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Do you ever worry people will think you're hitting on them when you're not?

Discussion in 'Friends, Family & Social Skills' started by scarletnymph, Jun 11, 2021.

  1. watersprite

    watersprite inadvertent vagabond V.I.P Member

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    I think that basically that we use far different criteria to assess the world, including people, than do most neurotypical people.

    Also some of them are purposely manipulating others, including us.

    So if we’re basing our words and actions in a sort of altruistic kindness, we are going to be seen as being at a disadvantage as well as vulnerable.

    It’s not just for romantic purposes of course. Some of this is outright nasty bullying or worse.

    On the other hand, there are lots of good people out there and hopefully we will bump into them. :)
     
  2. scarletnymph

    scarletnymph Active Member

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    I've met a small number of people I think I can really trust ... others I can trust as much as our interests overlap ... and then many I just don't really trust at all ... particularly after the past year and half has revealed just how selfish and hateful people can be.

    I definitely want to talk about our vulnerability and tendency to attract abusers, but its not really on-topic for this thread. We'll save it for the next one. ;)
     
  3. Totallysteff

    Totallysteff I'm not sick. I'm just weird! V.I.P Member

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    I once had a man in his late 30’s tell me he thought I was interested in him because I smiled at him.:eek: