I also hate that question and the 'how are you'. Always answer with "Fine". "What have you been up to?" "Not much". Same questions, same answers. A few people have gone a little further and would say, "I bet you spent a lot of time with your grandkids." Answer, "Not really."
It's frustrating. I would love to have a little deeper relationship, but how can I expect it to go any deeper if I don't give answers that they can go further with? I complain about the lack of deep conversation going past the 'how are you' and weather talk and I know I don't help things, but what I don't know is how to change that. I know the 'how are you' statement is not a real question, it's a greeting. You return the greeting by saying "Fine. Then it's over. Then I stand there, like "That's it???"
Sometimes the reason I post some things I've done is to, hopefully, give someone something to start a conversation with, but it doesn't. For example, I post a picture of the macramé curtains I made my daughter. Friends may comment on the post, but I always hope when they see me they might say something like, "Oh, those curtains were really cute." Then I'd come back with, "Thanks, I enjoy doing macramé, along with other crafts." And the conversation would continue. But it doesn't happen.
One lady from church has goats and posts a lot bout her goats, and I have actually tried to start a conversation with her by mentioning the goats (it's the only thing I know about her). But it doesn't work. I know I'm just not doing something right. If it were one or two people I'd say it was them but when it's everyone I know it's me.
Everyday is the same for me, and today was no different. 
