How To Attract Women Without Saying Anything! 😎

[Packet]

Hi everyone,

I want to begin by saying that I fully respect people’s needs and desires for relationships, and I sincerely wish you all the best in your personal journeys.

As an autistic individual, I sometimes find it difficult to relate to certain strategies or generalizations about attracting women. I don’t mean to be pedantic, but I wonder if it might help to go into more detail about the kind of person you're hoping to connect with, as well as your own traits and values. That way, others in the community might be better able to support you — perhaps even by introducing you to someone they know who shares similar interests or outlooks.

I’d feel awkward if there were a magic potion, button or strategy that could spark instant attraction, because that would remove people’s autonomy. Real connection is more complex. Personally, I find beauty to be something that shines from within, and I hope more people — including women — are becoming increasingly aware of the importance of inner qualities over outward appearance.

Thanks for listening, and I hope this message is received in the spirit of kindness and constructive dialogue.

Warm regards,
Packet

 

[Packet]

Sorry for the double response — I hope this is within the forum rules. I felt it was important to add this as an autistic individual, and I’m trying to keep everything directly within the context of the original post, as I may be misunderstanding.

If someone is unable or unwilling to speak — for example, if they are non-verbal — there may still be other meaningful ways to communicate attraction or interest. If your question is specifically about how to attract someone using body language alone, could you please clarify that? It might help guide the conversation more constructively.

Perhaps something like dance could be a helpful and expressive medium in those cases.

Packet

 

[Crossbreed]

Sorry for the double response — I hope this is within the forum rules.

Consecutive responses are fine.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

I don't know, I read through the list and was like number 1 would be irritating. Number 2 would be irritating. Number 3 would be irritating. etc etc. Not a big fan of overly muscular men in designer, freshly tailored jeans. And to be frank I don't like rich people.

So, if actor Henry Cavill (Superman, The Witcher, etc) or Chris Hemsworth (Thor, etc.) was interested in you, you'd turn that down. A lot of other women would be thankful for your rejection.

Perspective: People don't like rich people...until they are rich themselves and are living that lifestyle. Until then, it's pretty easy to prejudge and be jealous about things they might not understand fully.

 

[Rodafina]

I understand that what I am responding to was meant as sarcasm, but it does not seem too far from a “truth” that many here have accepted.

1. Grow to a height of 6 ft - 6ft, 6in.

Doesn’t matter. Feel bad for men that think they need to be tall.

2. Have a strong, lean, muscular body...be able to show off a nice "6 pack" of abs.

Gross.

3. Have at least a 6-figure income, 7 preferable...or a giant inheritance.

No need for that kind of cash. Someone who needs/wants that kind of money has a different operating system from me.

4. All of your wardrobe is from the top designers around the world and custom tailored...You're a sharp-dressed man.

Boring. Superficial. Waste of good money. I’d rather my man is comfortable, humble and not concerned about superficial things.

5. Be independently wealthy and be able to hop on a private jet and fly to exotic beach and party locations around the world at a moment's notice.

Exotic beaches and party locations are exactly the kind of places I avoid. Private jets are an egregious assault on the environment.

6. Own multiple homes in beautiful locations around the world.

Not at all attractive to me. No thanks! Wasteful consumerism at its worst. I’ll take one home that I help pay for and be grateful for it.

But it’s all good, it sounds like I am definitely not the kind of gal this sort of man would be looking for.

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It’s starting to seem like a lot of people here who are wondering what women find attractive never actually asked women and certainly not autistic women.

Seems like a very heavy burden to live under assumptions based on very shallow stereotypes of what makes men attractive. I can understand why this perceived social pressure can make men feel badly about themselves.

 

[Hypnalis]

I can understand why this perceived social pressure can make men feel badly about themselves.

This is not what happens to the majority. It's why the majority don't play the old game any more.

Mating pressure, which has profoundly influenced the behavior of humanity since (in a sense) before there were humans, is weakening.
Nobody really knows where that leads, because it's (probably) unique in human development.

Men who don't get diverted into raising a family get along just fine on their own.
But they don't build or buy "nests" (**).

**
The closest thing to modern human mating patterns isn't other Great Apes, it's birds.

 

[FayetheADHDsquirrel]

I understand that what I am responding to was meant as sarcasm, but it does not seem too far from a “truth” that many here have accepted.



Doesn’t matter. Feel bad for men that think they need to be tall.


Gross.


No need for that kind of cash. Someone who needs/wants that kind of money has a different operating system from me.


Boring. Superficial. Waste of good money. I’d rather my man is comfortable, humble and not concerned about superficial things.


Exotic beaches and party locations are exactly the kind of places I avoid. Private jets are an egregious assault on the environment.


Not at all attractive to me. No thanks! Wasteful consumerism at its worst. I’ll take one home that I help pay for and be grateful for it.

But it’s all good, it sounds like I am definitely not the kind of gal this sort of man would be looking for.

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It’s starting to seem like a lot of people here who are wondering what women find attractive never actually asked women and certainly not autistic women.

Seems like a very heavy burden to live under assumptions based on very shallow stereotypes of what makes men attractive. I can understand why this perceived social pressure can make men feel badly about themselves.

