Feeling down and deflated

[Ben Dollery]

Hi Guys. Thank you for all your great replies on my previous post. It really is much appreciated.

I just wanted to share with you something I've noticed about me and the way I am, which I've always struggled to understand. I very often feel tired & lethargic and I seem to have a lack of energy and enthusiasm for things in general, apart from things I really like, but sometimes not even that. Sometimes my mood and the way I feel just seems to go down for reasons I'm not sure about.

I just wondered if anyone else on here has this happen with them, as I do remember reading some time ago that aspies and people on the spectrum can suffer from this, and I wonder if that's the case with me.

Also as well as being an aspie, I also have a stammer, which obviously makes talking, especially in certain situations, difficult and tiring for me as well. I do often find that on days when I've been talking a lot more than usual, I do seem to struggle, sometimes the day after, as I find it hard work.

I just wonder if any of you guys notice this?

Thanks.

 

[nowwhat]

Yeah, same here, except for my special interest of the moment.

 

[Hopeless_Aspie_Guy]

very often feel tired & lethargic and I seem to have a lack of energy and enthusiasm for things in general, apart from things I really like, but sometimes not even that.

These are symptoms of depression and yes I can relate to these having increasingly affected me these last 6yrs, depression and anxiety. I go through episodes of them and they eventually became severe.

 

[MrSpock]

I agree, it sounds like you have depression. I may still have a bit of depression, certainly I could be happier. However it's not nearly as bad as it was. My situation in life has changed for the better in several ways, so I have less reason to feel depressed. Also I found out that I am allergic to dairy products, and when I quit consuming them I became much less depressed very quickly. Quitting dairy also gave me more energy for exercise and made recovery from exercise quicker.

 

[xudo]

I've never actually been diagnosed with depression in my life, but I do have episodes like you've described. Usually I'm still very into my special interests, but sometimes I can't even muster the energy to care about these. I was going through a period recently of not being bothered about playing video games, even though I have a few I've either started, or have installed and never gotten round to. Today, I finally forced myself to start one that I'd downloaded free from games with gold...and now I don't want to stop playing it

 

[nowwhat]

LOL. I've been depressed for over a decade now. I don't know what keeps me on my feet. I honestly can't remember what normal is like.

 

[ladybug]

Hi Guys. Thank you for all your great replies on my previous post. It really is much appreciated.

I just wanted to share with you something I've noticed about me and the way I am, which I've always struggled to understand. I very often feel tired & lethargic and I seem to have a lack of energy and enthusiasm for things in general, apart from things I really like, but sometimes not even that. Sometimes my mood and the way I feel just seems to go down for reasons I'm not sure about.

I just wondered if anyone else on here has this happen with them, as I do remember reading some time ago that aspies and people on the spectrum can suffer from this, and I wonder if that's the case with me.

Also as well as being an aspie, I also have a stammer, which obviously makes talking, especially in certain situations, difficult and tiring for me as well. I do often find that on days when I've been talking a lot more than usual, I do seem to struggle, sometimes the day after, as I find it hard work.

I just wonder if any of you guys notice this?

Thanks.

This is very interesting... my bf is 'overloaded' with work, his brother, and now is soon to be ex sis in law arrived and is staying at his house.... he had complained of feeling 'rejected' and 'shut down'.... we've spoken a few times (as i'm trying to give him space)- but last night he sounded so 'flat' and 'low' that I've actually been thinking hes a bit depressed, as I dont think he has the 'skills' (and I dont mean that, as in hes not smart, or capable) but with all this upset and change to his routine that its really 'thrown' him into a 'withdrawl'.... does that sound like something that could happen, given the circumstances hes under....? or am I making excuese for him....??

 

[Ben Dollery]

This is very interesting... my bf is 'overloaded' with work, his brother, and now is soon to be ex sis in law arrived and is staying at his house.... he had complained of feeling 'rejected' and 'shut down'.... we've spoken a few times (as i'm trying to give him space)- but last night he sounded so 'flat' and 'low' that I've actually been thinking hes a bit depressed, as I dont think he has the 'skills' (and I dont mean that, as in hes not smart, or capable) but with all this upset and change to his routine that its really 'thrown' him into a 'withdrawl'.... does that sound like something that could happen, given the circumstances hes under....? or am I making excuese for him....??

