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Getting more socially isolated
- Thread starter Markness
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Hi, Al-Salamo Alaykom
...Being socially isolated is better than bad company. We autists are in good company, equally much Humans like neurotypicals, but stronger. We see things they don't.
They are like ducks (with duck-face) or like sheep. We're like Tigers. Both ducks and Tigers likes to Swim, but not swim together.
We (you and I) are better because we have a higher share of Pain
Edit: Typo
...Being socially isolated is better than bad company. We autists are in good company, equally much Humans like neurotypicals, but stronger. We see things they don't.
They are like ducks (with duck-face) or like sheep. We're like Tigers. Both ducks and Tigers likes to Swim, but not swim together.
We (you and I) are better because we have a higher share of Pain
Edit: Typo
That is not objectively true. I’ve had bad social experiences with other autistic people in person and they often had meltdowns over extremely trivial things. We are still human like NTs are.
Humans are not ducks nor tigers so it’s not a good choice to compare ourselves to them. There have also been sightings of ducks and tigers swimming together so claiming they don’t like to swim together isn’t objectively true either.
I know plenty of autistic people who don’t deal well with pain, whether it’s physical or emotional. I include myself among them.
I understand where the hurt comes from, and so...
But that doesn't reflect on you... that reflects on the ones walking away. If you look inside long enough, you can find a place where you are whole and complete, without the need for others to be with or praise or need you.
Until you've got that, other people are in control of your emotions, and from experience I know that's a terrible place to be.
...this is a very wise saying. You can't control others, and every one of them could turn away. Each parting is pain.
But that doesn't reflect on you... that reflects on the ones walking away. If you look inside long enough, you can find a place where you are whole and complete, without the need for others to be with or praise or need you.
Until you've got that, other people are in control of your emotions, and from experience I know that's a terrible place to be.
@Grondhammar @Markness
Also, three things: Good company is better than isolation and better than bad company. Humans need to feel good.
There are people whom has had success in life, and whom are elegant and are calm. I enjoy being around them. I enjoy being around God and good, and scholars. But scholars don't always have time, they have communities to lead.
I'm thankful for 1 minute with such a leader.
Also, three things: Good company is better than isolation and better than bad company. Humans need to feel good.
There are people whom has had success in life, and whom are elegant and are calm. I enjoy being around them. I enjoy being around God and good, and scholars. But scholars don't always have time, they have communities to lead.
I'm thankful for 1 minute with such a leader.
I'm not better than NTs and I don't think my life is necessarily worse than theirs, we just have different ways of succeeding and failing in the more extreme cases. I try and do the best I can in the day I'm in and trust that it adds up in the long run.
Edit: To be more clear, about who are good company? IMO.
They are calm and elegant, and not angry. I'm trying to say some elegant calm people are attractive until you attack or critisize them, as soon you attack them they turn magically to stone.
i.e. in Norway we say Trolls (whom are enemies of gods in Norse Mythology) when they are exposed to Light they turn into Stone. Meaning they freeze.
So you can attack me, here on AF, and i haven't turned to Stone yet. But also i want to be ready for eventual attacks. Like Karate rules, every fight starts with a Bow and ends with a Bow.
The best place to attack is in dedicated locals. As a Dojo.
They are calm and elegant, and not angry. I'm trying to say some elegant calm people are attractive until you attack or critisize them, as soon you attack them they turn magically to stone.
i.e. in Norway we say Trolls (whom are enemies of gods in Norse Mythology) when they are exposed to Light they turn into Stone. Meaning they freeze.
So you can attack me, here on AF, and i haven't turned to Stone yet. But also i want to be ready for eventual attacks. Like Karate rules, every fight starts with a Bow and ends with a Bow.
The best place to attack is in dedicated locals. As a Dojo.
