I am gay and I hate it when people ask me this question.

[Jonn]

She claimed my lack of interest in penetrating a vagina was proof I had misogyny. A damn stupid argument.

Yep.
No offence, but your sister doesn't sound all that bright.

BTW:
I have always been penetration-averse, yet I am a cis heterosexual man.
My having always been an antinatalist had everything to do with that.
A Philosophical/ethical/moral condom, as it were.

 

[Metalhead]

Thanks for the support from most of the people here. And also, thanks to the mods.

My sister asked me a loaded question when I was already feeling like crap, and I may have overreacted.

 

[Metalhead]

I really should stay offline when I am feeling physically ill.

 

[Jonn]

My sister asked me a loaded question when I was already feeling like crap, and I may have overreacted.

Overreacting is your autistic superpower.

 

[Metalhead]

Overreacting is your autistic superpower.

Very bloody true.

 

[vergil96]

Does she know you're gay? Sorry if that's a stupid question if you came out to her, but it sounds like she doesn't know

 

[AuroraBorealis]

I would probably just have been really confused about that question. It doesn't make any logical sense.

It would be like asking me, an asexual person, "who would you sleep with, though?"

Uhm... no one? Someone being exceptionally physically attractive in the conventional sense still wouldn't change my sexuality? Should I explain once again to you what the definition of asexuality is? Thanks for the question though?

Some people have a hard time understanding. If you feel better next time with your sister, you could of course try to figure out what it actually is she wants to ask you. Otherwise, I'd just ignore that. You don't have to accept open intolerance, though.

If you need to feel accepted, we're here for you.

 

[Ken]

Homophobia is pervasive in our culture:

Yep. From my perspective, homophobia, racism, speciesism, and all forms of bigotry, seem to be one of humanities greatest evils.

 

[Aspychata]

Your family has issues, are you sure they didn't swap you at the hospital? Last nite, l was able to show how l raised my ND daughter, letting her pursue her interests as my mom listened. So different from my mom's lack of care or concern.

 

[Judge]

My sister asked me a loaded question when I was already feeling like crap, and I may have overreacted.

Had it been from a total stranger, I could see this. However it was your own sister. I don't think you overreacted under the circumstances. From my perspective it did seem like a loaded question.

Reminding me of my own brother, and how he habitually treats and expects everyone to react as the NT who he is. Without any thought or compassion of persons who are different from him.

What does it take for those persons in our closest social circles not to necessarily understand or relate to us, but rather just to accept we are "different" in some ways ?

 

[Aspychata]

I grew up in California, gay men are accepted and expected.

 

[Judge]

I grew up in California, gay men are accepted and expected.

Working for many years in San Francisco, if one was homophobic they best kept it to themselves.

 

[mr prosser]

I'm a straight man, and a girl I knew once asked me something like, which famous man would I sleep with.

I didn't take any offence, maybe because she often asked questions like which famous woman do you think is most attractive etc.

I suspect she was bisexual but never called herself that. She had a boyfriend.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

“What woman would you sleep with?”

My sister asked me that question, and then she got offended when I told her “none of them.” She then said, “Don’t be like that!”

So yes, my sister told me not to be a faggot.

Homophobia is pervasive in our culture:

Personally, when I read that, it makes me wonder if she really, truly, doesn't understand and doesn't comprehend what it is like to be homosexual. She may be thinking it is some sort of "preference" or a conscious choice.

I guess I wouldn't interpret this as "homophobia" per se, but rather something more like a combination of ignorance and a lack of cognitive empathy.

So, for instance, if she is heterosexual and only likes men sexually, and is perhaps turned off by women, you could flip it back on her by asking her "What woman would you sleep with?" When she says, "None of them." Then simply ask her "Why?" When she goes to explain, then you say, "Exactly, now you understand me." "Whatever biological triggers YOU have for liking men sexually, and not women, I have as well."

 

[Shamar]

“What woman would you sleep with?”

My sister asked me that question, and then she got offended when I told her “none of them.” She then said, “Don’t be like that!”

So yes, my sister told me not to be a faggot.

Homophobia is pervasive in our culture:

Considering all you have written during the years about your family, I have to ask: Are there any members of your family other than you who are not messed up? Your suffering and problems seem to be a result of your family and not you.