programs for special-needs adults. These arts programs shut-down during the COVID pandemic, and not been reopened.

I had found it beneficial to become acquainted with staff, and arts instructors who understood how to best serve handicapped adults - even though, staff, and instructors may have not had personal experiences with special needs adults.

If there are any arts-programs in your area - sign-up and have those beneficial experiences.

 

[MROSS]

Quite awhile ago, I had partipated in arts-programs for special-needs adults. These arts programs shut-down during the COVID pandemic, and not been reopened.

I had found it beneficial to become acquainted with staff, and arts instructors who understood how to best serve handicapped adults - even though, staff, and instructors may have not had personal experiences with special needs adults.

If there are any arts-programs in your area - sign-up and have those beneficial experiences.

Thank-you for the 'Friendly' vote. Any experiences with participating (or considering participation) in arts programs, and becoming acquainted with arts-program staff, participants?

 

[ManuelXX]

Usually it's possible to make friends when you're involved in groups activities. I have read that you have lots of interests so you should, in my opinion, try to find a group where you can take part to activities related to an interest. Making that, you will make new friends easily

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Best way to make friends for us is one on one also find a fellow Aspie, noticed over the years like likes like. Noticed over the years most NT's turn into just acquaintances. as they are different from us, different interest different ways of socializing. Once I self diagnosed noticed this my real friends were fellow Aspies. Even among my brothers. My closest friend special interest is trees, mine is physics we still get along great went to same college equally bright.

 

[MROSS]

Usually it's possible to make friends when you're involved in groups activities. I have read that you have lots of interests so you should, in my opinion, try to find a group where you can take part to activities related to an interest. Making that, you will make new friends easily

Any actual experiences would boost this discussion thread's objectives.

 

[MROSS]

Best way to make friends for us is one on one also find a fellow Aspie, noticed over the years like likes like. Noticed over the years most NT's turn into just acquaintances. as they are different from us, different interest different ways of socializing. Once I self diagnosed noticed this my real friends were fellow Aspies. Even among my brothers. My closest friend special interest is trees, mine is physics we still get along great went to same college equally bright.

As mentioned about NT staff in arts programs, NT staff may become more than just acquaintances.

 

[RemyZee]

The joining groups is a good idea. But for me, like many of us auties, the whole process of hanging out in groups is discombobulating and tiring. I NEVER just enjoy it, but I do crave friendship. I have been trying to make friends and have found that when I instrumentalize the internet and reach out to interesting strangers with questions about what they are doing, or to compliment something they've created or done--I've found it's a very good way to get to know people, so whenever I come across someone online that's very interesting to me, I don't hesitate to contact them. They have almost always emailed back. For instance, I once when I was doing some research happened upon a linguist and physics professor who works at a university in Melbourne. I found him online because of some interesting writing he'd done. I learned that he was a linguist and physicist, and wrote to him to compliment him on his work and ask questions. Now I still correspond occasionally with this physics and linguistics professor, and I do see him as a friend. I learned that he is an advisor to major naval officers and I learned what he had done with them. So much interesting stuff. On another occasion, I'd been trying to learn street photography. I discovered a man online who was doing amazing work in New York and wrote to him, sending my own pics, asking for advice, and complimenting him. He wrote back, we started a correspondence and now I have an incredible photographer to talk about pictures with and to ask questions. And nowadays, I've been corresponding with two Australian women who do justice and reconciliation work--relationships I am so excited about. We have deep correspondences talking about all kinds of world issues. I am not a person with friends, but I have found by doing this method I do wind up developing relations with people and I do regard some of them as friends. The email format helps a lot, allows me not to worry about the words coming out. But people take it as a compliment when you are impressed by something they do that corresponds with your own work, they like answering questions about their passions, and you meet very interesting people that way.

 

[MROSS]

The joining groups is a good idea. But for me, like many of us auties, the whole process of hanging out in groups is discombobulating and tiring. I NEVER just enjoy it, but I do crave friendship. I have been trying to make friends and have found that when I instrumentalize the internet and reach out to interesting strangers with questions about what they are doing, or to compliment something they've created or done--I've found it's a very good way to get to know people, so whenever I come across someone online that's very interesting to me, I don't hesitate to contact them. They have almost always emailed back. For instance, I once when I was doing some research happened upon a linguist and physics professor who works at a university in Melbourne. I found him online because of some interesting writing he'd done. I learned that he was a linguist and physicist, and wrote to him to compliment him on his work and ask questions. Now I still correspond occasionally with this physics and linguistics professor, and I do see him as a friend. I learned that he is an advisor to major naval officers and I learned what he had done with them. So much interesting stuff. On another occasion, I'd been trying to learn street photography. I discovered a man online who was doing amazing work in New York and wrote to him, sending my own pics, asking for advice, and complimenting him. He wrote back, we started a correspondence and now I have an incredible photographer to talk about pictures with and to ask questions. And nowadays, I've been corresponding with two Australian women who do justice and reconciliation work--relationships I am so excited about. We have deep correspondences talking about all kinds of world issues. I am not a person with friends, but I have found by doing this method I do wind up developing relations with people and I do regard some of them as friends. The email format helps a lot, allows me not to worry about the words coming out. But people take it as a compliment when you are impressed by something they do that corresponds with your own work, they like answering questions about their passions, and you meet very interesting people that way.

Thank-you for sharing your experiences.

Refer to responses back from my post (post #20) on arts-programs to the present responses in this disc. thread.

Arts-programs offer experiences other thant the "same-same, same-old" social scenes.