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  1. Mollinator5

    Mollinator5 The Weeb

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    My name is Molly. I am currently waiting for a diagnosis for possible autism (probably don’t have it). I made a post on Reddit about why I don’t and why I do have it. If you want to give me your own opinion: Wonder if seeking a diagnosis is a mistake? : autism

    The introduction itself:
    I like dogs, Pokemon, PC games (Overwatch mainly), drawing on rare occasions, theories on movies, games and the universe, and random trivia facts. Anatomy is also entertaining to read.
     
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    I realize I am probably not one of your peeps, but Hi & Welcome anyway. ;)
     
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    Warm welkome to the forums :)
     
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    Bolletje Potato chip wizard V.I.P Member

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    Welcome! I'd give my opinion, but the post was removed.
     
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    Hi Molly :)

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  8. Mollinator5

    Mollinator5 The Weeb

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    What do you mean “not one of your peeps?”
     
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    Fridgemagnetman I only have one V.I.P Member

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    IMO You may or may not have it.

    My further opinion is

    One should eat healthy, exercise and be nice to people.

    Also,don't let anyone tie you to any railroad tracks.

    Welcome
     
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    Tom Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    If you probably don't have it, then I am probably not one of your autistic peeps. But we can still be neurodiverse peeps. ;)
     
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    Isadoorian Well Known Chat Member, Welcomer of Newcomers V.I.P Member

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    Welcome to the Forums! I hope you make new friends and enjoy your stay in the process! :)
     
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    Mollinator5 The Weeb

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    So my primary care doctor said I don’t have it and if I did, he would not label me or refer me. He said if I do, it’s very mild and a diagnosis is not going to help
     
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    Mollinator5 The Weeb

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    Ah, sorry.

    So I want to start by saying my autistic friend doesn’t think I am autistic. My family doesn’t either.


    Reasons why I doubt I am:


    Eye contact is easy after the first time I meet someone new


    I am very talkative at school and at my house (and haven’t gotten in trouble for this besides skipping Mass at my school. I just do homework in the bathroom lol).


    I was diagnosed with anxiety and have a hard time telling what is autistic signs and what is simply anxiety


    I respond to my name in a snap


    I don’t take long to answer someone, but this is because I am afraid of them thinking I didn’t hear them. If they assumed I heard them, I would take time


    I was never bullied for being “different” (besides physically)


    I love routine changes (big one), it just makes everything exciting (I can be a bit nervous, but don’t have a meltdown over it)


    My facial expressions are overly animated


    Reasons why I could be:


    People say they can’t tell when I am joking because my voice is monotone sometimes


    I don’t understand sarcasm sometimes


    Loud sounds (even the toilet flushing or a pen clicking) irritates me (not physically painful but I plug my ears)


    Smells can make me look dramatic because I complain about how it smells like pollution or wax when in certain areas


    Texture (skin turns red from being outside, wool and most fabrics makes it itchy and lotion doesn’t get along with my skin)


    I have been called a “food cripple” because I usually have the exact same food for maybe a week then move onto something on my “list” that I like and haven’t had in awhile. I hate trying new food and apparently, according to my mom, my family celebrates when I like something.


    As a kid I didn’t speak full sentences until I was 4 and used sign language instead (“I-C-E” to see penguins at a zoo).


    Another as a kid...I would not sleep unless my mom drove me around. The car’s motion made me sleep instantly. And it still does. Love car, bus, and airplane rides with my headphones in.


    Not sure if people do this but I sometimes look at a random spot as if I was being recorded by a camera and act like I am narrating my life or “showing kids” how to make something (like a sandwich or how to mess up a pot in ceramics).


    I randomly say certain words, especially at my school when I have no clue what to say. I say “weeb,” “Little Man,” and “Potato” the most randomly. I can’t help it and it just makes me feel relieved my mouth is doing something.


    I am blunt, honest, literal (even if I know someone is joking or being figurative I correct them), and have been called autistic online for this reason purely.


    I would not be socially anxious to go to a party. It’s just the damn music that makes me want to rip my hair out. Too loud. And babies or kids crying makes me want to have a meltdown. Side conversations during a lesson, someone interrupting me and not noticing or not being able to understand a school problem all make me have a meltdown.


