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Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Fitzo, Sep 18, 2017.

  1. ladybug

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    Ah..... but that's the role of a mum (mam).... they know you inside out... but also know when you need a little push in the right direction..... you'll both be fine, I'm sure.....
     
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    Welcome to Autism Forums, thanks for joining. :)
     
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    Could you possibly travel to Brisbane or afford to ?I know Tony Attwood is a specialist in aspergers and his practice is there or was .
     
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    Well I have just come back from my GP visit and I think I'm already getting a taste of what you experienced OkRad. My doctor assured me that it's highly unlikely I have it based on the fact he hasn't previously come across anyone diagnosed as an adult plus he's met me 2 or 3 times before and he would have known!!! PLUS it's not even called Aspergers anymore, it's now called something something Autism, which I don't even remember because I was so busy getting upset about his reaction! I'm now rethinking the whole thing!
    He's given me a questionnaire to fill out and take back next time for an assessment to see if I qualify for a health care plan. Judging by the questions on the form I probably won't even qualify because it is very obviously directed at people suffering depression which I wasn't at the moment but am starting to feel now as a result of his attitude! OMG no wonder suicide rates are reaching epidemic proportions.
    I now completely understand why others have advised being happy with your own diagnosis :(
     
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    I'll be very interested to hear about your experience spaceman. My GP told me he doesn't even know any specialists who treat adults! When I pointed out that there was no such thing as autism when I was a child and what did he think had become of the people who might have been diagnosed as children but were now adults......he had no answer??? I now feel like I've wandered into a minefield! :(
     
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    In Tyne and Wear and Northumberland we have an autism diagnosis team,but in the rest of the UK they appear to use psychologists,psychiatrists or speech therapists,if you pay privately there are quite a few psychologists or psychiatrists,who specialise in diagnosis of high functioning autism in children and teenagers,it just seems to be a One for all system so from 0 to 90.
    I think the problem is what they look for is very obvious physical traits of autism,so rocking,a lot of stimming,no eye contact not being verbal,it needs to be somebody who is just seeing people who are autistic all day or like somebody who is autistic .
    I remember my GP over 17 years ago,saying he had seen three people in 30 years with motor neuron disease,so you can deduce from that your GP probably has no clue about autism .
     
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    Thank you Streetwise. You're an angel! I just looked him up and he is certainly still there and I could go to Brisbane as it's a 2 or 3 hour drive from where I live. I'll certainly tell the doctor about him as his website specifically says he treats children AND ADULTS with ASPERGERS SYDROME .......which he apparently still calls it! :)
     
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    Yes unfortunately I think you are right Streetwise. He was drawing on his VAST 13 years as a doctor! Most of which I think WAS actually in the UK...... he's only come to Australia in the last 2 or 3 years.
     
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    It's the one thing you learn about high functioning autism,some therapists say both because they don't use the DSM-V and also I think ICD ?which is used in the UK ,they changed the name in the UK because people associated Asperger's syndrome with being a Savant (meaning genius)and wrongly assuming everyone on the autism spectrum at the high end had a wonderful life,that's why the name was also changed in the USA .
    In France for instance,there is the same problem,of not diagnosing high functioning autism in women,it is not recognised at all .
     
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    Take school reports with you and if there is anyone alive who knew you as a child ,from two or three years old and could travel with you,ask them to come.
    A therapist needs the information that you may not remember .
     
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    You're not gonna believe this but I just read that there's going to be a documentary TV program about Tony Attwood on the ABC next Monday night! I'll make sure I don't miss that! Thanks once again! :)
     
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    Unfortunately I don't still have any school reports and the only person who fits that bill is my mother....and I sure as hell wouldn't take her! I wouldn't even mention any of this to her as I know what her reaction would be. We are not telling her about her grandson either for the same reason!
     
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    If you can print off the posts you've made on autism forums and show the therapist what you've printed off .
    You may not need them,i'm just telling you,what they told me to take when I was diagnosed, they asked me a lot of questions,for about an hour, then they discussed for about half an hour and told me I was on the autism spectrum.
    In the US it can happen for A few hours and over a few days,in the UK it's quicker .
     
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    Apparently Tony Attwood is not taking new patients, but I may possibly be able to see another therapist at his clinic. I feel fortunate that at least such a leading specialist is practicing relatively close to me. It may at least give my GP reason to rethink his attitude because Attwood clearly recognizes that women even in their 70's and 80 are being diagnosed. Thanks for all your help. I imagine it will be a while before I actually get to see someone so hopefully I'll be better informed myself by that stage.
     
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    spaceman I hear radio waves. .. in my head

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    That's a pitty, I don't get on with my mother well, we're like two atoms that don't bond. But she does remember stuff I don't, things the teacher said after pre school, habits etc.

    Maybe you could get doc to send her a questionnaire type of thing? No mention of autism .. (just a bit of info with history for meds) wink wink..
     
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    I know. It really hurt me too!!! I got gene testing which helped. Are you disabled? I am odd enough they felt it was warranted and that helped me a lot.

    It is so rude thevway they r and then they want us to trust them. Yeah right!
     
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    You want to try having a Spanish GP,if he was any louder he would have a speaker on his head,announcing to another GP that's streetwise ( actually said my real first name )obviously indicating I was different,he couldn't have said it any louder if he tried standing in the corridor .
    He showed absolutely no concern,when I said children were throwing things at my house,he actually said to me what did you do !!!!!!!!I never go to see him now .
     
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    Streetwise very cautious contributor V.I.P Member

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    Are you definitely seeing a GP for your diagnosis? mine wasn't qualified to do that .
    Hope it goes well
     
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    spaceman I hear radio waves. .. in my head

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    First of all I had the days wrong. It is actually 'tomorrow'. Not today I start it.

    It's not with a gp. It's with a specialist. I'll be aware thank you.
     
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    That's a good suggestion spaceman. I would have to come up with a very good story though as she still won't even accept that I have something as innocuous as insomnia......even though I've had it for 47 years! If I say I'm tired because I had NO sleep last night she still asks why! I try not to take sleep meds and only take them when I'm at my wits end........but she gives me grief over that! So I tell her NOTHING. A narcissist only recognises things they've experienced themselves because they have NO empathy. In her mind I don't really even have an identity of my own. Also everything is always about her so if I'm less than perfect.....that must somehow be a reflection on her and she just can't deal with that. Still......it's a good idea if I can somehow convince her it's about her not me! Thinking, thinking............:)
     
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