@Boogs
We have personal messages to communicate on, we don't throw everything out on a general thread. You can find that on anyone's profile. Just click on their name.
It seems likely to me that you'd already formed a poor opinion of me for whatever your own reasons; you seemed reluctant to expand on what it was I'd actually said that caused such offence, making it difficult to learn from that. But it appears to me you are now changing your own topic beyond what's reasonable or required, since I'd already apologised, attempted to explain myself, and accepted your comment, even though I'd didn't know precisely what my 'crime' was.
But to continue to harangue me publicly, when you're telling me I should be using PM's (never mind your previous messages about this, following the first one), comes across as disingenuous. You appeared to respond to my saying something of the nature of my personal comms problems, by turning it into a lesson on how to use the software, which has a very personally dismissive and insensitive feel to it, not to mention rather rude.
Maybe you're unaware and it's not deliberate, but then it would seem careless of interpreting my messages? And certainly, the outcome is equally unpleasant to come across.
I've explained, as a new joiner, and equally inexperienced with social media, that I have major problems with communication. It's disappointing to find what appear to be the same kind of attitudes that have been one of things that have made contact and connection with others extremely hard, impossible at times.
Obviously you can continue in the same vein, as publicly or privately as you wish, but I see little point in further discussion, if it only consists of a vague (to me, at least) attack against me, over a matter that needed nothing more than a genuinely polite message of information; usually most offenders get the chance to positively respond the first time something is raised with them. I'm always willing to discuss any matter in a jointly respectful and rational manner, I'm always willing to explain anything I've written, if I know what it is that's contentious and why, and I'm willing (as I've shown above) to apologise and accept that I'm incorrect over something.
Frankly, after my last message, I'd have not made anything of what I thought was simply an unwelcoming and unnecessarily triggering attitude against a new and inexperienced member, from a long time and experienced member, but you seem to find it difficult to stop attacking me publicly, and while I find it most distasteful to have to say all this here about another member, whom I'm sure is a long time respected and valued member of the site, at the same time I'm not prepared to be, what I perceive as being mildly bullied, in silence.
I'm totally used to be pushed out of groups all my life (not surprisingly, you may feel), so I've little to lose by giving my honest opinion and nothing (I can see) to gain by being deliberately dishonest about all this, in any way, however much it may be disliked, and besides, there would be little point being a member if openness and transparency are not greatly valued, and resentments are stored up to fester.
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