Horrible Experience with Police today

[garnetflower13]

I had called the non-emergency number today, in order to complain about a loud backyard party next door. I could tell that it was a birthday party for someone, but their music was booming right through the house and I couldn't relax in my own house. I was sitting in the living room when someone started urgently ringing the doorbell and banging on the door. I was frightened and froze in place. My husband was home and he was startled too (we are both on the spectrum). So the banging and ringing continued, they even went to the back door and banged on that one, too. I managed to collect myself and answer the door.

It was the police. They said that they had received a 911 call (I did not dial 911!) and they wanted to know who called. I managed to say it was me, and they actually said that those people were just having a birthday party and I shouldn't have called a noise complaint in. It didn't help that the people having the party had lowered the volume considerably by the time the officers got here, and that they now knew it was me.

I was triggered because I have had bad experiences with police officers, who didn't understand my autism, and also with unkind neighbors. The way they banged on the door as if they were after a criminal shook me up badly for the remainder of the day. By evening, I started having panic attacks, thinking that people were going to harm me for calling the police. I wish I'd had my autism card on me, but it was upstairs.

I feel that they were wrong in the way that they handled things and I am still trembling inside. And I am badly triggered!

 

[Stuttermabolur]

I'm sad to hear that happened to you. I would be shook too in the circumstances. I also strongly dislike when I'm made to look like a liar or as unreasonable because the other party doesn't have the whole context. Under the circumstances, getting upset and having it affect you is very understandable. I hope you will recover in time. Can you do anything relaxing or comforting to take your mind off what happened?

 

[VictorR]

Sorry about your experience.

That seems to have been rather unprofessional on their part, and to be honest, I couldn't help but wonder if the party host or an attendee was known to one of the police officers responding to the call.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Anytime you involve the cops they will do what they want, and not necessarily for your benefit.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

I had called the non-emergency number today, in order to complain about a loud backyard party next door. I could tell that it was a birthday party for someone, but their music was booming right through the house and I couldn't relax in my own house. I was sitting in the living room when someone started urgently ringing the doorbell and banging on the door. I was frightened and froze in place. My husband was home and he was startled too (we are both on the spectrum). So the banging and ringing continued, they even went to the back door and banged on that one, too. I managed to collect myself and answer the door.

It was the police. They said that they had received a 911 call (I did not dial 911!) and they wanted to know who called. I managed to say it was me, and they actually said that those people were just having a birthday party and I shouldn't have called a noise complaint in. It didn't help that the people having the party had lowered the volume considerably by the time the officers got here, and that they now knew it was me.

I was triggered because I have had bad experiences with police officers, who didn't understand my autism, and also with unkind neighbors. The way they banged on the door as if they were after a criminal shook me up badly for the remainder of the day. By evening, I started having panic attacks, thinking that people were going to harm me for calling the police. I wish I'd had my autism card on me, but it was upstairs.

I feel that they were wrong in the way that they handled things and I am still trembling inside. And I am badly triggered!

I hate police and they scare the hell out of me too because they hurt me in the past and do not under my problems.
I get scared because I have had some really bad raging and self harm attacks and I want to move sometimes but this is my hometown near my family.
I have had them to my door a few times lately because of my rage, illness and cptsd.
It is hard I have hypervigilence with them but I cannot tell them that because they will not understand.
They knocked on my door, I hid in the bathroom until they left and I was really scared, the stress made me lose part of my tooth.
I cry, I want to feel safe from them.
I feel scared of them knocking every single day with my rage, it can only make my rage worse.
I do not want them to hurt me again.
Please pray for a miracle for me.

 

[lovely_darlingprettybaby]

Anytime you involve the cops they will do what they want, and not necessarily for your benefit.

Yes they do not understand, any issues autistics have.

 

[garnetflower13]

Sorry about your experience.

That seems to have been rather unprofessional on their part, and to be honest, I couldn't help but wonder if the party host or an attendee was known to one of the police officers responding to the call.

I think you may have a point!

 

[garnetflower13]

I had bad experiences with them as a child, and the very sight of them makes my adrenaline shoot sky high. I am wondering if I should complain about them to someone, because I am having a hard time feeling safe.

 

[elgat0verde]

Sorry you had to go through that

I am terrified of the police since I live in Mexico

When in the US I am not very scared of them but they do make me anxious when I see them

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

The police were doing what they were supposed to. Sometimes people call the police, while hiding from an abuser or robber. If you call the police and hang up, it still goes into their system, and they are required to follow up and make sure everyone is okay.

I have called non emergency a few times, because of people passed out on fentanyl, and not looking so good. It is a very dangerous drug. And I wanted first responders to do a welfare check. I was put on hold for over five minutes. So I hung up and went up to the people myself. I knew that dispatch would call me back. I have done this a few times. Each time, 911 operators have both texted and called me back. I gave them the location that I was at, and I stayed with the person until the police or ambulance arrived.

So lesson number one: 911 dispatchers take every call very seriously.

Lesson number 2: carry narcan on your person. you never know when you need to save a life.

 

[garnetflower13]

But I didn't call 911! I called the non emergency line.

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

But I didn't call 911! I called the non emergency line.

Exactly. I called non emergency too.