yeah but therapy won't change the unfairness of many things in life, seriously, what that guy was rude and an asshole of him, its like wanting to stand up to the bully.
From a rational point of view:
Therapy helps to cope with "the unfairness of many things in life".
If I meet a person with a differing, opposing opinion, with no apparent agreement possible, my go-to is:
"Let us agree to disagree."
I find it "interesting" how many people enjoy/prefer passion rather than reason in some situations.
I have been there myself, btw.
What this suggests to me, in some instances, is that they may have unresolved issues that haven't been addressed.
It may simply indicate a lack of confidence in their position.
"He who shouts loudest wins."
He who shouts loudest doesn't win, imo.
I prefer:
Yes, I hear what you say, but I am here, and you are there.
"You be you, and I be me."
If you "fatally" disagree with someone, disregard what they say.
They are in one place, and you are in another.
We are all entitled to our own opinions after all. <shrug>
Why is there a need to give them power through your emotional reaction?
BTW:
Self-actualisation is a continuum.
We need to go through progressive steps to reach our ultimate potential.
The self-indulgent, pontificating old fart has spoken.
As it is written:
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference"
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AI Overview
The phrase "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference" is a well-known prayer, often referred to as the Serenity Prayer. It's a powerful statement about recognizing what is within one's control and what is not, and then acting accordingly.
Here's a breakdown of what it means:
- Acceptance of things I cannot change:
This refers to accepting situations, events, or circumstances that are beyond our influence or control. This could include past events, the actions of others, or natural occurrences. The emphasis is on finding peace and serenity in the face of these unchangeable realities.
- Courage to change the things I can:
This aspect encourages taking action and making efforts to alter situations or behaviors that are within our power to influence. This could involve personal choices, habits, or working towards goals.
- Wisdom to know the difference:
This is the most crucial element. It highlights the importance of discernment – the ability to distinguish between what can be changed and what cannot, and then applying the appropriate action (acceptance or change).
In essence, the prayer is a guide for:
- 1. Identifying what you can and cannot control:
This requires self-awareness and a clear understanding of your own limitations and the scope of your influence.
- 2. Choosing the right response:
Once you know what you can and cannot change, you can choose to accept the things that are beyond your control and focus your energy on making positive changes where you can.
- 3. Living a more peaceful and effective life:
By accepting what you cannot change and courageously working on what you can, you can reduce stress, increase productivity, and cultivate a greater sense of well-being.
The Serenity Prayer is often used in 12-step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) to help individuals navigate the challenges of recovery by distinguishing between things they can change (their own actions and choices) and things they cannot (the actions of others or the past). It's also a valuable mantra for anyone seeking to live a more balanced and fulfilling life.
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I have been where you are and have made my way to the other side, IMO.
It wasn't an easy journey.
Hail to stoicism!
