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Featured how can a housebound person prevent meltdowns

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Gift2humanity, Oct 5, 2020.

  1. Gift2humanity

    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    Hi
    Stress is my trigger for meltdowns.
    There are certain long term stressors in my life that I cannot get rid of, not in the foreseeable future anyway. They are very serious.
    It's even too triggering to mention them, sorry :( no insult to you lovely people on here.
    I am housebound, I am worried about my personal safety as these meltdowns have been violent, I am getting assessed for autism, Ive had them all my life but they have only become much more violent this last few years because of the stressors I cannot get rid of.
    I am 54, as a kid they were merely red marks on my arm from wrist biting, and flailing around, now they are much worse and more destructive.
    Some problems need the co-operation of others, some problems I have Brought on my self and opened myself up to repercussions from others.
    I just need to keep myself safe during this long period of time where I sort myself out.
    Any ideas?
    Thanks
     
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    In home nursing can help with that. Maybe an in home social worker? I used to have that until Covid started. Now because our quarantine in our state is so tight, I haven't had in-home services in nearly a year.

    Perhaps where you live will be more lenient and you can get that kind of care.
     
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    Pats Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    Is the stressor that causes your meltdowns IN your home? Is there any way of keeping those particular stressors away? Or are you looking for ways of staying safe during your meltdowns? I agree that the home health would be a good thing to check into.
     
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    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    l feel helpless. Like l don't know what to say. Do your meltdowns involve the exact same stressor? Do you wish to chat more?
     
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    Streetwise very cautious contributor V.I.P Member

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    Mindfulness !(what stops you!!!!!!!! thinking about and feeling stress and isnt psychologically or physically harmful
    I try adult colouring books )try to perceive the adrenalin and see how it's not your thoughts ,it takes practice .

    prayer if !you have a faith ,sharing your thoughts is relief.
     
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  6. Gift2humanity

    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    Sadly we don't have the resources for that on the NHS in England.
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    These problems are so BIG and far reaching, could negatively affect many others, that they intrude on my mindfulness.
    I have been playing bubble shooter, it acts as a form of stemming for me as it requires no thought, but it still doesn't cure the meltdowns.
    I do have a faith and think that because of what I have done I have to pay the karma for it, which stresses me out.
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    Yeah the stressors are all related, its the fact that these problems could not only negatively impact my life but others, I cant go too much into it on a public forum.
     
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    It's hard to help if you can't say more. Could you confide to a counsellor or advice service who may be able to help you find a way forward? Doing that might also relieve some of the distress.
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    I've tried, all parties who can help are unable or unwilling, and I don't know if the practical problem is beyond solving.
    It's to do with my living situation, never been homeless before, vulnerable. Potential massive debts. Sorry I am being cryptic, don't want to put stuff on public forum.
     
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    Ok, I think you already spoke about aspects of this here a while back. Have you contacted your GP about the risk of harm you are up against from the meltdowns, they would likely have advice or help? Meltdowns are tough to deal with, they ought to be able to make practical suggestions for your wellbeing and safety.
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    I spoke to my CPN and my concerns about the risk.
     
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    Did speaking with your CPN get you any useful ideas? Are you in regular contact with the CPN? They can be a help, is yours helping?
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    He gave me mindfulness techniques but they don't work. I am impulsive and if I want to hurt myself there is no time to stop it. CPN nice natured, as some of them have been less patient with me, in fact rude.
    The parties that can help are unwilling but the problem cannot just be left due to it's nature. I hate vagueness, and I know autism people have trouble with vagueness but this is a public place, too public to go into specifics.
     
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    It depends on your G-d ,the Abrahamic religions Judaism and Christianity, speak always of forgiveness, Yeshua(Jesus) said quote" forgive 70x7 "it means endlessly or it's not love.

    mindfulness is practice like everything and I'm not going to punish you, I've forgiven it's a strange good feeling .
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    I believe that nature is god, everything is God, God doesn't mind what you call him, however I believe that I have wasted my talents, I learnt to read at 2 or younger and gave up, I think tog approval from my Dad as he was the sort who couldn't be comfortable with a successful bright kid.
    He taunted me and something in a comic reminded me of one of his taunts and that is when I stopped reading.
    I believe that this may be blasphemy against the Holy Spirit. I have made errors that could affect many people for generations.
     
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    For discussions of a faith based/religious nature
    please use
    Religion
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    Sorry to derail the thread, back to meltdowns.
     
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    This all sounds difficult, but it may be worth persevering with mindfulness practice, it doesn't necessarily make you feel very different at first, it's something that helps you feel calmer and detach more easily, over time with regular practice say 15 minutes daily.

    I wouldnt worry about later generations being affected by your errors, your own life has been difficult enough already to account for any karma, I would think.
     
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    Gift2humanity Well-Known Member

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    I can't discuss karma on here, got to stick to nonreligious stuff. I was told by an ADHD nurse she suspects ADHD but I didnt go to see the specialist I was invited to see as I wanted to go sober and I couldn't face it on the day, when I rescheduled the appointment, funds had been cut for our area so I never got that diagnosis.
    With ADHD impulsivity works at warp speed which is why I can't stop meltdowns. It's weird, you make bad decisions at warp speed, however when good ideas come your way, it's not that you decide not to do them, it's that it doesn't even occur to you to follow them.
     
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