FlowerChild
Well-Known Member
I've been wondering if this is an Autistic thing (I'm also alexithymic so it could be that too).
I find that often times, my emotions seem to be 'switched off' or put into 'maintenance mode'. For months, I will feel content, normal, average, and even when very emotionally charged things are happening around me, life seems good overall. It seems like I don't feel the emotional consequences of these significant events / occurrences at the appropriate time.
This is particularly so when the emotions are complex or not 'obvious' (i.e. I feel happy, content, irritated, etc. on a daily basis; but more complex emotions like 'nostalgia' 'homesickness' or 'heartbreak' seem to evade me on a daily basis, and then come in massive bursts later on). It seems like often, something overtly upsetting will happen, which provokes an intense emotional response to, say, 'obvious stimuli A', and then once my emotions 'switch on' I'll feel all the delayed reactions to 'complex Stimuli' B, C, D, E, and so on, all at the same time.
For example, in the last few months, I've reconnected with a former love interest after many years of distance--and while I was happy to catch up, I didn't have an overly intense emotional response at the time. I've also been struggling with watching my mother go through health challenges, and I've been very stressed at work. Despite all this, I've just plugged along feeling content overall, and really enjoying my life.
Then this morning, I had a bit of a let down after finding out that an event that I was going to attend was sold out. When I found out I burst into tears--just absolutely sobbing and hyperventilating. Suddenly I felt very sad about my (years old) heartbreak, worried about my mom, and sad that work has been so awful lately. All of these emotions just hit me at the same time, and I kept crying for hours. I even felt deep grief over the death of my grandmother, who passed 6 years ago now.
I didn't even know I'd been feeling some of these emotions, but they all fell one after another like dominoes. Now I just feel down and cried-out. But just like always, I'm sure that tomorrow I'll wake up and go back to normal. Does this happen to any of you too? Is this an Autistic thing; do neurotypicals sort of 'space out' their complex emotions and feel them on a daily basis?
I find that often times, my emotions seem to be 'switched off' or put into 'maintenance mode'. For months, I will feel content, normal, average, and even when very emotionally charged things are happening around me, life seems good overall. It seems like I don't feel the emotional consequences of these significant events / occurrences at the appropriate time.
This is particularly so when the emotions are complex or not 'obvious' (i.e. I feel happy, content, irritated, etc. on a daily basis; but more complex emotions like 'nostalgia' 'homesickness' or 'heartbreak' seem to evade me on a daily basis, and then come in massive bursts later on). It seems like often, something overtly upsetting will happen, which provokes an intense emotional response to, say, 'obvious stimuli A', and then once my emotions 'switch on' I'll feel all the delayed reactions to 'complex Stimuli' B, C, D, E, and so on, all at the same time.
For example, in the last few months, I've reconnected with a former love interest after many years of distance--and while I was happy to catch up, I didn't have an overly intense emotional response at the time. I've also been struggling with watching my mother go through health challenges, and I've been very stressed at work. Despite all this, I've just plugged along feeling content overall, and really enjoying my life.
Then this morning, I had a bit of a let down after finding out that an event that I was going to attend was sold out. When I found out I burst into tears--just absolutely sobbing and hyperventilating. Suddenly I felt very sad about my (years old) heartbreak, worried about my mom, and sad that work has been so awful lately. All of these emotions just hit me at the same time, and I kept crying for hours. I even felt deep grief over the death of my grandmother, who passed 6 years ago now.
I didn't even know I'd been feeling some of these emotions, but they all fell one after another like dominoes. Now I just feel down and cried-out. But just like always, I'm sure that tomorrow I'll wake up and go back to normal. Does this happen to any of you too? Is this an Autistic thing; do neurotypicals sort of 'space out' their complex emotions and feel them on a daily basis?