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Chocokat25

Chocokat25

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Hi, my name is Clare. I'm 35 and, in the last year or so, just started realizing that I may be an aspie. I always knew I was different, but dismissed it as social awkwardness and anxiety. My husband had a strong suspicion that it was Asperger's, so I read "Aspergirls" by Rudy Simone and now I'm convinced as well. I identified with pretty much everything she said and she was very empowering. I feel so much better about myself now and I love knowing that I'm not the only one with these issues.

I'm thinking about getting an official diagnosis, but I hate talking to doctors. I have trouble communicating in person and I get frustrated when they don't understand what I'm trying to say, so I just give up. I'm not sure it will be worth the aggravation.
 
I'm going through something similar right now in that I am dealing with the realization that I have it, but have yet to speak with my doctor about it. For what it's worth if you feel that a diagnosis is important to you then I I think you should go talk to your doctor. If you think that you might have trouble in saying the right thing maybe write him/her a note ahead of time explaining why you think you might have Aspergers and then present that to them. Either way good luck and remember you are your own best advocate
 
I felt the same way when I learned myself a few months ago. This site also been a great help for me and I hope it will for you too. Welcome to the site.
 
Welcome aboard! I found out later Life also (33).
For me, it helps to write things out, then either discuss my words or talk to Dr based on my writing, or give it right to them.
 
Welcome :)

I see you've already found our resources section! I loved Rudy Simone's book too.

Just a word of warning, when going for an official diagnoses. As you're aware, women on the spectrum can have traits that differ from the typically male traits. Just be sure to check that your specialist has experience with diagnosing women on the spectrum, as not all specialists are. Some are only trained to spot the more male traits, and some even beleive that AS is exclusive to men. A diagnoses can typically cost a fair bit of money, so hopefully asking first will help to ensure the specialist is the right one for you.
 
ASD_Geek said:
I'm going through something similar right now in that I am dealing with the realization that I have it, but have yet to speak with my doctor about it. For what it's worth if you feel that a diagnosis is important to you then I I think you should go talk to your doctor. If you think that you might have trouble in saying the right thing maybe write him/her a note ahead of time explaining why you think you might have Aspergers and then present that to them. Either way good luck and remember you are your own best advocate
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Thank you. That is a good idea. I think I will do the note thing. :)
 
The Penguin said:
I felt the same way when I learned myself a few months ago. This site also been a great help for me and I hope it will for you too. Welcome to the site.
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Thank you. I am liking what I see so far. I only found this site this morning and I've already learned a lot!
 
Rocco said:
Welcome aboard! I found out later Life also (33).
For me, it helps to write things out, then either discuss my words or talk to Dr based on my writing, or give it right to them.
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Thank you! I will try to write things out more. I don't know why it didn't occur to me before, when I write so much better than I speak. :)
 
Vanilla said:
Welcome :)

I see you've already found our resources section! I loved Rudy Simone's book too.

Just a word of warning, when going for an official diagnoses. As you're aware, women on the spectrum can have traits that differ from the typically male traits. Just be sure to check that your specialist has experience with diagnosing women on the spectrum, as not all specialists are. Some are only trained to spot the more male traits, and some even beleive that AS is exclusive to men. A diagnoses can typically cost a fair bit of money, so hopefully asking first will help to ensure the specialist is the right one for you.
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Unfortunately, with my health insurance, I'm not sure if I'll be able to be very choosy. I made an appointment for this week, and if they don't seem to be very receptive of the idea, I will just talk about my anxiety issues instead. It's not very important to me to have a diagnosis, since I already pretty much know. I'm not really sure why I want one, other than to be able to sound more legitimate.
 
Chocokat25 said:
Unfortunately, with my health insurance, I'm not sure if I'll be able to be very choosy. I made an appointment for this week, and if they don't seem to be very receptive of the idea, I will just talk about my anxiety issues instead. It's not very important to me to have a diagnosis, since I already pretty much know. I'm not really sure why I want one, other than to be able to sound more legitimate.
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Ah, fair enough. I understand what you mean. I'm still only self-diagnosed, and so hesitate telling others (outside of this forum, and immediate friends and family).
 
Chocokat25 said:
Unfortunately, with my health insurance, I'm not sure if I'll be able to be very choosy. I made an appointment for this week, and if they don't seem to be very receptive of the idea, I will just talk about my anxiety issues instead. It's not very important to me to have a diagnosis, since I already pretty much know. I'm not really sure why I want one, other than to be able to sound more legitimate.
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Welcome, Chocokat. I'm John. I'm a day less new here than you, but I already feel so cosy that I've joined the welcoming committee. This place is amazing.

I've known I'm an Aspie for round about ten years, but I'm not for doctors, either, so I'm still "unofficial" as well. One doesn't always need an MD to know what the matter is.

I look forward to sharing your journey here. Very happy to meet you.
 
Hi, Chocokat. I'm pretty new here too. Hope you enjoy the place. Everybody I've met here is very friendly, considerate and helpful.
 
Hi Chocokat. Welcome to AC. We don't bite but we might nibble (cos I like chocolate)
 
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