AprilR
Well-Known Member
I am a very naive person i think. I grew up sheltered, and with little socialization.
When socializing especially with people i just met, i try to mirror them, and be as accomodating as possible. But i do not want to be treated like a doormat either.
Recently i met someone through a friend and dont know what to think of him. He and his extremely extroverted crazy friend wanted to take us to another city in the middle of the night. I was very stressed since i just met those people that night. My friend knows both of them and says they are nice people though. I said i had work tomorrow and did not want to go to another city. It is not normal to me. Anyway they brought me home and that is that.
I did not know what to think of the whole experience. The other guy seems quiet and i kind of liked him. He messaged me yesterday and we talked for a bit. But i still have that anxiety that i am going to be forced into situations that will make me feel uncomfortable. So i don't feel like talking to him either. I don't know what to think of him. I just wanted to share this in case anyone can relate. As a people pleaser and naive sort of person i am really scared of men. And i wanted to hear if anyone has any advice to be safe during meeting someone new, getting to know them and stuff. As a woman who cannot read social cues trusting someone is very hard
When socializing especially with people i just met, i try to mirror them, and be as accomodating as possible. But i do not want to be treated like a doormat either.
Recently i met someone through a friend and dont know what to think of him. He and his extremely extroverted crazy friend wanted to take us to another city in the middle of the night. I was very stressed since i just met those people that night. My friend knows both of them and says they are nice people though. I said i had work tomorrow and did not want to go to another city. It is not normal to me. Anyway they brought me home and that is that.
I did not know what to think of the whole experience. The other guy seems quiet and i kind of liked him. He messaged me yesterday and we talked for a bit. But i still have that anxiety that i am going to be forced into situations that will make me feel uncomfortable. So i don't feel like talking to him either. I don't know what to think of him. I just wanted to share this in case anyone can relate. As a people pleaser and naive sort of person i am really scared of men. And i wanted to hear if anyone has any advice to be safe during meeting someone new, getting to know them and stuff. As a woman who cannot read social cues trusting someone is very hard