Hypersexual vs Asexual

[AspieOtaku]

It seems most of us on the spectrum are either hypersexual or Asexual on the spectrum very few in between im on the hypersexual category i apologize ahead of time its how i am.

 

[Skittlebisquit]

You dont have to apologize for how you are

 

[AspieOtaku]

You dont have to apologize for how you are

My girlfriend is also hypersexual on the spectrum i apologize on her hehalf too. I am curious not many spectrumites inbetween most either asexual or hypersexual its weird.

 

[AspieOtaku]

I think most NTs seem to be in between some hyper though i dont get it cause seems like us on the spectrum mostly polar opposites.

 

[Skittlebisquit]

Sounds like a good match

 

[AspieOtaku]

I get curious about such things i apologize a head of time if anyones unconfortable religiouse or otherwise.My family was religious id face a beating if i asked

 

[Monachopia]

Weirdly, I don't know. I can be both. Absolutely fine without for years, but from what I recall, when I'd meet someone it can go into overdrive into hyper territory for quite some time.

 

[AspieOtaku]

Usually spectrumites such as i its either hypersexual or asexual, i get curious about it not much in between, im sorry for being curious i cant help it i try too i simpy get curious wanting to learn please dont hit me.Brain doesnt shut off always curious wantin g to learn more about stuff sometimes cant sleep keep thinking so have to take sedatives to shut me up and curiousity.

 

[Skittlebisquit]

I wouldn't worry too much about offending ppl generally. Your sexuality is an aspect of your personality. I am old enough to be afraid of labels applied to me.

Many ppl I know are basically auto sexual. What I mean by that is that an auto sexual person only masturbates, there is no physical contact with another person. Many modern folk combine this preference with cybersex which is kind of fun.

Edging is a term that I think mostly applies to males, tho I'm not certain of that. A man that is edging physically stimulates himself but delays orgasm by ceasing stimulation periodically. I am pretty sure that behavior is a typical aspect of cybersex. I believe edging is a common practice among autosexuals who use porn.

On the morality of masturbation, I would say that cultural bias is an important factor. Many sub cultures regard masturbation as morally wrong, and those often suggest that the act is sinful and that it somehow weakens a man. I have no idea about how female masturbation is viewed culturally.

Good luck on figuring that one out! In terms of morality I would caution strongly against the use of pornography, as it is both habit forming, and apparently debilitating. Using porn seems to lead to moral decay. You can thank America for porn being so readily available. It's not safe to use in general

Firstly porn is full of malware, know that. It's the most likely vector of infection aside from opening email attachments.

The trouble with using porn to achieve self gratification is that it creates a type of conditioning in the user. There is something fundamentally unwholesome about it. Real sex creates multi sense memories that usually include feelings about ones partner, and vivid images. Porn typically focuses on imagery of genitalia, which one typically does not see during intercourse.

Porn causes a dehumanizing and objectifying memory. You are looking at a person in private doing naughty things and it's very exciting and easy to access. I think that using porn can change the way a man thinks about women.

Traditionally the feminist perspective is firmly opposed to using or producing porn, because they believe that the actors are being taken advantage of and are forever robbed of personal dignity. Also that the use of porn by men causes rapes and assault, as the use of porn causes men to objectify women.

A cyber based relationship is not going to make babies or spread diseases. We dont know for sure who people really are online, at least I dont.

There is no need to be ashamed of who you are. According to modern thinking, orgasm is a human right. Likewise modern medicine teaches that masturbation is harmless. I would amend that to say that an auto sexual person who self satisfies is very unlikely to find a partner in real life. Moving from auto sexuality back to heterosexuality is challenging. Using porn with masturbation may cause a man to find physical relations with a partner to be unsatisfying

 

[Skittlebisquit]

It sounds like you come from a very different culture than I do. Where I live no one gets beat up for asking about biology. It's a pg13 site here, I think it's ok to talk about sex generally, here on this site. I'm not sure how to explain it.

Maybe you can be careful not to offend, use medical and technical terms generally, speak in "I" not "you". There is a adult discussion area, and an area that is not viewable to the public.

Something about what you said earlier is troubling to me. I can speak to western american cultural values in general, but little else from personal experience.

Unless the parents decide to opt out, all children are educated about sex and babies and diseases several times in public schools. The course is typically a semester I think and as I recall occurs at 6th, 8th, 9th and 10th grades.

Much of the curriculum is focused on safer practices, and prevention of disease. Cycles of life and family planning are also covered. I believe that the courses are separated by gender. I think that there is typically a hands on event using an artificial life like phallus(dildo) and condoms, so people can learn how to use the condoms properly. I dont remember masturbation being a topic, but this was all 35 years ago for me.