    I have never been called a professor or smart (besides by classmates, family and doctors), but I seem to shock people with random facts I know. I could identify the specific iPhone by a simple description, memorize any word or history event for over a month, list over 30 random facts, memorized theories, and anything a typical girl probably wouldn’t do. I obsess over something for a week or two. Worst is my dog (take a few photos every single day of him) who I have talked constantly about since I got him. People get sick of me showing photos, so I am a bit sad there.


    I used to rock when listening to someone, tip toed, and ran on four up stairs in my house until I was around 10.


    I lack empathy. I rarely cry when an animal is in pain, sad world or national news, was confused when two girls told me to kill myself (understood what they said, but was very dense and couldn’t understand the point in doing that), TV shows/films I rarely cry because it is not real (one that I do cry over repeatedly is Hachi: A Dog’s Tale).


    I don’t like fictional stories or even true ones because I can’t tell who is talking, who is referencing what, character descriptions solidified in my head but then suddenly a new tiny aspect is adjusted and I just give up on picturing them (why I love movies. I love non fictional books about anatomy of the body, theories, forensics, and facts).


    I focus so much on a small detail I somehow forget the most obvious depiction of an image which is shown with a great amount of positive space (negative space is background of painting).


    I study someone’s expressions, anatomy, body proportions, their authenticity, what makes them them, and what MBTI type they would possibly be. I rarely give a damned about their gossip unless it is like a kid got expelled from school.
     
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    Isadoorian Well Known Chat Member, Welcomer of Newcomers V.I.P Member

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    Much like Fingerprints and Snow Flakes, Autistic people are very unique from one another. We all have varying traits.

    I'd like you to read through a article I found a few weeks ago that might explain it a little easier and hopefully you'll understand what I mean.

    "It's a Spectrum" Doesn't Mean What You Think
     
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    Mollinator5 The Weeb

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    Just read some of it and really like the idea of the spectrum as a wavelength color spectrum. I would say I resonate with three of them. One other barely.
     
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    Quite a bit of what you describe does sound spectrum-ish, so I wouldn't go just on some people's opinions. Family members in particular are often reluctant to accept/believe it. One of the main differences would be the lack of social anxiety but that is not a universal autistic trait. There are Aspie extroverts, and some of us although usually socially shy have extroverted phases. Hopefully a formal diagnostic process with medical professionals would turn up the truth in the matter if you choose to go that route. Not all do. Quite a few of us stop at self diagnosis. Sometimes it is just that knowledge that helps us to understand ourselves better. A formal diagnosis is useful if more assistance is needed (adjustments in work conditions, disability, etc). Some I think get diagnosed as they don't quite trust their own judgement in the matter. HFA can be difficult to determine, even for professionals.
     
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    Mollinator5 The Weeb

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    My parents refuse to let me get a diagnosis because they say all of these are just separate problems and not autism as a whole. They asked what the benefits were and I listed them and they don’t think those count. My primary care doctor denied a referral and said I wasn’t autistic and he didn’t want to label me. So, I don’t know what to do.
     
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    Isadoorian Well Known Chat Member, Welcomer of Newcomers V.I.P Member

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    You are your own person. Don't let your parents deny you anything for any reason and you absolutely sure as all hell don't have to validate your reasons for getting a diagnosis. It is YOUR Life, not theirs, and this is a mystery in YOUR Life you want to have solved. Also find a new Doctor. He doesn't know if you're not autistic or if you are, he's no Autism Specialist so that's absolutely not his call to make.

    Take initiative! Take the lead! You are not bound by anyone to tell you what you should or shouldn't do or can or can't have in life (the lone exception being Police Officers! "No ma'am, you can't have that $50k gold jewel, please put it back" :p).
     
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    Mollinator5 The Weeb

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    Would asking my psychiatrist (he is for my skin picking) to refer me to a psychologist, possibly one in autism, help me? That’s my mom’s first step. Also any reasons why a diagnosis would help me in the long term?
     
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    Rexi owo uwu owo SlightlyFilterless Atheist Science=<3

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    You should keep fighting for your right to a diagnosis unless it becomes unhealthy to you, parents pick on you, failure affects you too much and this path does you more damage than good.

    Might help to look for another therapist or a big city specialist, usually skilled ones go to bigger cities where they can earn more.