I think they notice the party girl or "material girl" subtype that likely wouldn't really genuinely care about them anyway and then they judge all women by this trope.

 

[Tired]

The closest thing to modern human mating patterns isn't other Great Apes, it's birds.

Reminded me of this.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Faye to bad you do not live up here, my son's fiance ha a brother single worked and lived in Florida , barely speaks English, went back to Albania with his sister and my son for vacation. He has green card Canadian residency, not sure what he wants to do next after he comes back, Go back to Florida get job, stay with his sister get job here. His sister is very bright PHD no idea about him. Nice guy very good looking, bit lost in thirties He is trained as driver for protecting celebrities defensive driving how to escape gunman. My son says he is a real operator in his element in home country. Sort of like James bond. If he gets his act together, what potential for some lucky lady.

 

[Hypnalis]

@Tired

Funny, but in terms of evolved behaviors, 75% true.

The future will be more transactional, so the "dance" and exactly enough "pretty things" will be left.
The "white picket fence": not so much /lol.

 

[Zain]

6 figures, 6 inches, 6 ft in height. The holy trinity all women desire.

 

[Rodafina]

The holy trinity all women desire.

This statement is not accurate.

 

[Zain]

This statement is not accurate.

You're right. I should have added currently. Standards are going to be raised for Gen A males.

 

[Rodafina]

@Zain,
Telling yourself these things will only harm your sense of worth and your ability to develop confidence.

I hope, with time, you can find those things for yourself. I think you have more value than you can currently see.

 

[Zain]

@Zain,
Telling yourself these things will only harm your sense of worth and your ability to develop confidence.

I hope, with time, you can find those things for yourself. I think you have more value than you can currently see.

I have a good colleague from work who's from Hong Kong. Born into a rich family, made a fortune, lived a lot more than I have. He basically said that I'd be seen as nothing by girls. Dead-end job, no fancy watch or car, not much in the bank, don't dine at fine restaurants. His intention was to inform me of how dating was/is in Hong Kong. I think it is the same everywhere. As much as it hurt, I couldn't come up with a solid response to support/defend myself.
It's important to not deny reality and not delude ourselves and work from where we are.

 

[Rodafina]

It's important to not deny reality and not delude ourselves and work from where we are.

I agree with you.

It is also important to develop an unshakeable sense of self worth based on the reality of exactly who you are. I hope you find that.

 

[Zain]

I agree with you.

It is also important to develop an unshakeable sense of self worth based on the reality of exactly who you are. I hope you find that.

What do you mean specifically by "exactly who you are"? Women don't sense stuff like this. They see numbers and look at what the future could be like when finding a partner.

 

[Rodafina]

What do you mean specifically by "exactly who you are"?

I’m talking about men finding their worth based on who they are and not based on some ideal idea. I’m talking about accepting and even liking what you see in the mirror.

Women don't sense stuff like this. They see numbers and look at what the future could be like when finding a partner.

The way you describe women does not leave much room for variation or diversity. Perhaps, you think there is none.

 

[Hypnalis]

Here's something I found while watching an entertainment video. It feels like it's "AI assisted", but I've seen this experiment done twice in two videos that definitely weren't fake. The result was much the same, including the difficulty accepting that it really is that unpleasant even in the "second 25%".

The personal development part isn't likely. It would never be shown in a video OFC, but I'd expect denial without learning anything to be much more likely IRL.

NB: It's quicker to speed through the video reading it than it is to watch. (or read the transcript).

Most of the comments seem to be real. The recurring message of the comments, of deep distrust leading to disengagement from the game, isn't universal of course, but it seems to be a genuine trend.

This won't end well /lol.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

I understand that what I am responding to was meant as sarcasm, but it does not seem too far from a “truth” that many here have accepted.



Doesn’t matter. Feel bad for men that think they need to be tall.


Gross.


No need for that kind of cash. Someone who needs/wants that kind of money has a different operating system from me.


Boring. Superficial. Waste of good money. I’d rather my man is comfortable, humble and not concerned about superficial things.


Exotic beaches and party locations are exactly the kind of places I avoid. Private jets are an egregious assault on the environment.


Not at all attractive to me. No thanks! Wasteful consumerism at its worst. I’ll take one home that I help pay for and be grateful for it.

But it’s all good, it sounds like I am definitely not the kind of gal this sort of man would be looking for.

---

It’s starting to seem like a lot of people here who are wondering what women find attractive never actually asked women and certainly not autistic women.

Seems like a very heavy burden to live under assumptions based on very shallow stereotypes of what makes men attractive. I can understand why this perceived social pressure can make men feel badly about themselves.

FYI...Autistic women...at least from this small sample...seem to be polar opposite from nearly every neurotypical woman I've ever had contact with. Keep in mind, I have swam in the "estrogen ocean" that is neonatal and pediatric healthcare for nearly 40 years. My "sarcasm" list is actually not sarcasm in the neurotypical world...it was pretty much a very real list of dating criteria many are desiring. I simply qualified it as "sarcasm and satire" in order to not "swat a hornet's nest".