My impression is that auto sexual people are ridiculed and discriminated against and that they are generally in the closet. References in crude and suggestive humor about Male masturbation are common here,
[ in western lower class america]
and typically both objectifying and diminutive. It would not be acceptable socially for a man to admit being autosexual.

 

[Martha Ferris]

Weirdly, I don't know. I can be both. Absolutely fine without for years, but from what I recall, when I'd meet someone it can go into overdrive into hyper territory for quite some time.

Me too.

 

[AspieOtaku]

It sounds like you come from a very different culture than I do. Where I live no one gets beat up for asking about biology. It's a pg13 site here, I think it's ok to talk about sex generally, here on this site. I'm not sure how to explain it.

Maybe you can be careful not to offend, use medical and technical terms generally, speak in "I" not "you". There is a adult discussion area, and an area that is not viewable to the public.

Something about what you said earlier is troubling to me. I can speak to western american cultural values in general, but little else from personal experience.

Unless the parents decide to opt out, all children are educated about sex and babies and diseases several times in public schools. The course is typically a semester I think and as I recall occurs at 6th, 8th, 9th and 10th grades.

Much of the curriculum is focused on safer practices, and prevention of disease. Cycles of life and family planning are also covered. I believe that the courses are separated by gender. I think that there is typically a hands on event using an artificial life like phallus(dildo) and condoms, so people can learn how to use the condoms properly. I dont remember masturbation being a topic, but this was all 35 years ago for me.

My impression is that auto sexual people are ridiculed and discriminated against and that they are generally in the closet. References in crude and suggestive humor about Male masturbation are common here, and typically both objectifying and diminutive. It would not be acceptable socially for a man to admit being autosexual.

My parents were very religiousand strict anything talking about sexuality is a no no and a beating follows, even masturbation its a sin id get beaten if caught i burn in hell im evil etc anything sexual equals bad but they are gone now so i got the courage to ask such questions simply out of curiosity.

 

[Skittlebisquit]

My own views would likely be taken as in favor of education about it in general. I believe that accurate information is preferable to ignorance in general. It's to me a matter of safety.

If I offended you I apologize.
Be well

 

[Judge]

I once had a relationship with a girlfriend who I often wonder may have been hypersexual.

If anything I suspect it would have made it difficult to maintain that relationship over time. But I felt that it was my autism that doomed it, at a time when neither her or myself had a clue about my neurological disposition. She was with me 24/7, even at work and I never had any sense of solitude which eventually got to me.

 

[Gerontius]

Pass the garlic bread, thanks--



(if you know, you know)

 

[DavidS]

Hypersexual here, which no doubt ruined my first relationship. She previously had been involved with a domestic abuser who would frequently try to take advantage of her. I was not in any way abusive, but she feared the obsessiveness was rooted in the same tree.

Honestly I think us aspies hyperfocus on things we enjoy, therefore it’s only natural for those of us who aren’t too triggered by the touch stimulation in sex and who enjoy it to hyper focus on it.

 

[Rasputin]

Usually spectrumites such as i its either hypersexual or asexual, i get curious about it not much in between, im sorry for being curious i cant help it i try too i simpy get curious wanting to learn please dont hit me.Brain doesnt shut off always curious wantin g to learn more about stuff sometimes cant sleep keep thinking so have to take sedatives to shut me up and curiousity.

You are repeating yourself over and over. It is okay however you are.

 

[Rasputin]

I once had a relationship with a girlfriend who I often wonder may have been hypersexual.

If anything I suspect it would have made it difficult to maintain that relationship over time. But I felt that it was my autism that doomed it, at a time when neither her or myself had a clue about my neurological disposition. She was with me 24/7, even at work and I never had any sense of solitude which eventually got to me.

My first wife was hypersexual, to the point where she strayed outside the marriage. That led to the marriage ending, as I could not trust her.

 

[Judge]

My first wife was hypersexual, to the point where she strayed outside the marriage. That led to the marriage ending, as I could not trust her.

Sadly that's precisely what I was contemplating in the likelihood that I could not have indefinitely sustained that relationship, autistic or not.

 

[Rasputin]

Sadly that's precisely what I was contemplating in the likelihood that I could not have indefinitely sustained that relationship, autistic or not.

The sad part in my case is my wife was pregnant when we split, and neither of us knew it. She had a girl seven months after we split, and the girl is more like me than her mother. My ex contacted me 21 years after we split and has stalked me via internet for the past ten years.