Looking forward to hearing about your adventure when you get back.
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I find my life has no point currently.
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Ditto!
Boy oh boy ,,most of the above positive suggestions do a good job of making great suggestions, and Love Thai Food must look up Pink Soup. But seriously ,if you can get away from screen time.. It will pay the best benefits, I feel . A physical task that you could develop an interest in . Could be a benefit . Or even if you need extra push, sign up for a class, for something physical that may benefit you. Or grow to be a side job. or just help people?
Good suggestions, JayCee.
It looks like it might have to wait until a week from now. Freeway closures for road construction. I will go to the farmer's market instead, see some free live music, pick up some kombucha and some fresh produce, watch the people for a while, wave at every dog passing by.
Dang it.
But a good backup plan.
I think nearly everyone feels the same way. I know many experts consider this desire to be connected to something outside oneself to be a biological need. Throughout history, most people met this need through family. Before modern transportation, extended families often lived together or near each other so that most people always felt connected to others who loved them. I find that nothing comes close to the benefits of good relationships and rewarding social interactions. Studies have found that the happiest people had good, close relationships while depressed people tended to be alone and feel socially disconnected.
It's unfortunate that limited transportation makes it difficult for you to meet and interact with others. I too have found that TV, the Internet, and other non-social activities can't make me happy. I wish I had good advice to offer. I just wanted to say I understand, feel similarly, and hope things get better for you.
Excellent back up plan ....sounds lovely . Sorry on the Freeway..When younger had learned of the lovely past time of people watching. Found often, that I was afraid of people being anxious about my watching them. So often either dark or blue coloured glasses and a cup of coffee became part of the routine , for the watching part. And lovely ,you were able to add healthy food shopping and music,to your experience.
I was a sociology and urban studies undergrad major. I still remember that we spent a lot of time studying alienation. With capitalism and the bottom line being the almighty dollar, it's difficult to live in a Western country without having feelings of alienation and isolation. What I've found living in a small, Hispanic country like Ecuador is that alienation is less of a problem because the bottom line here is the people and not so much the almighty dollar. And to most of the Western world, Ecuador is a "third world country" even though we have universal health care and people can study in public universities whereby the government pays for tuition, books, room, and board. The only mandate is that college graduates promise to live and work in Ecuador for a minimum of three year after earning their college degree(s).
I had fun going out today then taking a nice nap in the afternoon when I got back home. I am going to cook some tacos for dinner then watch some movies. People were friendly at the Farmer's Market. The live music was great fun to watch and listen to. And once again, I avoided the mead vendor. $35 for a bottle of mead is pretty pricey anyway.
Is the Farmer's Market within walking distance or how did you get there?
Lolzzz...Mead Vendor..
...My tolerance for alchohol is pretty low,, but mead, is hard to turn down sometimes . More power to you for having resilience .
...Hope you had a lovely day ,inspite .. Getting out and fresh air all by itself can do very nice things for depressive states btw . Or so I have been told .
...My tolerance for alchohol is pretty low,, but mead, is hard to turn down sometimes . More power to you for having resilience ....Hope you had a lovely day ,inspite .. Getting out and fresh air all by itself can do very nice things for depressive states btw . Or so I have been told .It sounds like you have a vision, but no clear objectives or plans.
Vision (There are other ways of saying this but "vision" is concise
A famous example of a vision is MS-guy's: "A PC on every desktop, and MS software on every PC"
Important: He never planned to build PC's. That was the expected environment, but it was far from true at that time.
The point: you can't plan without an opinion about the future.
It's ok (actually good) to have a plan of sorts at this level, but it will be, of necessity rather vague.
Plans.
Start by splitting into Strategic and Tactical. Again, there are other ways of saying that, and other ways to "slice and dice" planning. Two "layers" below "visionary" is a convenient starting point, and often sufficient.
A strategic plan might be thought of as defining a direction that can be followed, and defining some milestones.
A tactical plan can be seen as the steps needed to get to the next milestone.
More generally, IRL there may well be several tactical plans being performed in parallel. So you split them up carefully, because at this level you want to turn the plans into a sequence of specific, bounded activities.
Prioritizing sequence, activities and timing.
At some point you have to choose one activity to perform now.
This is one of mankind's great challenges of course, and it's very easy to get distracted, diverted, or discouraged.
But look at it this way: the only way evolution managed to keep humanity going is with powerful urges and significant discomfort.
Even breathing is somewhat voluntary, and has to be forced (weirdly, it's triggered by internal CO2 levels rather than low oxygen levels, but evolution (like individuals) works on effectiveness, not logic
So that last part of this: actually getting things done means sometimes going against your nature.
Not performing your plan will often be the easy choice.
But if you have a plan, it works against avoidance, distraction, and displacement activities.
It's not magic though - it's called "work" for a reason.
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