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Yes it is painful. I am going through a trauma battle but somehow my body always feels like is held captive and considering how mean people can be on appearance it is very painful for me. I cannot cope with being a victim on my appearance I just want to be me.
You’re welcome and I love you too. I’m also sorry for what you’re going through.
I agree. There is a huge difference in complementing someone on their looks. Mostly when it comes down to things about their look they have control over. Like clothing, hair, makeup, how fit you look. Because it acknowledges effort that was put in. Sometimes it can be because of something that is beyond someones control. Sometimes I will compliment someone on their looks when they compare themselves physically with someone else in a negative way. For example. I ones had a girl tell me boys didn`t like her because she had small breast and no butt. And that is what boys care about. Ofcourse I first told her that the boys that only care about that are not worth having as a boyfriend. But I also asked her is she ever looked at her legs. Because those were really beautiful to kind of lift her mood and self esteem physically.
Certain cultures are barbaric, I mean a big strong man to protect you, but if he is a head taller or more then baby won't fit and torn sphincter isn't considered a disability, women never quite got sick leave....and chances are he wants sex in less than 6 weeks and may want more babies, so nurse has to see that she must cut before hand, but you can't cut that far so it's inevitably going to tear on next siblings. Then famous husband stitch which was only recently banned, imagine you a women and these are types of men who can't invent any decent systems. And this isn't mentioning wife beating or serial killers. There's also incontinence after child birth and men ever complain that women die less often from virus and need less sick leave. Then there is system of labola where women are sold like cattle but it's father who inherits wealth.
Wow that escelated really fast. I don`t get what any of what you just said had to do with what I was talking about. I could cite a whole list of things where men have it worse than women but I really don`t see the point. And that was never my point of telling my story. It was not to show men have it worse. It was to show it is not a one sided issue, as it is often portrayed to be.
Yes looks and the way people judge them and the way people put people in boxes over them is wrong. It is right regardless people will more receptive to others who put in effort and have confidence but if you do not then it is ok too for good-looking people as well not just less fortunate looking people.
