Female Aspie Profile

[Ylva]

Asperwomen: Adult Women with Asperger Syndrome. Moving towards a female profile of Asperger Syndrome | taniaannmarshall

 

[Ylva]

Apparently we are full of contradictions.

 

[poey]

I'm just glad someone is mapping out the differences between Aspie men & women. We are an entirely different subset.

 

[Loomis]

I'm just glad someone is mapping out the differences between Aspie men & women. We are an entirely different subset.

I do not doubt that women express their aspieness differently than men, however, as I read through the characteristics in the women's aspie profile list, I could identify with most of them.

 

[Arashi222]

Wow you know that list is quite well thought out and really its about damn time that they stop beleiving that something is only in one gender vs. both.

 

[Nolan1971]

Wow you know that list is quite well thought out and really its about damn time that they stop beleiving that something is only in one gender vs. both.

I agree! I can relate to almost the whole list!

 

[Arashi222]

In keeping with the theme of this thread I also found a link that was great it has this table of what girl aspies are more like than their male counter parts which I think is very important in all syndromes, disease, mental health, physical health.




I don't know if you can read that but here is the rest of the link if you need to see it better.
help4aspergers.com - List of Female Asperger traits

 

[Aalo]

Normally I dislike too strong gender based separating on all, and have become to a conclusion that it might mostly be bacause I haven't ever been able to fit in those basic models. But as male and female bodies are different and there's nothing to deny that it also effects the ways our minds workand how we settle in this world with our bodies. After I just finally did read depictions of female aspies it gave me great comfort to letting myself feel belonging so much more than reading about an average aspie.
Yet I still don't fit them too perfectly, but I doubt anyone totally would.

How have you felt about having somewhat weak personality? - it's one thing that often features in these lists. Do you feel yourself as an identity thief?
For me it feels like that everyone borrows good traits from others, but I must say that I kind of love my personality so much, that I have no intention to change it anytime soon. It also means, that I don't make social exceptions much, whether am sometimes humble and submissive. But it only applies on those situations when I allow myself to, when I don't feel the need to be strongest - or I feel strong while not acting like one. It's not like begging for entitlement from being submissive, which I think I haven't personally saw in any aspie of any gender. I know my limits and won't let anyone or anything break them. I've no kids, but this might be that lioness type of self awareness that women are sometimes told to have.
Now, this is coming out quite strong, yet female aspie shouldn't be concerned as doing so. Or do you think that it means more of females just not having too black and white world view?

 

[Ylva]

Thank you, Arashi.

I like these lists. It is a bit like having some of my self-analysis done for me.

 

[kimical]

Omg I fit this perfectly

 

[SallySlips]

I can definitely identify with a great many things on that list.

 

[Aalo]

Now I just feel stupid that I'm obviously missing out something while everyone feels fitting.

Sorry that I babbled too much about my own sentiments in my last message. I'm still interested about female social learning. If (when) you do that, might it be something you eventually enjoy doing? Like gossiping or suck alike that's not natural way to act for you, but you do it at times? Or is it comfortable or just manageable, or can you like it if you turn it into a game about discuss partner's reactions or...?

 

[Ylva]

I enjoy reading your opinions, Aalo. They put things in perspective. Add to that the fact that your nation has even more gender equality than mine, and I'll start seeing things I've taken for granted but shouldn't.

I am no identity thief. I don't steal personalities; I just borrow them. At least I used to. Now that I am grown I don't feel like everyone else is right and I am wrong about how to be anymore; I am myself. They can be themselves, or not, it is their choice. I choose to deal with it, because the price to pay for not being myself is too high compared to the price I pay for just being me.

I guess I have to pretend to be something the person I am dealing with can understand… otherwise, I can't fairly expect them to feel any more comfortable around me than I feel around them. However, because it is such a one-way street, I can't do it too much, or I will feel resentful. (One of our traits is "emotional honesty", so guess I can't hide that.) I can't feign interest in things like gossip, either.

 

[Hadassah]

Oh yes, I fit the bill with almost all of them! I actually discovered this list the next day I got diagnosed (the severity of my Asperger is still awaiting diagnosis) and sent it to everyone I know, so that they'd understand me and Aspergers more and a few of them we're a bit annoyed, lol.