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Don't massage at work,crimney sakes

Aspychata

Aspychata

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So l have done a few threads on my current position which brings me to today's post.

Don't give massages or touch people at work. I don't care what kind of job l work, Don't Touch Me, ever.

It's very disconcerting to have complete strangers touch you, l am not your personal keyboard, do not touch me.

So this idiot is trying to drum up a girlfriend l guess by showing his massage technique. He was giving a female a massage near me. Also, l have had two woman come up and touch me, l feel very uncomfortable. What happened to social and personal boundaries at work? They need cameras in all work areas these days. This defintely tweaked my brain out and a huge gallon of ice cream is calling my name.

How would you handle this? I have a supervisor who won't do anything, a boss who is too nice, but the office manager may want to know. I feel l shouldn't say anything until l have given notice in 5 more weeks.
 
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You're on a tear tonight Judge, hahaha! You can put your finger on scenes in the blink of an eye! You must be our resident film expert, LOL.
 
I feel sorry for that lady. We have a right to not be (man-handled) touched at employment. I grew up in that era.

Truth be said: this guy is trying to hard to pick up, tonite he stared me down, on and on. He is supposedly trying to find a warm body to marry.

In my state, looking for a nurse with a purse is what someone said to me.
 
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It seems like you get sexually harassed and unwantedly romantically pursued at work and outside of it on a regular basis. Do you live in Texas or something? You need to learn kung fu and/or the ninja death stare. Let’s see that joker try to stare you down then.
 
I think because l am somewhat autistic, l find unwanted attention disarming, like l need to disarm you with my stare at forehead above your eyes, why l judo kick sense into your pants. This is called martial arts, spectrum style. I am going to open up studios in every state and franchise this idea. I am leaving this job in 7 weeks, so thankfully, my life will slow down finally.

The funny thing was l was harrassed by a female in a exercise class in LA. She wouldn't leave me alone and kept asking me if l was a model. I was nice because l wasn't sure if she was shy a happy meal upstairs.
 
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I would say that if you're leaving the job anyways, why bother saying anything.. It would just burn bridges unnecessarily...

That being said, I'm really good at burning bridges myself.... I mean, who doesn't like roasting a few marshmallows?
 
Get another job.....
But l am moving, so l decided l didn't need stress from job and stress from moving. After everybody's great input, l realize managing stress is important and to work around major things. So l have a place l will return to volunteering at, and then will reapply for work in my new town. Since silliness seems to be a part of my journey, l make time for it now and work with it, pencil it in my daily calendar.
 
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I have a colleague that touches me regularly. It’s nothing sexual and I know he just means to be friendly, but it makes me uncomfortable. It’s usually just a hand on my shoulder but one time he pinched my cheek (face, not butt ;) ). I think he meant it as a reassuring gesture because he regularly checks in on my well-being, but I don’t like the touching.
He also comments on my appearance a lot (“you look tired”, “you look ill”,“you look heated”, your hair is wet”, “ your hair is frizzy”). I think it’s intended to be a conversation starter but I don’t care for it. He’s old enough to be my dad so I’ll be generous and say he has some fatherly feelings towards me.
Still, I keep my office door closed in the morning so he doesn’t see me when he comes in, hoping he skips his morning greeting.

I also take care not to let people know when it’s my birthday because I don’t want people to kiss me. I forgot to close my door on my first day of work in the new year and got a barrage of colleagues wishing me a happy new year with three pecks on the cheek. Not my happiest day.
 
Aspychata said:
I think because l am somewhat autistic, l find unwanted attention disarming, like l need to disarm you with my stare at forehead above your eyes, why l judo kick sense into your pants. This is called martial arts, spectrum style. I am going to open up studios in every state and franchise this idea. I am leaving this job in 7 weeks, so thankfully, my life will slow down finally.

The funny thing was l was harrassed by a female in a exercise class in LA. She wouldn't leave me alone and kept asking me if l was a model. I was nice because l wasn't sure if she was shy a happy meal upstairs.
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Change your clothing your hairstyle it works for me if I put anything tight fitting on that's it it changes soon as I go back to loose I'm left alone they just don't have the intelligence to understand anything else
 
People have bad boundaries for a variety of reasons. I try to move ppl's hands away if I see them trying to pat my shoulder or arm or shift out of their reach. Not everyone we talk to has ill intent but you have to protect yourself and keep yourself from feeling uncomfortable.

Do I wish ppl weren't so grabby? Sure.

Is it likely being told to stop touching you will discourage them? Unlikely.

Seems like keeping away from old grabbyhands is the best policy. I try to keep about two feet between me and strangers at all times. When they close distance I slowly shift and if they keep closing it, I tell them I can hear them from where they are. Some ppl are just close talkers. Bleh.
 
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People have bad boundaries for a variety of reasons. I try to move ppl's hands away if I see them trying to pat my shoulder or arm or shift out of their reach. Not everyone we talk to has ill intent but you have to protect yourself and keep yourself from feeling uncomfortable.

Do I wish ppl weren't so grabby? Sure.

Is it likely being told to stop touching you will discourage them? Unlikely.

Seems like keeping away from old grabbyhands is the best policy. I try to keep about two feet between me and strangers at all times. When they close distance I slowly shift and if they keep closing it, I tell them I can hear them from where they are. Some ppl are just close talkers. Bleh.
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could you afford a body camera the police have them for the very same reason that you need them
 
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could you afford a body camera the police have them for the very same reason that you need them
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I think a lot of people would object to being filmed with a body cam on a daily basis at work. I think it would only cause more trouble. It would be impossible at my job because I work with sensitive information.
 
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I'm not scared of ppl touching me. I prefer they don't and have been in confrontations with strangers before. They usually just yell a little and go away yelling. As long as you don't touch my face, I'm fine.
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The problem is people are so litigious today They would brazenly steal something as an example and if you prevent them or try to ,they will say I will sue you, so somebody could touch you for whatever reason and if you try to prevent them from touching you they could accuse you of trying to assault them especially if you’re working in something like the nursing home a body camera would be a boon
 
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