 

[Judge]

This is very interesting... my bf is 'overloaded' with work, his brother, and now is soon to be ex sis in law arrived and is staying at his house.... he had complained of feeling 'rejected' and 'shut down'.... we've spoken a few times (as i'm trying to give him space)- but last night he sounded so 'flat' and 'low' that I've actually been thinking hes a bit depressed, as I dont think he has the 'skills' (and I dont mean that, as in hes not smart, or capable) but with all this upset and change to his routine that its really 'thrown' him into a 'withdrawl'.... does that sound like something that could happen, given the circumstances hes under....? or am I making excuese for him....??

In my own case I often try to compartmentalize my stress. If it overwhelms me, something has to give no matter how much I try to manage it. "Bad scene, baby!"

Reminds me of Jayne Cobb, when someone "damages his calm".

 

[Ben Dollery]

This is something I can quite understand, as I find when life is busy or stressful, and my normal routine is messed up, this is when I normally struggle to cope with things. Things that I can normally manage ok, then seem to become more difficult, and I feel that I'm not coping with things as well, but often people will tell me I am, which sometimes confuses me more. At these moments I feel like I want to just hide away from everything and wait until it passes or I feel more able to deal with what's happening.

I especially find it tough when there's a lot of noise and commotion going on around me, especially if it's something I'm not really keen on, then I get flustered and agitated and feel bad for people around me for being like this. Sometimes a day which is going ok, can quite quickly change in terms of how I feel and how I can approach things and then it depends on what's happening around me, as to how long it takes me to calm down again. I feel quite upset with things when this happens and automatically blame myself for feeling low. I hate it when this happens.

 

[ladybug]

In my own case I often try to compartmentalize my stress. If it overwhelms me, something has to give no matter how much I try to manage it. "Bad scene, baby!"

Reminds me of Jayne Cobb, when someone "damages his calm".

I would say he 'puts things in boxes' mentally to keep on top of things.... met up last night, and he seemed a little agitated at first but as the evening went on calmer, i let him tell me all about work and how mentally busy it is (in a good way as its his business) and sympathised with having his sis in law there as THAT is so stressful as she sings all the time and wants to talk and he says its never ending.... noise in the house when he only wants quiet.... but we had a clam time and i make him laugh and he could unload - he talked lots about the situation, which is quite unusual for him.... i then asked him not to text me that kind of text again (the one where he said he couldnt see a future, for us, due to my brothers lack of support for me) and he seemed not to have remembered initially sending it, then said ' oh that.... shhhh we're not talking about that anymore' i said 'ok, but but don't send me texts like that again, its hurtful..' then the conversation moved on...... do you think this was a 'meltdown' via text last week...? but he's 'through that now'... and so doesn't think it relevant.....?

 

[ladybug]

This is something I can quite understand, as I find when life is busy or stressful, and my normal routine is messed up, this is when I normally struggle to cope with things. Things that I can normally manage ok, then seem to become more difficult, and I feel that I'm not coping with things as well, but often people will tell me I am, which sometimes confuses me more. At these moments I feel like I want to just hide away from everything and wait until it passes or I feel more able to deal with what's happening.

I especially find it tough when there's a lot of noise and commotion going on around me, especially if it's something I'm not really keen on, then I get flustered and agitated and feel bad for people around me for being like this. Sometimes a day which is going ok, can quite quickly change in terms of how I feel and how I can approach things and then it depends on what's happening around me, as to how long it takes me to calm down again. I feel quite upset with things when this happens and automatically blame myself for feeling low. I hate it when this happens.

yes the noise thing seems familiar.... he hates that kind of upset and due to his sis in law staying with him at the moment.... the noise of someone else being in the house etc(she sings all the time and chatters away incessantly to him when he gets in from work - so he cant switch off or get to sleep, as she wants to talk..) he likes/needs routine and its not happening just now....